Toxic Relationships

[Oasis]

I'm just curious, have any of you Guys ever been in a toxic relationship? If so, how did you know it was toxic and how did you get out of it?

[jamie_n5]

I haven't been in that type of relationship. If I were I would end it and walk way never looking back or trying again with them.

[Microcosm]

I've never been in a toxic *romantic* relationship, but I have been close friends, with a girl, who was pretty negative and sometimes pretty toxic. So, I know almost exactly what it's like.

Once, I tried just telling her we were through, that I was never talking to her again. However, that emotionally didn't sit well with me and so I started talking to her again. Some people can deal with a direct cut-off of a friendship well, and others can't.

Then, there was an incident, pretty small and insignificant, in which we both got angry at each other. We stopped talking. I figured we'd stop talking for about a week and then start up again, but I realized that it was the perfect opportunity to stop completely. I might talk to her again one day, but for now our friendship is dead cold and on hiatus.

So those are the two methods I've tried. Toxic relationships are shit especially when you have to see each other almost every day. The amount of negativity that allows into your life is insane.

[Just JT]

I have, but like Microcosm said not a romantic one. They are really bad for you and are hard to identify sometimes cause you feel you care so much for the person. But it can really do a number on you inside. How to get out I think is easy once you know it's toxic, and you know you need to get out. It's for your own health. For me, it was easier I think as it was decided for me. And after that relationship was over, I realized how bad it was. But I also became more aware of how a relationship can be toxic, and avoid them. My own health need to come before someone else's.

[ImCoolBeans]

I have been in a toxic relationship. We didn't exactly fight, but I was always being put down or being made to feel like I was either inferior or not as smart as he was, though looking back now it's really quite the opposite way around (lol). It wasn't always terrible, and we certainly had a lot of good times together, but I got tired of feeling like I had to tiptoe around him in order to avoid a pseudo-philosophical lecture about how wrong I was about whatever the subject was, or how I have so much to learn. In reality someone that emotionally immature has a lot to learn.

[Cadanance00]

I've been there. Nothing worse. I started a relationship with a longtime friend and it turned out she was not as invested in it as I was. As soon as I though it was going to become good she'd do something to make me feel bad.