Feelings for an ex :(

[Croconaw]

Let's start from the beginning. I have strong feelings for an ex, or at least I think they are strong. We broke up about a month and a half ago! She cheated on me, and said she only dated me because she felt bad. It wasn't in a mean way though. She sincerely apologized for cheating and for hurting me. Breaking up with me was her idea, and told me it was on her mind for three weeks. She was telling me she loved me but she said she only meant it in a best friend kind of way. As you can guess, my heart was shattered. Even after all of this, I still have strong feelings for her and I don't know why. Everything seems to remind me of her, and I think about her a lot. She did say she would date me again if she ever experiences that emotional attraction. Something just tells me it is a bad idea though to date her again. When we were dating she demanded that I be sweet to her over the next video chat or we'd be done. "If you aren't sweet to me over the next time we Skype, I'm done with you!" She says I piss her off but other people piss her off more, and I'm tolerable. This was a long distance relationship, and she sent nudes, kisses, and flirted with another girl. I just have no clue why I have feelings for someone who treated me so badly.

I am still talking to her as a friend and she said she would always be here for me, but every time, I keep thinking about the times we were in a relationship. She has a girlfriend but she keeps telling me she has feelings for another girl she's not even dating. I'm thinking about what if she develops feelings for someone else if she ever does decide to date me again? That would mean it would be a repeat of our last relationship which would end in failure. The only reason I can think of why I like her so much is that she helped me become less depressed when we first got in a relationship because I was kind of having a hard time. She told me she saw a little of herself in me and that made me become emotionally attached real quick. I told her my biggest secret too and every time we get in a fight she would bring it up and threaten to tell people unless I apologize. Should I just forget about her, and is it worth being friends with her?

Being friends with her is okay, it just reminds me of when we were something more... I think I pretty much answered my own question, but I think I need to hear it from other people. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do?

[Oasis]

In my opinion I would stay out of a relationship with her, I'm not trying to be rude or anything but she sounds like a butt hole, telling you that she will tell your secrets and break up with you if you're not sweet to her over Skype, like that isn't okay..... I personally wouldn't be fiends with her either but that is up to you

[Just JT]

I kinda agree. It's hard cause you think you have feelings for her. Feelings are valid thing. But there's one big 3 letter word

BUT!!!!
I think that there is a potential for a lot of negativity, emotional abuse, manipulation, all leading to a toxic relationship

Do a Forrest Gump, and run

[Abhorrence]

I remember being in a similar situation to you. It's horrific, feeling such strong emotions for someone that used to reciprocate but no longer does. Eventually the pain goes away. Sometimes things just aren't meant to be but you get over it.

[jamie_n5]

It is hard to break up any relationship. Some people enter into a relationship with totally different feelings than others do. They don't totally commit themselves to the relationship but look at it as just a trial thing to see how it goes and if their feelings deepen for the other person or not. I know that sounds harsh but it is so true in many cases. I feel for you very much. I know it is a very hard emotional strain and hard to understand.
I really don't know what to say about getting back together if it is a good or bad idea. I guess let your heart be the guide. I think you should flat out ask her how she really feels about you and what she would want out of a relationship with you.
As far as trading pics and talking to others. My BF and I do that quite a bit and neither of us are hurt by it. We are caring guys and are proud of what we look like and not ashamed to share with others. It is kind of to each his own type of thing. Good luck with everything.

[Croconaw]

Some of the things she does piss me of sometimes, like copying me for over fifteen minutes. She said it turns her on when she gets a rise out of me. Other than that, she's overly sweet sometimes. I guess I'll let my heart guide me, but my heart is guiding me to give her a chance. As stupid as this might sound right now, something in my heart is telling me she is "the one."