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ninja1010
October 2nd, 2016, 10:59 PM
So I'm with this girl that I really like. We started texting a few weeks ago and went to homecoming together a week ago. Since then we've been putting ourselves out as boyfriend and girlfriend.

We were on the phone earlier and she jokingly blocked me on Instagram. She then has issues following me again so she asked me to log into her account and see if it worked on my phone.

It did not work and we learned she would just have to wait. However.... I was a little nosy.... needless to say I fell into the temptation of her DMs.

Negatives:

-I learned she is not a virgin, contrary to what she has told me
-she had apparently been bouncing between two guys
-she began to like another guy in between those two guys
-she had been talking to two other guys, simultaneously

Positives:

-turned down a nude request
-turned down a sex request
-has unfollowed the two guys she had been bouncing between

I probably forgot things, but i started getting really worked. But, I started looking at the dates on everything. I then started looking at the messages with her friends. She had a few messages about me where she was genuinely very excited. In the time she had started talking to me, she ignored all messages from guys trying to talk to her.

She has told me about her past boyfriends and we have labeled me as the first douchebag. I know she planned on telling me things later into our relationship.... I just feel extremely bad about going through her DMs. My jealousy started getting in the way... and I just don't know whether or not to tell her.

She has let me know that she has smoked pot before, but doesnt do it regularly. She has told me a lot of things and I've been okay with it... I really hate the idea of keeping score but I feel like with everything I've been fine with, she shouldn't be too upset with this.

I understand what shes done in the past is her past. This also makes her sound a lot worse than she is. 😂

Uniquemind
October 3rd, 2016, 12:57 AM
So I'm with this girl that I really like. We started texting a few weeks ago and went to homecoming together a week ago. Since then we've been putting ourselves out as boyfriend and girlfriend.

We were on the phone earlier and she jokingly blocked me on Instagram. She then has issues following me again so she asked me to log into her account and see if it worked on my phone.

It did not work and we learned she would just have to wait. However.... I was a little nosy.... needless to say I fell into the temptation of her DMs.

Negatives:

-I learned she is not a virgin, contrary to what she has told me
-she had apparently been bouncing between two guys
-she began to like another guy in between those two guys
-she had been talking to two other guys, simultaneously

Positives:

-turned down a nude request
-turned down a sex request
-has unfollowed the two guys she had been bouncing between

I probably forgot things, but i started getting really worked. But, I started looking at the dates on everything. I then started looking at the messages with her friends. She had a few messages about me where she was genuinely very excited. In the time she had started talking to me, she ignored all messages from guys trying to talk to her.

She has told me about her past boyfriends and we have labeled me as the first douchebag. I know she planned on telling me things later into our relationship.... I just feel extremely bad about going through her DMs. My jealousy started getting in the way... and I just don't know whether or not to tell her.

She has let me know that she has smoked pot before, but doesnt do it regularly. She has told me a lot of things and I've been okay with it... I really hate the idea of keeping score but I feel like with everything I've been fine with, she shouldn't be too upset with this.

I understand what shes done in the past is her past. This also makes her sound a lot worse than she is. ��

No good can come from telling her you violated her privacy, what you gonna do start a fight over the information you discovered?

You have had a peak into girl talk and boy issues with how things are dealt with behind the scenes in the social context that girls are still held and judged to a double-standard in a romance-dating-sexual context.

Your only concern is her sexual health IF you guys are sexually active with each other. Make sure all are clean by doctors tests etc.


Besides this is life, not some Disney film-tv show, where all the romantically linked characters seem to be monogamous from the get-go.

The whole point of dating culture is to compare person A to person B, to any other competition that comes along. That's the whole point of dating VS long term relationships that are monogamous and later marriage.

P.S. How old are you all anyway, you two sound young.

jamie_n5
October 4th, 2016, 05:27 PM
I would keep things to myself. She really doesn't sound too trustworthy to me. I just hope you don't get into a relationship and end up getting hurt. I don't know how old you are but if you are in the 13-17 age range you may have several relationships before you find the right girl. Just don't get too serious too fast in your relationships. Good luck to you.