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[Space]

So for the record I'm 15 she's almost 15. So I'm a huge gamer and recently met this girl on a voice communications. She's super nice and we talk to each other about lots of stuff. We use text and voice chat. recently some sexual stuff. But, I have had friends with online relationships but I don't know about them. I know she's in to me too. She lives on the compelete opposite of the country (US). I just really love her personality and just the way she is not to mention we met through video games. I know know about creeps behind screens. Besides that what should I do does anyone have any experience with online dating? Tips or suggestions?

[ImCoolBeans]

I have a bit of first hand experience with online relationships, and have had many friends who have been in them as well. I will probably never seek out an online relationship again, but I really can't say that with 100% certainty because you don't really know what the future holds. My online relationship left me with a lot of disappointment, hurt feelings, and made me feel like I was not always being told the truth. However, I cannot speak for all people in online relationships. I'm sure there are many people out there who started dating long distance or online, and ended up happy together. As a 15 year old I do urge you to be cautious in pursuing an online relationship because it is incredibly easy to say one thing when you really mean the opposite, especially when you can do so while hiding behind a screen. It's also very easy to idealize somebody who you are in an online relationship with -- especially considering that you've never met face to face. Consider whether you actually like this person or if you are actually just falling in love with the idea of this person, and what your imagination has filled in the gaps with. I don't want to completely discourage you, but these are some serious factors to consider.

[Plane And Simple]

I have a bit of first hand experience with online relationships, and have had many friends who have been in them as well. I will probably never seek out an online relationship again, but I really can't say that with 100% certainty because you don't really know what the future holds. My online relationship left me with a lot of disappointment, hurt feelings, and made me feel like I was not always being told the truth. However, I cannot speak for all people in online relationships. I'm sure there are many people out there who started dating long distance or online, and ended up happy together. As a 15 year old I do urge you to be cautious in pursuing an online relationship because it is incredibly easy to say one thing when you really mean the opposite, especially when you can do so while hiding behind a screen. It's also very easy to idealize somebody who you are in an online relationship with -- especially considering that you've never met face to face. Consider whether you actually like this person or if you are actually just falling in love with the idea of this person, and what your imagination has filled in the gaps with. I don't want to completely discourage you, but these are some serious factors to consider.

I actually want to add to this a little by sharing some experience. A friend of mine was in an online relationship not long ago, and those two bits i bolded out were key to failure. People tend to have a habit of not trusting each other when they don't see what the other is doing eveyr now and again, which is somewhat normal, but this, in an online relationship, is much, much worse. Take into account you'll probably not see them in months, and so a LOT of trust is required, and most of us, I guess, are not ready to give that. Also, second bolded bit, this actually holds really true to most of relationships, you think "wow, he/she is cool", only to meet them and say "well okay, she/he's got his querks", Those little things you don't see in an online relationship, which can lead you to start something you wouldn't otherwise start "in real life". As such, and judging by the experience my mate had, I would be extremely careful when approaching an online relationship, because from what i've seen, you don't have the good stuff, but can end up with all the bad things.

[Space]

I actually want to add to this a little by sharing some experience. A friend of mine was in an online relationship not long ago, and those two bits i bolded out were key to failure. People tend to have a habit of not trusting each other when they don't see what the other is doing eveyr now and again, which is somewhat normal, but this, in an online relationship, is much, much worse. Take into account you'll probably not see them in months, and so a LOT of trust is required, and most of us, I guess, are not ready to give that. Also, second bolded bit, this actually holds really true to most of relationships, you think "wow, he/she is cool", only to meet them and say "well okay, she/he's got his querks", Those little things you don't see in an online relationship, which can lead you to start something you wouldn't otherwise start "in real life". As such, and judging by the experience my mate had, I would be extremely careful when approaching an online relationship, because from what i've seen, you don't have the good stuff, but can end up with all the bad things.

I have a bit of first hand experience with online relationships, and have had many friends who have been in them as well. I will probably never seek out an online relationship again, but I really can't say that with 100% certainty because you don't really know what the future holds. My online relationship left me with a lot of disappointment, hurt feelings, and made me feel like I was not always being told the truth. However, I cannot speak for all people in online relationships. I'm sure there are many people out there who started dating long distance or online, and ended up happy together. As a 15-year-old I do urge you to be cautious in pursuing an online relationship because it is incredibly easy to say one thing when you really mean the opposite, especially when you can do so while hiding behind a screen. It's also very easy to idealize somebody who you are in an online relationship with -- especially considering that you've never met face to face. Consider whether you actually like this person or if you are actually just falling in love with the idea of this person, and what your imagination has filled in the gaps with. I don't want to completely discourage you, but these are some serious factors to consider.

Thank you guys for the advice. I think I'll just build a strong friendship with her. Most of my life I've have best friends online and still know and talk to them over 4 years to now. My longest one thinking about starting up company in the US (He lives on the other side of the world) when we're 18. I will definitely be careful moving forward with herbut with what Plane said I realise she could just disappear and you can't do anything. I'm not ready to handle that. Thank you guys.

[Plane And Simple]

Thank you guys for the advice. I think I'll just build a strong friendship with her. Most of my life I've have best friends online and still know and talk to them over 4 years to now. My longest one thinking about starting up company in the US (He lives on the other side of the world) when we're 18. I will definitely be careful moving forward with herbut with what Plane said I realise she could just disappear and you can't do anything. I'm not ready to handle that. Thank you guys.

Thing is as you said, it can disappear completely in a matter of minutes. I've had that with online friendships (not relationships) and they took a huge toll on my I'm still paying to this day. I just want everyone to not make the same mistakes I have, because the time that comes after, to me, was my toughest ever. I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, just be ready for everything

[Melodic]

I was also in an LDR when I was your age. I was actually against having an LDR but I knew the guy personally before he moved 800 miles away so I thought it was "different". But. It didn't manage to work for us. We both lacked trust and communication skills which is actually quite common for teenagers in LDRs.

[brandon9]

I don't know if you could call this a true LDR or online relationship, but when I was 14 I met a girl who was a few months older than me named Katie at the Outer Banks, and it turned out she was Canadian. The week we were both at the beach we were together pretty much nonstop, then she left a few days before I did and we kept in touch over text and etc. Got to know her very well and every year her and her family would wind up at the beach the same time mine did, up until this year (she had surgery and thus they didn't go). So her and I saw each other for about a week a year for three years.

We didn't ever declare being in a relationship, because we both knew it was impossible, but we did become very close. We both have tried stuff with other people, had it not work, etc etc, and we certainly have had some questionable interactions (both virtual and real), but the cool thing is that we met 4 years ago and still talk pretty frequently now. You may not want to "date" this girl, but do focus on building that friendship, provided she's genuine - if I can meet a girl from Ottawa and have her become one of my only real friends, you can achieve the same with some work!

[Muddy Sneakers]

Space: sounds right. Be careful since with a purely online relationship by definition you can't know everything, and besides, what's it going to lead to? Far better to invest your emotional energy in a romance with someone at school , that's just way more natural and satisfying.

[AutumnWinds]

So for the record I'm 15 she's almost 15. So I'm a huge gamer and recently met this girl on my Discord (Like teamspeak). She's super nice and we talk to each other about lots of stuff. We use text and voice chat. recently some sexual stuff. But, I have had friends with online relationships but I don't know about them. I know she's in to me too. She lives on the compelete opposite of the country (US). I just really love her personality and just the way she is not to mention we met through video games. I know know about creeps behind screens. Besides that what should I do does anyone have any experience with online dating? Tips or suggestions?

it's so, so hard to keep something going long distance. literally everything besides the fat that you like them and vice versa is against you. the odds of it working out are horrible.

that being said, the odds of anyone our age marrying the person they're with are not exactly good either, so knowing that, why not try it? i'm a firm believer in it being better to regret what one does than what one does not do.