My first "real" ex (HELP)

[baseball211]

Me and my ex dated for 2 months and everything was fantastic. We did everything together, very intimate, even went to the beach on vacation. The very next week after two months I felt like something was wrong. She texted at the end of the week and said that she lost feelings for me and felt like we needed to break up. She told me any girl would be lucky to have me and I did everything perfectly. She also said she didn't want to lose me and wanted to remain friends. So I was as nice as possible to her and then went NC. A week later, she texts me and we get back together for 2.5 weeks. And then she tells me she lost feelings again. She still says she wants to be friends and told me we could get back together in the future. She still called me a great guy and everything but she felt as if we aren't meant to be. She texted me a week after Thebes's second just to talk, but I ended that convo pretty quickly. I also found out she's was stalking my Instagram weeks after she broke up with me, which I don't get. We started talking a week ago and after somewhat of an argument (our first ever) we agreed that we'd like to keep each other in our lives. She's really busy with school and travel (does online school so she's constantly doing that) and said she'd text me when she got back from Cali. It's been awhile since we talked, and based on all of this I think she should conflicted about how she wants us to move forward. What are your opinions? What shot if any do we have of getting back together?

[Uniquemind]

I would ask her a soul searching question regarding what she senses in herself as "love" or attraction.

She might feel that the "initial" rush of feelings has to be sustained throughout the relationship's lifespan and that's not true.

With you or not she's likely to encounter the same fizzling out of "feelings" with other people too.

[StoppingTom]

Not for nothing, but 2 months is a really short/unrealistic amount of time to decide whether or not the feelings you feel are going to last. For example, my (first) girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me out of the blue earlier this week. It was tough, but by now I'm more or less okay with it. It doesn't do you any good to be wrapped up in a 2 month relationship, and you have to put your mind somewhere else and move forward. If anything happens in the future, great, but don't sweat it.

[jamie_n5]

Well you don't state your age but I guess that doesn't really matter. You most likely will have several relationships with different girls before you will find the right one. It's alright to stay friends with this girl and who knows what may happen in the future. I certainly think that you should date someone else if you want. You shouldn't just wait around and see what happens with this one girl. Get out there and enjoy life have some fun and date lots of girls if you can.