I feel worthless at everything - including cutting

[myfoodisnotshared]

Does anyone else feel that they cut for rubbish reasons? I came on this site to try and stop, but it seems everyone else started younger, has much better reasons for cutting, far fewer resources to help them stop... the list goes on. My life is so good in comparison to so many other people, I guess I just want to know if anyone else feels worthless about why they cut.

I don't know what to do. I keep trying to reach out on sites like this, or charities with email services, but they just make me feel worse and drive me to cut more. I can't talk to my family, but my cutting keeps getting worse and worse. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

[PurpleLips]

I do. Listening to other peoples stories makes me feel stupid and guilty, which makes me want to cut more!

[myfoodisnotshared]

I do. Listening to other peoples stories makes me feel stupid and guilty, which makes me want to cut more!

I know, right? I just feel that every time I hear about someone else cutting because of abuse or something like that, the idea of telling someone slips further away. I don't want to be that person that's so pathetic they cut without reason too, but that just makes me cut more too!

Do you ever feel like you're going in circles? I get it all the time.

Thanks for replying:-) I think the only worse thing than not being noticed is not being listened to when you go right out there and say it... It's really nice to hear from someone else who feels the same way.

[PurpleLips]

I know, right? I just feel that every time I hear about someone else cutting because of abuse or something like that, the idea of telling someone slips further away. I don't want to be that person that's so pathetic they cut without reason too, but that just makes me cut more too!

Do you ever feel like you're going in circles? I get it all the time.

Thanks for replying:-) I think the only worse thing than not being noticed is not being listened to when you go right out there and say it... It's really nice to hear from someone else who feels the same way.




Yh thats exactly how i feel!

No problem, and yh its nice to talk to someone:)

[ksdnfkfr]

You both just gave perfectly acceptable reasons for cutting, if there even is such a thing. Life is tough on everyone. I can give you a list of problems I have and things I suffer with, that would fit your bill of someone who has "real problems". And someone else can come along and "top that" hands down. So what are we supposed to conclude? That only the people who have absolutely rock bottom worst lives have the "right" to be miserable? It doesn't work that way. Your reasons are not rubbish.

[Deiform]

I feel the exact opposite sometimes! Sometimes reading what others go through makes me feel empowered to be better. I sometimes feel like im not alone, like there is other people that are going through this. But yes, sometimes it does feel like my problems are not important and that they have it worse.

[myfoodisnotshared]

You both just gave perfectly acceptable reasons for cutting, if there even is such a thing. Life is tough on everyone. I can give you a list of problems I have and things I suffer with, that would fit your bill of someone who has "real problems". And someone else can come along and "top that" hands down. So what are we supposed to conclude? That only the people who have absolutely rock bottom worst lives have the "right" to be miserable? It doesn't work that way. Your reasons are not rubbish.

Really, that means a lot to me - to have someone put it into context.

Sometimes it feels like it's not about the 'right' though, however reassuring your points are. I know I'm miserable, logical or not, but that doesn't make me deserving of any kind of sympathy. There will always be someone ahead of the queue, but sometimes it feels like if I showed up in the metaphorical line of trying to get help, I'd get pushed right out of the door. I've been given so much in life. It wouldn't be just to give me more.

Sorry for the unloading:-( I am super grateful that you were so kind and replied, it's not that you're wrong - the logical side of me agrees completely - it's just another part of me can't accept that you're right.

[Karkat]

Does anyone else feel that they cut for rubbish reasons? I came on this site to try and stop, but it seems everyone else started younger, has much better reasons for cutting, far fewer resources to help them stop... the list goes on. My life is so good in comparison to so many other people, I guess I just want to know if anyone else feels worthless about why they cut.

I don't know what to do. I keep trying to reach out on sites like this, or charities with email services, but they just make me feel worse and drive me to cut more. I can't talk to my family, but my cutting keeps getting worse and worse. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

Hey listen, the reasons you cut and the resources you have do not matter. It doesn't matter if they're big or small.

The thing that matters is that you feel you need help. Don't let anyone make you feel that you just need to deal with it, or 'you're fine', or 'other people have it worse', including yourself. Don't ever feel like you need to invalidate your pain, because if you feel it, it's absolutely valid. Ok?

I'm not exactly full of advice right now, and I wish I could help more than I do, but I just wanted to let you know that you have every right to feel the way you do. Your pain isn't less significant than someone else's pain. Pain is pain. We need to focus on getting over it, not comparing, because yeah, there will always be someone out there who will have it worse. Does that mean we should feel guilty for feeling the way we do? Absolutely not. Ok?