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death-metal
February 21st, 2014, 11:28 AM
Hey VT!
I'm back again with another complicated post. Hope you guys don't mind. And it might be very long.

So this girl I really have very strong feelings for and I have been very very (veryx10) close. I've told her how I felt about her and she said I was special to her too. She broke up with her boyfriend weeks ago and even though he tried coming back, they weren't actually back together. But like 5-6 days ago, she started to ignore me, completely! She acts like she doesn't even know that I exist. On monday evening, she texted me
"Why are you making my life so complicated? You know I love him but why did you try to come in the middle and ruin our relationship? If that was what you wanted then I guess you're happy now!! I hate you! I haaaatttteeee yoouuu ssooo muuuccchhhh!!!"
I asked her what happened and I said "You know I'll never ever do this. What's wrong with you?" and she asked me to leave her alone.
After an hour or so, her "best friend" posted "Hey! Don't be sad! I told you this before but you didn't listen to me." and the comments read:
She: sorry love! Thanks for telling me this! I don't know what stupid things I'd of done if it you didn't say this to me. Love you!
Best friend: Don't worry love! Did you block him?
She: Yeah!
So I figured put that her friend had something to do with this. We've talked like for 2 times. Also the girl I like would never say something like this directly. We used to talk things out and most of the times it worked. Sometimes, she'd just act differently.
I was using my phone at that time. I checked to see if my "main account" was blocked and it was!
I guess she forgot that she has both my IDs in her friend list.( I use my old account from my phone.)
And after an hour of staring at my computer screen, I found out that her best friend too has blocked me.

Now what am I suppose to do? She was my only friend. I think about her like all the time. I'm giving her some space but I don't know how long I can do that. Any suggestions? I need your help. Thanks!!

PerpetualMotionSquad
February 21st, 2014, 12:37 PM
I have no time for people like that. Find another friend buddy you're better than her. As long as you honestly didn't get in the way of her relationship you've done nothing wrong. If she was your closet friend and she's listening to another friend over you then she didn't feel the same way about you. Sorry :(

radsniper
February 21st, 2014, 06:31 PM
there are two options 1 forget everything about her. 2 find a way around the friend if she has a boyfriend go to him because(unless he is in on this)he might get her to cool down on the subject if she is single there are two options 1 date her but falsely so that she sees that you and the girl you actually like are compatable but not in a way that she hates you 2 find her a compatable man and set it up she will respect you and give what is pretty much her blessing for the girl

radsniper
February 21st, 2014, 06:41 PM
sorry to double post my device only allows a certian number of characters in other words this protective friend needs someone to protect her if all else fails(THIS IS A VERY BAD IDEA)you could break her by finding out why she is so protective be very careful nobody starts that protective unless something happened(if you know what i mean it really is sad) but she could also be protective if YOU are actually the problem

hope i was heipful

death-metal
February 21st, 2014, 11:29 PM
I have no time for people like that. Find another friend buddy you're better than her. As long as you honestly didn't get in the way of her relationship you've done nothing wrong. If she was your closet friend and she's listening to another friend over you then she didn't feel the same way about you. Sorry :(
I can't! I love her :/
I didn't. They broke up themselves.
there are two options 1 forget everything about her. 2 find a way around the friend if she has a boyfriend go to him because(unless he is in on this)he might get her to cool down on the subject if she is single there are two options 1 date her but falsely so that she sees that you and the girl you actually like are compatable but not in a way that she hates you 2 find her a compatable man and set it up she will respect you and give what is pretty much her blessing for the girl
Like I said, they broke up! She is single now. Dating her is off the list man! She'd think I was after her from the beginning. And no, she said she won't be dating any random guy her friends will hook her up with.
sorry to double post my device only allows a certian number of characters in other words this protective friend needs someone to protect her if all else fails(THIS IS A VERY BAD IDEA)you could break her by finding out why she is so protective be very careful nobody starts that protective unless something happened(if you know what i mean it really is sad) but she could also be protective if YOU are actually the problem

hope i was heipful

She was on her period. That's the only thing I know that happened lol. Like I said, I had nothing to do with her relationship. They broke up themsleves.

radsniper
February 22nd, 2014, 01:29 AM
sorry i wasn't any help

death-metal
February 22nd, 2014, 02:56 AM
sorry i wasn't any help

Its okay mate! You tried to... :)

AlanPeanuts
February 22nd, 2014, 06:41 AM
This girl you like, is too much of a follower, it makes for a lot of convoluted arguments, problems, and even issues with the law. When you get in a relationship you'll probably get tired of her quickly, because of how frustrating her following you will be, or her following someone else. Also, you said you can't leave her, but you can't date her, then you have to choose one. It sounds like you've invested a lot in your friendship, which isn't always good... Even when you're in a relationship with someone you need other friends and people around you. Even if you don't leave her totally, make some new friends to buffer yourself if you two get in an argument or fight.

death-metal
February 22nd, 2014, 01:48 PM
This girl you like, is too much of a follower, it makes for a lot of convoluted arguments, problems, and even issues with the law. When you get in a relationship you'll probably get tired of her quickly, because of how frustrating her following you will be, or her following someone else. Also, you said you can't leave her, but you can't date her, then you have to choose one. It sounds like you've invested a lot in your friendship, which isn't always good... Even when you're in a relationship with someone you need other friends and people around you. Even if you don't leave her totally, make some new friends to buffer yourself if you two get in an argument or fight.

I'm sorry bro but I didn't get you. Follower in like..?! And what law? Sorry if you think I'm being rude but I seriously didn't get what you're trying to say..except for that make new friends part.

Melodic
February 23rd, 2014, 12:38 AM
Any girl who listens to what everyone thinks shouldn't be a interest to you whatsoever.. She seems to accept others opinions than her own, and in the long run it will hurt you and others close to her. It's just too much drama and hurt for any person to deal with.. So honestly, I don't think you're losing much..