I don't know what to do?

[orangeyes]

Ok so this a little follow up on my last thread "Help I'm really confused!", I'm just going to do a little recap : I've been talking to a guy since the begging of the month, we met and had sex (I went to my school's nursery and I'm STD-Free), realized he had a boyfriend, told me it isn't going well with him etc.
So we met a few more times since then, him and his boyfriend it isn't going any better and I think it's even worse the way he told me.. I told him I liked him and kissed, he later told me he does have feelings for me too. But like they are still together but he's not doing anything, so I'm just chilling here waiting. What should I do? I want him and he wants me :confused:

[ska8er]

If things r not going well together with he
and his b/f y r they still together. I would
still b friends with him but watch what he
does and I would not have sex with him
again until I know that he no longer has
feelings for his b/f since things r worse
with him. He just may be using u-don't
get hurt.

[ClaraWho]

My answer hasn't changed since your last post, when I pointed out how he is using you for sex.

Things to consider;
- Irrespective of how things are going with his boyfriend, you are knowingly helping someone be unfaithful and cheat. Karma is a bitch, so watch your back. That's an extremely immoral thing to be doing.
- He has no intention of leaving his partner. When you say 'things aren't going well for them', the obvious implication is that they are trying to make it work. Otherwise they would have split up already.
- Whilst giving him cake and letting him eat it, to have both as it were, there's no incentive for him to end either situation when both are gratifying him. You can only force that capitulation by not providing what he wants - namely sex and admiration.

Aside from the relationship you should try to get out more, get involved in other activities so you can broaden your horizons and potentially meet someone more stable, decent. And ask yourself why you are letting yourself be used this way. Is it a self-esteem issue you think so little of yourself?

~ Clara

[jamie_n5]

I think you need to back off until they breakup. If he doesn't break it off with his boyfriend then I think you better move on and look for someone else.