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onewingedangel666
September 30th, 2016, 02:56 AM
I've posted on this site before about this problem I had, but I haven't in years. Back then, it was merely me trying to get a girl who wasn't interested in more than friends. Now, however, I'm starting to see a large problem, and I'm scared that I don't know if I'll be able to deal with this.

The Basic story is that I met thi girl when we were younger (12 grade/senior in HS now), and I really liked her, but she didn't like me. Over the years, as I got to know her better and better, I developed stronger and stronger feelings for her. Every so often, we would have falling outs, and maybe not talk for months, but something would always bring us back to being friends. We had so much in common, and we just clicked, in my opinion.

This last time, however, she filed a harassment report with the school. It's a long and complicated story that can boil down to she was emotional and I screwed things up. She lied about so many things in the report, twisting and ruining things to make me look like a creep and a bad person.

That was probably six months ago now. So I've started my senior year, and I feel fairly good about it, but in the back of my mind she is always there. We have multiple classes together, and let me tell you, drifting eye contact with someone who you used to love is horrible.

Anyways, to the reason I am writing this, I just had a dream. She was in it, we were in class, and she wrote on a piece of paper my name to get my attention. She said something about being sad and how she was sorry, I don't remember the details. Anyways, I woke up crying for some reason. I've been trying to hard these past few months to get over this girl, then this happens. How long is this going to go on?

So, basically, I want to know from you guys, what way should I deal with this? I feel like it is seriously effecting me, seeing how I just woke up at 4am because of a dream I had of her. I'll leave my questions there for now, and thank you for taking the time to read, I appreciate it.

ClaraWho
September 30th, 2016, 04:13 AM
Sounds like you really need to move on, no matter how difficult that is. You are coming across a bit stalkerish from what you say, this is not a healthy obsession. Try joining a sports team, or a new society if your school has them. Maybe take up a new hobby. Keep yourself busy and distracted. She clearly wants nothing to do with you, if you keep going she will end up getting the police involved. Leave it be.

~ Clara

Sailor Mars
September 30th, 2016, 06:39 AM
I agree with Clara to some extent. I don't believe you're coming off as stalkerish, as it's understandable why you pay attention to her or can't help your eyes drifting. She's someone that used to take your attention and someone you cared a lot about. Clara likes to make it seem that OPs are the perpetrators when they're not :P

You can try to get your mind off of it by joining a sports team, making new friends, going out to new places, etc. Or, you can drill it into your mind that she's bad news and she's caused bad things for you. Every time you look at her just think, "Man I can't believe I loved her" type things. Not to the extent that you tell people bad things about her, but more so you just try to make your mind fully recognise that she shouldn't be given any attention to. Idk. Worked for me.

Phosphene
September 30th, 2016, 09:31 AM
The above posters covered it pretty well so I don't have much to add, I will say I would advise not getting involved with her again. Based on what you said about the report she filed, if you aplproached her again who knows what she could turn it into? Only bad things could come from it, so keep yourself occupied with other things.

jamie_n5
September 30th, 2016, 03:53 PM
It is so hard to deal with having to be apart from someone you really loved. I have heard people say that you never really get over your first love. I think that holds true for you. The dream is because your subconscious still knows that you loved her so it produces dreams. I really don't know what else to say man. It is just something that you need to put aside and go on ahead with your life. There is nothing else you can really do.

onewingedangel666
September 30th, 2016, 09:41 PM
This is the problem, I'm not trying to talk to her, I'm trying to get over her. Thanks for the suggestions, but It's not like I've been doing this for a month and feel like I need her to love me like some stalker. It's been a long time, and I really want to not have to deal with it. I mean, I barely even think about her compared to how it used to be. It's just that this dream shook me for some reason.
I keep myself busy and I am active. I'm on two sports teams, I work a full time job, and I have a few good friends. I just don't know. Maybe theres nothing I can do.

Thank you to all of you. If anyone has more suggestions, I'd love to hear them.