Is he a FBoy????

[Oasis]

Okay so 2 weeks ago I started talking to this guy from my school and we really hit it off, like the first night we started talking he started saying that he loves me and all that and of course I said it back be cause I really do feel it...

But then a couple days later he starts being distant and saying he wants to take things slow and that the day we started talking he just got out of a relationship, but then the next day he continued with saying he loved me and stuff then he asked me out and of course I said yes!

So we have been dating for a week today! But the thing is that we have made plans 2 times to hang out and both times he has canceled last minute...? Which really made me mad

So last night after work I asked him if I could talk to him for a little bit tbecause I was hearing rumors about him from my bosses friend , and he wouldn't tell me where he was so I called him and he told me where he was but he didn't want me to come over becaus he was with friends so then we talked over the phone and worked the issue out

Then today he is acting all distant, and it's night time right now and he opened my snapchat but never replied which maybe he fell asleep? Idk, but he was telling me how he isn't sure and how he still has feeling for his ex and idk I'm just really confused in how to handle this because I really like him and I don't wanna lose him......

[Devinsoccer]

He's not an Fboy. He just has mixed ferlings right now. It is hard for guys to recover from a break-up because we tend to keep it in, while girls can get over it a lot quicker because they are a lot more open. In my view he is not an Fboy in the description you gave us. You shhould make plans with him and if cancels three strikes ur out. But if he does do than continue with him, he may have had something going on that you just didn't know, and that he didn't know. The only thing I can think of us he is cheeting or something was going on I would assume something was going on.

[Uniquemind]

He's not an Fboy. He just has mixed ferlings right now. It is hard for guys to recover from a break-up because we tend to keep it in, while girls can get over it a lot quicker because they are a lot more open. In my view he is not an Fboy in the description you gave us. You shhould make plans with him and if cancels three strikes ur out. But if he does do than continue with him, he may have had something going on that you just didn't know, and that he didn't know. The only thing I can think of us he is cheeting or something was going on I would assume something was going on.

I think the above is wrong regarding how the different genders determines how one mourns over the loss of a relationship, I believe that is a individual case-by-case circumstance.

Some relationships end and your like "ZOMG that sucked" and others really have you upset for days/months. In some cases I have both guy friends and girl friends who've taken themselves out of dating for a year because they couldn't deal with trying a new relationship on.

Resiliency is the personality quality regarding the above.

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My two cents is this, it's not about what HE is, it's about what you expect from a male to be on what you believe is a fair equal platform of what a relationship should be.

If I were you I'd say:

"Look, I like you, but I can't keep playing this cat and mouse game regarding what you want to do. I don't like the hard to get game so be straight with me. If you are coming out of a relationship and you feel you can't begin this journey with me with your whole person I won't begin this relationship with you at this times. I'll give you 3-6 months to mourn for a past relationship should you choose to leave your current one, and if I don't have an answer by then, I'll move along to other opportunities. I can't wait for you forever, that's not life."

After that it's his move.

[Devinsoccer]

I think the above is wrong regarding how the different genders determines how one mourns over the loss of a relationship, I believe that is a individual case-by-case circumstance.


Well, I was just saying that because I was using gender stereotypes. Not everyone is the same.

[jamie_n5]

Well in my opinion he isn't worth you wasting your time over.
I think you will find a guy much more worthy of your time and affection.

[Babs]

The fact that he told you he loves you so soon is a huge red flag, my dude. Trust me. Either that or he doesn't know what the fuck he's doing.

The type of people who start making declarations of love that soon are weird little creeps who really want a super intense meaningful relationship so they try to rush and force something into being more than it is. This thing your in does sound fishy, but trust your gut.

[ClaraWho]

Yeah, agree a lot with the above. Nobody 'falls in love' instantly. This entire thing has me confused as you speak like you are 13, yet have 'bosses'? What is your age?

You both sound very immature to be dating. It seems you love the idea of being in love, more than actually having fallen in love. Think of Frozen, and Anna.

All sounds like a load of nonsense coming from him and he will not leave his girlfriend.

~ Clara

[Drewboyy]

Fuckboys don't ask to "take it slow" so I'd say no

[hesaidhesaid]

He isn't worth wasting time over. And besides, if he was an FBoy, you two would have been in bed real quick by now...just quietly call it off- rushing into things never ends pretty.