A very awkward sort of problem.

[Danieldv77]

I am generally having a problem with someone I am courting in which it is becoming almost impossible to determine whether she actually is interested or not. The scenario is like this: Both she and I are introverts. I, on one hand, am focused on school, but am generally lax, and only appear to get by when I get entire AP papers done within the hour. I am not involved in any sort of activity other than JROTC. She, on the other hand, is dedicated to her schoolwork, and is involved in numerous activities, all of which take up a large amount of her time. However, after having a blast at a dance, she seems distant, and usually never initiates contact, me almost always being the initiator, but she never actually seems to dislike me in any way. When I ask her if she would like to do something, she always tells me she's busy, but she'll get to me when she can, but she usually doesn't. Any advice?

Also, sorry about the grammatical correctness, I took a class called ICT in which we learned to type when I lived in Mississippi.

[Just JT]

Why not, through a normal non confrontational, probing conversation, learn more about what's going on in her life, what she does and when she has spare time. Then after a while, like maybe a few days, talking, etc, ask about doing a pointed activity, like;

Hey, I know you usually have some free time on Saturday afternoons, would you like to go see a movie, just you and I?"

I think she'll get the idea, and the reply will be pretty clear. And if not, then just ask her if she has an interest in doing stuff together, alone.

[Danieldv77]

I get what you're saying, and from a normal perspective, it would be just fine- However, the only times I get to talk to her are during lunch, and when she is at lunch, she's writing some sort of fanfic (No, not the type of fanfic you're probably thinking of)(Also, that is a guess since she and I are fandom people, but for all I know she could be writing down her entire life story) and she's pretty much hard at work at it every time I attempt to talk to her, so I can't really keep clear talk- I could call her up, but i'm afraid that would seem clingy.

[jamie_n5]

I am guessing, because you provide absolutely no information about you except that you are a boy, that you are in Jr. High School. The thing might be that she really has no desire to date and be with boys yet. If you really want to find out then quit beating around the bush and ask her flat out will you go out with me this coming Saturday or not and if not ask her to provide a good reason. Also you could ask her to be honest and tell you if she really doesn't want to go out with you period.

[Danieldv77]

Woah woah, jr. High? Oh wait, crap, forgot to set it so that my age was visible. I'm 17. Please don't find it odd that I don't have much experience in this section of life, as I had no desire to date until halfway through my sophmore year. I actually enjoyed not having another to care for before then. Anyways, continuing off of your last statement, I do plan to directly state these things as soon as I can. (Keep in mind the introvertism part, I, and I doubt she, wants to do all this confrontational crap in the crowd of gossiping teenagers that high school is.) Don't worry about advice past this point, i'll get it sorted out.

[jamie_n5]

That is great man! Sorry but when you don't know someones age it is hard to know how to go about with the right type of advice.