Help Please!- Boy Trouble!

[olliegirl13211]

Okay, so this is a bit of a long story. There is this boy I really like, like REALLY like. It started last year after a teacher put us next to each other in science, I told one of my friends looking for advice and she basically told him I liked him. He said he didn't like me, didn't want to date, end of story. right? nada. After that I couldn't stop thinking about him. every second of my day was spent thinking about him, wishing so badly he would like me in return.

One year later and I am still head over heels. It actually feels as though I like him even more now. I am too scared to talk to him about it as we never actually talked about it last year. Anytime I get anywhere near him my heart starts pounding so loudly I feel as though everyone can hear. All I ever want to do is just talk to him. To make matters worse I hate my body and I am constantly putting myself down because of my weight. My friends think dating is ridiculous and are always making fun of me for wanting to have a relationship, even if it isn't serious.

I just like him so much and at least want to talk to him, I just get so nervous around him... Please, give me any advice.:(

[ClaraWho]

Well there are two seperate issues here;

1) You appear to be infatuated with this guy. Now it is common to become obsessed with the 'image' of a person, without actually knowing who they really are. It may help to stop placing him on such a high pedestal, look for his faults, the parts of his personality you aren'5 so keen on. Also try to occupy your time so you aren't sitting around thinking about it so much, get out there.

2) Your body image. You say you hate your weight and that it is a genuine health concern. If that is the case, then what are you doing to counter it?
Exercise will not only provide a distraction, it will also make you feel more confident and better about yourself. This will build your self-esteem and personal appearance. It takes time but everything important does. Check out Youtube for inspirational videos.
It's important to note that diet plays a much more important role, and on that topic again Youtube can be helpful. Anything that suggests stopping eating, or only eating one thing, should be avoided as they are unhealthy.

Good Luck and feel free to ask me more.

~ Clara

[olliegirl13211]

Thank you for the advice. I do try to excersise as much as possible but sometimes it is hard. I plan on joining the soccer team this spring which will also help. I will definitely take your advice and try to concentrate less on him. It really did help. Thank you.

[jamie_n5]

Hi, You can't make anyone like you or force yourself on them which I am sure you know. Have you ever tried to talk to this guy and make any attempt to be even casual friends? You don't say what your age is and that sure would help in trying to give you any advise. You may just have to get over this guy. If your friends are making an issue to you about dating then maybe you are only like 13-14. If you are give everything some time. You have many years to date and have all of that. Most teens don't get into the serious dating thing until they are 16-17 so just try make a friend and go from there and give it some time.