Should i break up after a year?? :(

[mcdaniels]

My Girlfriend really drives me crazy at times and has done for the past 6 months,there's been so many times where iv'e been so close to breaking up with her for multiple reasons..

as of now ive started college and my girlfriend is still in school, but she is texting me and going crazy about how ive added lots of girls on facebook recently(obviously because they are in my course) and she doesnt seem to trust me at all even tho she claims to, also anytime i go out to a club or whatever( which she cant go to because shes not of age yet) she also doesnt trust me even though id never do anything like that

i feel like she is completely controlling.. dont get me wrong i love her to bits but sometimes i just wonder would i be better off without her.. i love her family and her and all and have planned my whole future with her in the picture. she has also been there with me through the death of my mother.#

im just wondering what you guys think, ive felt like this before but i do love her and find it so hard to leave but i dont know whether i can take this much longer

[StoppingTom]

Have you talked to her at all about her being controlling?

No? Do that.
Yes (and she's still being controlling)? Drop her like a bad habit.

[mcdaniels]

Have you talked to her at all about her being controlling?

No? Do that.
Yes (and she's still being controlling)? Drop her like a bad habit.

i literally text her a few minutes ago saying theres a difference between jealousy and complete controlling, and she started laughing and said ill show you not caring if you want. i havent texted back

[StoppingTom]

i literally text her a few minutes ago saying theres a difference between jealousy and complete controlling, and she started laughing and said ill show you not caring if you want. i havent texted back

Okay, she's insane. If that's her response to you expressing yourself after a year of dating, it can only get worse.

[jamie_n5]

I think it's time to call it quits. You can break up or look at a cooling off time maybe. I think the way she is and acts that she would be trouble for you down the line. God forbid if you got married and then got miserable. I just don't think she is the one for you if she acts like that. If it were me I would text her back and tell you have had enough of her attitude and complaining about everything and say bye bye to her.

[Bull]

I think it is time for a pause in the relationship. However, that would best be done face to face. Ideally in the same place at the same time. If you are living at college and not often together maybe Skype or face time would be second best. Text, NO!

[PinkFloyd]

Have you talked to her at all about her being controlling?

No? Do that.
Yes (and she's still being controlling)? Drop her like a bad habit.

This. I couldn't say it better myself.

[ana bela riguesrod]

This could be because she loves you more than anything and she is possessive. I don't thnk it is because she doubts you, that can be because she loves you more than you can even think. She wants you to be all her's. That could be a reason.

[ClaraWho]

The above is the excuse they sometimes use. By they I mean insecure people who are unwilling to seek the help they need, and therefore become abusive/controlling as a compensation. You can't live like that. She needs to take responsibility or you should leave. And don't wait forever either. Give her a deadline and ask daily what steps she is taking to change, if she admits there's a problem.

~ Clara