I have a crush on a friend... help

[Endling]

Hey everyone!

So as you can read in the title, i have developed a crish on a friend over the past couple of weeks...

Me: male, 16yo who never had a girlfriend... just so you know

We have been classmates and semifriends (hang out with the same people but just dont talk all that much with eachother) for about 1.5 years now. We were both at a party where we both had other friends but we decided to just stick with eachother for the rest of the night. We have been talking dancing and all that jazz for the entiere night... until we both went home seperatly (I still considered her just a friend then).

The day after she started sending me snaps of random faces/things and we have built up a snap streak from that date ( we never snapped before but still, a snap streak is not a big deal). Every day when I get home from school and my wifi connects I get a snap from her, its the firdt thing she does when she gets home... I really started developing a feeling for her from that point.

We started talking and hanging out way more often and yesterday at a local halloween party which had a walk rheough the forest, she constantly wanted to hold me because she was "scared".

I think the feeling is from both directions because she really doesnt behave like that with other people...

FINAL QUESTION: From your outsiders perspective, does it seem like she feels the same way for me? And: Should I tell her my feelings? If yes: How and when?

Sorry for the long text but I really needed to get this off my chest...

Thanks in advance!
- Gijs

[MrMojoRisin]

Damn, dude! It absolutely sounds like she feels the same way! I'm jealous. Judging from that it absolutely sounds like she likes you (the fact that she's always talking to you and how she was scared and such last night are big hints I reckon) but I'd give it some time nonetheless. Get to know her a little better and such. I'm not any help on the 'how' part being as I haven't had a proper girlfriend in a long while so hopefully someone else can help with that.

But yeah don't rush it and I reckon give it some more time and then ask her how she feels at the right moment. Best of luck man, hope it goes well! :D

[jamie_n5]

I would definitely say that she has feelings for you too. If you just hang out together now then it's time you ask her out for a formal date. You can tell her your feelings when you ask her out or you can tell her when your on the date. Good luck man and I wish you a great relationship.

[Endling]

Thanks guys, really needed an outside source for this ;-) will ask her in person at the next party were both at... I will ask her alone, so she doesnt feel pressured from friends... thanks again, will report back after that

[RJH98]

Your story seems very similar to mine. I met my girlfriend at a festival 1,5 years ago but we never really talked because I didn't know who she was. about half a year ago we started going to the same parties because we have a lot of the same friends. Just like you we started snapchatting and insta messaging and after a party we both went to a month ago we just started considering each other boyfriend and girlfriend and went on a date a few days later. I absolutely think she likes you and I would recommend doing what I did and just keep going to parties with her and hanging out and just tell her "we should hang out on a normal day" or as I said: We should hang out when we're not drunk af.

good luck man and I hope it works out.

p.s Judging by your name I think you're Dutch right? Or from Belgium?
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-Robin

[Endling]

Your story seems very similar to mine. I met my girlfriend at a festival 1,5 years ago but we never really talked because I didn't know who she was. about half a year ago we started going to the same parties because we have a lot of the same friends. Just like you we started snapchatting and insta messaging and after a party we both went to a month ago we just started considering each other boyfriend and girlfriend and went on a date a few days later. I absolutely think she likes you and I would recommend doing what I did and just keep going to parties with her and hanging out and just tell her "we should hang out on a normal day" or as I said: We should hang out when we're not drunk af.

good luck man and I hope it works out.

p.s Judging by your name I think you're Dutch right? Or from Belgium?
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-Robin

Thanks for the reply! I tried to post a VM but it got deleted because it was in dutch... so I guess well have to keep it in english ;-)

Ps: Im belgian, from limburg

[brandon9]

It sounds like she could be interested, but be wary - don't let yourself become too attached until you know for sure where she stands. She probably does genuinely like you, but there's a chance she sees you as a really close "guy friend". It's kind of a devil's advocate I'm being here, but I can attest to the horrible feeling of pain that comes from getting too attached to someone you'll never have, and I don't wish it on anyone lol. Just be careful man.

And by the way, we're a lot alike in some ways. I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend, either lol.

[DefinitelyNotY]

She's probably interested in you, because i've been in the same position 2 times, one with a ex-gf and the other with my current FWB.
But if you feel insecure you could ask in a subtle way, like "Are you interested in someone?"

[ImCoolBeans]

In my experience both girls and guys react better to asking them out rather than a big profession of your love for them. If you are into her, try asking her out on a date. I don't know her or how she acts around you so I'm not going to go as far as saying that she's definitely interested in you, but if she wanted to hold you because she was scared then that's probably a good sign. Since you two already have spent time together in person and not just over text, try asking her out on a date, just the two of you. Good luck and keep us posted!