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Obsidian
February 20th, 2014, 12:30 AM
So about a month ago I met a guy online and we started talking really frequently. He lives about five hours away so we haven't met but I really like him and he says that he likes me back. At first we were kind of in a relationship but he kept changing his mind and I'm pretty sure that now we aren't. Things are complicated between us. Sometimes he's really interested in talking, other times it's like he couldn't care less. Plus the chance of us meeting any time in the near future is very slim because neither of us has a driver's license or the money to drive 5 hours. But it's clear we both have feelings for each other.

Now this is what I need opinions about. There's this guy I've hooked up with quite a few times but have no romantic interest in. He's way older than me and I'd never desire a relationship with him. It's just about sex. And lately I've really been wanting to hook up with him again. But I feel like it might be wrong since I'm emotionally attached to another guy who also has feelings for me. But the fact that we aren't officially dating and that he keeps changing his mind about me makes me think it would be okay. So I really don't know. I don't want to hurt him because I really care for him. Also he's a virgin but I feel like if the situation was reversed and he had the opportunity to have sex with someone he would, regardless of whatever kind of relationship we have.

So would it be wrong to have sex with someone else? It wouldn't be cheating since we're not dating. So I just don't know. I need some input.

goundy
February 20th, 2014, 12:36 AM
Yeh definately do it :D

Unlike medieval times, it's acceptable to be 'dating' but not monogamous yet. This stops you from diving head first into a relationship without full knowing the person and allows you to scope around for the best option.

Ignore the slut shamers, never apologize for your desires as a person.

Obsidian
February 20th, 2014, 12:42 AM
Ignore the slut shamers, never apologize for your desires as a person.

Thanks :) I wish everyone had that point of view.

Synyster Shadows
February 21st, 2014, 05:37 PM
Yeh definately do it :D

Unlike medieval times, it's acceptable to be 'dating' but not monogamous yet. This stops you from diving head first into a relationship without full knowing the person and allows you to scope around for the best option.

Ignore the slut shamers, never apologize for your desires as a person.

I agree with this. It seems like a pretty good idea to me

AlexOnToast
February 21st, 2014, 05:40 PM
Everyone above me is correct, especially about not giving a damn what other people say. It's your life.

radsniper
February 21st, 2014, 06:15 PM
you have never met the guy in person so you are not tied to him now if he was your official man and lived closer and you had sex with him that would be a whole different story

AlanPeanuts
February 22nd, 2014, 07:24 AM
Ultimately it's your choice, but don't risk a relationship in which you have emotional feelings in, for just sex. That's my opinion at least. I don't think you'd be a slut or anything like that, but remember what you would be risking, should you choose the other route. I also don't know how emotionally attached you two are either.