Moved On To Fast

[AbyssalLight7]

So during my senior year I got into a relationship with a Bi junior guy, it was a good relationship, we lasted 9 months. I am now a University Freshman, about a 2 hour drive away, and he's a senior now. He dumped me in the middle of election night last week. (I live in the USA) His basic reasoning was because the distance was hard. There was a bit more to it, but that's the gist of his reasoning. That was 10 days ago. Turns out he's been in a relationship with this girl for about a week. That means he waited 3 days tops after the breakup. More-so, I know he talked to her often when we were together, though I dismissed it as friendship. Can't be suspicious of everyone, right? Though, I had heard rumors that his previous relationship failed because he tried getting with his current girlfriend while with someone else. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

Sure, we weren't perfect, and there were a lot of bad signs, but we didn't ignore them. If something seemed off with us I would bring it up and we would try to work through it. So many time's he reassured me how much he loved me and cared about me, despite being a poor conversationalist.

I know I did my best in our relationship, and I invested so much emotion in him. I can say with certainty that I was truly in love, and probably still am. On a side note, he has my virginity.

Now, despite all his reassurances while we were together, I don't know if he ever really cared, or if it was more of a lust thing for him. My intuition tells me he didn't really care, though I have nothing particularly solid to go on.

I'm just really distraught and not sure how to react... It's hard.

[Just JT]

Yeah breakups like that are hard, not that I know I've only had I significant and we're still together (right now).
Way I see it is like this. You'll never know, unless you ask him, and he might tell you the truth, and he might not. And you might struggle with that.
You can simply accept one way or the other, and more than likely always question it.
Or just accept that it was a HS thing that didn't work out for what ever reason and move on
Yeah you probably did or do have feeling for him and phony can or should stop that. It he's found someone else, and in the end, he had enough respect for you to. Real
Up for what ever reason before the new relationship got Outa control and hurt you.
Just take it for face value and try and get past it and just remember all the good times
You guys had together. You'll be wondering all the shoulda coulda wouldas forever

[Taryn98]

You'll never really know what he thought or how he felt. Best thing to do is enjoy the good memories you shared together and move on to bigger and better things. Long distance rarely works out. When you feel comfortable, you should try to meet someone new that's at school with you that you can see more often.

[ska8er]

U sure it wasn't over politics? I'm
joking so don't take it a different way.
Call him or text him and say u know he
has a girlfriend now but r the two of u
still friends and if yes then go easy with
him but I would look for someone else
just to get over the hurt in case he says
no or doesn't answer u-don't let anyone
take advantage of u if he decides the girl
thing doesn't work out and wants u back.
Learn from experience.

[lliam]

I'm just really distraught and not sure how to react... It's hard.



true. very hard. but in the end, when he didn't care, so why should you care now?

[jamie_n5]

Well you being gay a he being Bi those kind of things can happen. I am sure that he genuinely cared for you and thought you were great. He probably leans further toward girls than guys. Your relationship sadly enough could have been a test for how he truly feels sexuality wise. I am sorry you had to go through that and get hurt. But many people go through many relationships before they find the right person. My suggestion would be to find an other totally gay guy and that would be the best.