I can't live without her!

[Blablabla36489]

Hey! I'm 13 and 1/2 and look even older than my age. I've never been in a relationship but I'd burn myself for it! I watch my school friends' Ask profiles and almost cry when I see that everyone has got a girlfriend, even 4-5! There is a beautiful girl in my school who I absolutely adore! I've made Facebook and Ask.fm recently and I'm already on Instagram. She has profiles too. I sent her a letter in school post for Valentine's day and I signed myself with J. I think she's free now. How can I come to her? I want to talk with her and even become friends. When did you have your first girlfriend? Is it shameful I'm still single? How do guys usually come to girls?

[Miserabilia]

Dude, I'm 14.5 and I'm sinle ;)

There are 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, etc year olds that are single!

I feel pressured to get a girlfriend too.
But hey, if you like a girl and you sent her a letter, you're already on your way right?
Just keep going I guess.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hey! I'm 13 and 1/2 and look even older than my age. I've never been in a relationship but I'd burn myself for it! I watch my school friends' Ask profiles and almost cry when I see that everyone has got a girlfriend, even 4-5! There is a beautiful girl in my school who I absolutely adore! I've made Facebook and Ask.fm recently and I'm already on Instagram. She has profiles too. I sent her a letter in school post for Valentine's day and I signed myself with J. I think she's free now. How can I come to her? I want to talk with her and even become friends. When did you have your first girlfriend? Is it shameful I'm still single? How do guys usually come to girls?


If you start believing the ask and fb profiles you have no chance in the real world - so get a grip on this and

never mind the thinking she is free - know the facts - you will find a way ask some friends for help -

[Obsidian]

First off I think that you might want to tone it down a little. Wanting to be in a relationship is understandable, but being that desperate for one is kind of unhealthy. You should be able to find happiness in life without a relationship, and if you feel like you always need to be in one in order to be happy that's just going to cause a lot of problems in your life.

Also to say that you can't live without this girl when you haven't even had your first conversation with her kind of sounds like you're a little bit too attached. It's okay to really like someone, but you should take it slow and really get to know her and make sure the feeling is mutual before you get so emotionally involved or attached. Otherwise you'll just end up getting hurt.

The fact that a lot of people you know are in relationships shouldn't make you feel like you need to be in one. I'm 18 and I've only been in one real relationship. You should date because you really like someone and want to be with them, not because everyone else is dating someone.

With all that being said, if you truly like this girl then just talk to her. Don't over think it. You could send her a message on facebook and ask how she's doing. How do you normally approach new friends? You don't have to do anything differently. After you've talked to her a few times and you guys are familiar with each other ask her to hang out some time. Hopefully she'll be interested in you as well. Just be yourself, but don't come on too strong. Don't act super attached to her right away because that would just creep her out.

I hope that things work out well and that she has the same feelings for you :)

[Synyster Shadows]

First off I think that you might want to tone it down a little. Wanting to be in a relationship is understandable, but being that desperate for one is kind of unhealthy. You should be able to find happiness in life without a relationship, and if you feel like you always need to be in one in order to be happy that's just going to cause a lot of problems in your life.

Also to say that you can't live without this girl when you haven't even had your first conversation with her kind of sounds like you're a little bit too attached. It's okay to really like someone, but you should take it slow and really get to know her and make sure the feeling is mutual before you get so emotionally involved or attached. Otherwise you'll just end up getting hurt.

The fact that a lot of people you know are in relationships shouldn't make you feel like you need to be in one. I'm 18 and I've only been in one real relationship. You should date because you really like someone and want to be with them, not because everyone else is dating someone.

With all that being said, if you truly like this girl then just talk to her. Don't over think it. You could send her a message on facebook and ask how she's doing. How do you normally approach new friends? You don't have to do anything differently. After you've talked to her a few times and you guys are familiar with each other ask her to hang out some time. Hopefully she'll be interested in you as well. Just be yourself, but don't come on too strong. Don't act super attached to her right away because that would just creep her out.

I hope that things work out well and that she has the same feelings for you :)

I agree with this post completely. You haven't talked to this girl yet so how do you know that you can't live without her? And if you're 13 1/2, you have time. Like Amanda said, there are people who are a lot older than you who aren't in relationships. Just relax. Everything will be alright. If you find out she doesn't like you back, big deal. Not everyone will. You just have to accept that, remind yourself that there are plenty of other people out there, and move on. Good luck.

[goundy]

Hey! I'm 13 and 1/2 and look even older than my age. I've never been in a relationship but I'd burn myself for it! I watch my school friends' Ask profiles and almost cry when I see that everyone has got a girlfriend, even 4-5! There is a beautiful girl in my school who I absolutely adore! I've made Facebook and Ask.fm recently and I'm already on Instagram. She has profiles too. I sent her a letter in school post for Valentine's day and I signed myself with J. I think she's free now. How can I come to her? I want to talk with her and even become friends. When did you have your first girlfriend? Is it shameful I'm still single? How do guys usually come to girls?

Lol mate, your 13, life is only just starting. I didn't get my first girlfriend til 14 and 1/2. Just calm down first.

I've been through a strange journey in my pursuit of women starting with spending all my teenage years in social solitude. In desperation, when I left school, I turned to the 'pickup artist' community for help and spent over 2 years learning how to meet and attract women through external experience via cold approaching women and becoming more attractive as a person by meditation, pursuiting passions and learning how to control ones inner state.

Here's the truth, it's outside of your control as to weather this particular girl will like you and more importantly, if you possessed the nessecary skills to get a girlfriend, then you would have one already. All your friends who have a girlfriend possessed the relevant level of skills, mindsets and had a certain ammount of luck in order to get their girlfriends. So what does that say about you?
"The universe gives you what you deserve"
A person who wants to become successful and make millions of dollars but isn't quite there yet is still developing, learning and sharpening his mind to allow him to one day be able to accomplish his goal. But right now, he doesn't possess the right skills, hasn't built the right connections etc etc so he is not a millionaire. YET. When he does get all the right things nessecary to become a millionaire, the universe will reward him.

Before you think I'm trying to shame you into thinking you are not enough, I will come full circle and tell you my point. You are 13 and the reason why we don't have 13 year old playboys, millionairs, geniuses is because the common 13 year old lacks life experience BUT with time, you will have the life experience nessecary to accomplish things like asking a girl out.
Furthermore, If you devote time and energy into getting as many reference experiences as possible with women, by the time you are 18, you will crush it with women. If you think about all your peers who are too shy and lame to talk to girls, think about the difference between you and them in 5 years. You will be like a god PROVIDED you put in the effort to get more reference experiences with women.
Go and ask this girl out but be independant of the outcome. Being independant of the outcome means that you just do it without letting the result affect you emotionally - Then when the time comes, ask another girl out, talk to more girls, message more girls. Keep up the learning experiences and in a few years you will be king.
I did the same thing but I got good in a year because I went out 5-7 days a week approaching dozens of girls in clubs and on the street so I got good fast. If you keep a long term focus, this can be something you can kick ass in and it's something thats directly within your frame of control.

I hope you get what you want mate, best of luck :)

[radsniper]

ok this is not how you want her to see you come off as because you sound desperate start with simple things such as saying hello take the time to care about her as a friend light conversations like what she likes and talk about things that matter to both of you than as the friendship progresses become fb and instagram friends with her by now you should be good friends with her and keep in mind that you are her friend because she might date someone else stay positive and show chivalry and when

she breaks up comfort her and DO NOT take atvantage of her and when she is fully healed and starts to look at guys again you can show your feelings to her in a subtle manner and if she rejects you take it lightly and stay friends if that is alright and if she accepts you it is now more than a friendship it is a relationship


good luck be patient and DO NOT SOUND DESPERATE and report back please

[Blablabla36489]

Hi, again! Thank you for your advices, everyone has made me feel better! I'll try to meet her better and become her friend and take next move. I was wrong when I said I can't live without her, it's just teenage crush. Thank you, again. I'm much more relaxed about that topic now! :)

[Human]

I got my first girlfriend at the start of this year. I'm 15. Good luck getting her.