Dating someone younger Ok?

[Lukenole6]

I'm 13 and in 8th grade. Is it Ok to date someone in 6th grade or is it weird?

[ImCoolBeans]

In general I don't think there is a big problem with an age gap when dating, but in my personal opinion I think that 6th grade is too young to be dating whether or not the other party involved is older, younger, or the same age. A 6th grader may only be two years younger than you, but those two years between 11 and 13 make a big difference in maturity and having an actual concept of what a relationship entails.

[SethfromMI]

Mike is right on the ball with this one. Even if you were not going to do anything in appropriate, there is def a difference in maturity between you and to be quite honest, a lot of people would see it in an extremely bad way. you're going to be in high school next year. a two year difference when their both in high school is not so bad, maybe even a 3 year could be argued. once both are over 18, then it really does not matter at all.

anyways, I would advise against seeing her in that way. your not bad for saying she is cute or whatever, but I am just saying it is not a road I would recommend going down

[drhalsey1]

I agree with Seth and Mike here, it is totally fine to date someone younger, older, or anywhere between once both parties involved are of the right mind and maturity on the matter. So if you want to date that person maybe give it a while, give some time to develop mentally more. I understand the wanting to date but patience is a virtue in cases like this I think.

[Lukenole6]

Thanks guys! I might be waiting untill high school then. If anything too serious happens then I'll probably back off a little.

[jamie_n5]

Yeah Lukenole6 I think you both are too young to date right now.
I think you are making a wise decision to wait a couple of years
before dating.

[Bluebyrd]

I don't think that it's bad to date someone younger but at that age there is really no point to be honest.

[Uniquemind]

I didn't date at that age, but I did have crushes and crushes were allowed supervised play dates within the home or supervised outings like to a movie theatre with one or both parents.

The only unsupervised activity would be going to a neighborhood park which wasn't always supervised. (In hindsight prob a bad idea but what can ya do parents work and escaping the house to walk a few blocks isn't rocket science).

Really they were just self-glorified play dates.

But I think that's a nice middle ground and does respect the existence of either person's feelings and models good dating behavior for the older teen years rather than being suddenly thrust into the dating world abruptly.

You get to learn gradually how to communicate with the opposite sex and break any "cooties" beliefs that carry over from kindergarten.

P.S. I thought the concept of cooties was dumb so..yeah I'm a rebel.

[Lukenole6]

P.S. I thought the concept of cooties was dumb so..yeah I'm a rebel.

Lol

Thanks so much for your feedback I really appreciate it

[Alien djinn]

I would say that dating someone younger or older isn't a problem. But dating while being too young is. In my opinion 6th grade is to early, you got to have a childhood, you know what I mean, don't start too early. You're 13, hum, at 13 it's okay to date but nothing too serious and nothing sexual , in my opinion.

[Uniquemind]

I would say that dating someone younger or older isn't a problem. But dating while being too young is. In my opinion 6th grade is to early, you got to have a childhood, you know what I mean, don't start too early. You're 13, hum, at 13 it's okay to date but nothing too serious and nothing sexual , in my opinion.

I stress more importance on being mature in personality and insight into human nature, as a better measurement for preparedness to handle a date.

It just so happens that being in the younger age ranges correlates highly with immaturity and the real reason dating is discouraged that young.

I started dating at 14 but I was and have been consistently the same for the last 3 years in maturity.

[mizzthai]

It is fine to date younger. Doesn't matter whether you date younger or older but by your age I think you are quite small to involve in this stuffs. Better you finish your education and later date with girl of your age.

[Uniquemind]

That being said I'll like to ask a follow up question to everyone who responded.

When you were in middle school, did you know of peers in the age range of 11-13 who were allowed to date and among the student body of the school were acknowledged as "an item".


Yeah it's probably too early...but did it happen among your peers.


For me the answer was yes, and personally I started dating officially at age 14.

[Bob billy]

2 years younger is fine by me. At your age, I'd wait

[Bontigo Papi .]

Nope . I've dated girls that were younger than me , I think just a year gap but nobody found it weird . At my school we have Grade 8 girls dating 20 year old guys and no one finds that weird .

[gemma.2000]

If you like her go for it

[Katedabomb]

i think if shes like mature cos girls are more mature than boys it sould be OK

[Uniquemind]

Nope . I've dated girls that were younger than me , I think just a year gap but nobody found it weird . At my school we have Grade 8 girls dating 20 year old guys and no one finds that weird .


That might be true, but some quick google searches I did, regarding South Africa's sex crime statistics and law enforcement handling of sex crimes doesn't lend the best credibility to issues like these.

There's some significant abuse going on that is systemic in the culture regarding gender roles and lack of education for girls too.

The OP needs to be aware of this.

[Bontigo Papi .]

That might be true, but some quick google searches I did, regarding South Africa's sex crime statistics and law enforcement handling of sex crimes doesn't lend the best credibility to issues like these.

There's some significant abuse going on that is systemic in the culture regarding gender roles and lack of education for girls too.

The OP needs to be aware of this.

The kids don't go running home and tell their parents they're dating 20 year old guys .

[Uniquemind]

The kids don't go running home and tell their parents they're dating 20 year old guys .

Doesn't matter. The OP isn't dealing with this big of an age gap.

Point has been made to the OP, that a 7 year age gap of a 13 and 20 year old, has a lot of dangers to it and just because a country accepts it as normal for it's populace to practice, it is cause for concern.

I'm through discussing this point of debate PM me further if you want to discuss this more.