Extreme Guilt

[Vegas2933]

So around 3 years ago, me and my close friend ended up jerking off together (separate). Throughout the rest of the day, we barely spoke a word and the next day we didn't speak at all. He moved away shortly after and we never spoke again. Until recently when I met him at my youth club and we got talking. What I want to know is, was/is it normal to feel so guilty after experimenting?

[ska8er]

I don't c it experimenting-u didn't jerk
each other off-u did it separately, There
was or is no reason for u to feel quilt. Now
that u met him again the two of u may feel
uncomfortable but if u get to talk to him I
would not bring up what was done in the
past-that was then and now is now-get to
know him again as a friend and that's all.
Don't think bout it.

[Hermes]

I guess you have grown up with the expecation that masturbation is something to be done "in private" but that is by way of an opposite to "in public". It doesn't necessarily mean that no-one else should ever be present, more that you should not impose it on other people which you would be if you did it say, on a park bench or in the lounge in front of the family.

If you are your friend are on the same page there is no reason why you should feel guilty about it.

Also, the passage of time may mean he isn't thinking about that now. Presumably you have other things in common, that's why you were friends in the first place, so you pick up again on those.

[jamie_n5]

I would see no reason to feel guilty at all. You both obviously had never even compared with an other guy and obviously never experimented with someone. It is normal for most teens out of curiosity and hormones to experiment with others. You and he were both two guys that had never done this before and for some reason thought that what you did was wrong and felt guilty. Forgive yourself and move on. There was no shame or guilt in what you did. It was just part of growing up.

[steellord321]

That's really not experimenting. I could see it being awkward, my friend and me both jerked to porn in the same room. That's probably what it was is awkward especially if you didn't see each other naked much before. Like my friend and me only peed together before. But just like with that, we pretended we didn't see anything and it never happened. Months later i asked my friend about it cause he stopped having us watch porn and he pretended he never noticed me jerking off. Obviously that's a lie but you could do that...break the ice but also act like you never saw anything

[zzzzzzzzzz]

You have nothing to feel guilty about. Some boys do these things and enjoy it and some don't. It's good you have both met up again. If you feel the need to ask him about it, go for it. Otherwise don't worry about it unless he asks you.

[Muddy Sneakers]

short answer - it's OK to feel guilty after that, but it's nothing you should get upset about.

longer answer - some guys might have felt perfectly comfortable doing what you both did and others might have felt it very awkward or even wrong, so that all seems in the range of normal to me, just depends on your personal beliefs etc. So I wouldn't get worried about the fact that you felt guilty, nor do I think you NEED to feel guilty. Just resume your friendship. If you both want to talk about it again, fine, and if you never mention it again, that's OK too.

[niklas]

Not sure that there's a "normal" for it. It just depends on how you and he felt at the time. For some guys it's no big deal, for others it can be awkward and others feel guilty for their own reasons. I'd say that if you're cool with re-starting your friendship and he is too, then that's cool. Time has passed and you've both moved on from there.

[Curious_Guy]

What I want to know is, was/is it normal to feel so guilty after experimenting?
In answer to your question, there is no reason nor need to feel guilty about what you did. It's a normal thing for guys to do and you'd be amazed at how many guys actually do it together. I think it was more your friend who felt guilty or weird about jerking with you, because he stopped talking to you. If you do start talking at your youth club let him bring it up otherwise leave it buried, I'm sure he'll bring it up anyway. Just may take him time, and when he does just keep an open mind about what he says.
I've had awkward moments, like the first time I jerked off with my best friend, after we finished we had about 5mins of awkward silence but then seeing we are best friends we talked about it and it was no longer an issue between us.
End of the day you did a totally normal thing and don't feel guilty about what you did. Or let your friend make you feel bad either about it.

I would see no reason to feel guilty at all. You both obviously had never even compared with an other guy and obviously never experimented with someone. It is normal for most teens out of curiosity and hormones to experiment with others. You and he were both two guys that had never done this before and for some reason thought that what you did was wrong and felt guilty. Forgive yourself and move on. There was no shame or guilt in what you did. It was just part of growing up.

Exactly !! It's a normal part of life and growing up.

Merging double posts - please use the edit/multiquote functions next time. ~Lost Horizon

[dude_g]

It's normal and it's fine

[boytoynamedtroy]

So around 3 years ago, me and my close friend ended up jerking off together (separate). Throughout the rest of the day, we barely spoke a word and the next day we didn't speak at all. He moved away shortly after and we never spoke again. Until recently when I met him at my youth club and we got talking. What I want to know is, was/is it normal to feel so guilty after experimenting?

I've jerked off with quite a few of my friends, and I can say people just process that kind of stuff differently. Some are open about it, while others feel awkward. If you and your friend are uncomfortable about the subject, then just avoid it when you two are talking. But there's no reason to completely stop talking to each other. :)

[ashdaniel]

That what happened when u jerk off with friend, either you two closer or one of them get awkward and start move away. It is normal for people to react differently in this situation. Imagine some friend mutually jerk off each other and even oral. So U are okay.

[Zachary G]

guilt after experimentation is pretty normal because you feel like you have done something wrong when in all actuality you didnt. Now that some time has passed and you are talking again, dont bring it up unless he does, just leave it in the past because there isnt anything you can do to change it. Just leave the past in the past and move forward.