Really upset right now

[Phosphene]

This is a rant to get my feelings out more than anything. Feel free to reply anyways if you want.

I've been friends with this guy since last school year. Recently after going back to school I developed feelings for him. He was dating one of my best friends at the time so there was nothing I could do. They broke up two weeks ago and then got back together after a week. Now they have broken up for good.

Flash forward to yesterday: throughout the day we were flirting-ish with each other, and many people (including my friend whom he was dating) said we would be a really cute couple. I'm not completely sure if he was flirting or not but it really seemed like it to me. I was really happy and wanted to wait a few more days to see if the flirtatious behavior continued before telling him I like him.

We were texting last night, and I asked what he was up to, to which he replied he was texting his gf. My heart skipped and then dropped in an instant - my first thought was, "maybe that's a sly way of saying he wants to date me", and my second thought was "he has a girlfriend". I asked who she was and he said it was the girl he had been dating before my best friend. I'm really upset about it because I thought we would go somewhere. I've only been in one unsuccessful relationship two years ago. I just want to be with someone I really care about, and I care for him a lot. But if he has a girlfriend, he probabby doesn't share my feelings of wanting to date. All my friends can be in a relationship in a flash but I've never been that way. I'm sick of seeing all the couples around me. I guess this is what I get for getting my hopes up.

[Sublime Demonz]

Hello hi I am here to tell you that everything's going to be okay.

I have been through similar situations like this quite a few times, so I know how badly this hurts and how much it sucks to watch everyone else find someone they're happy with while you remain all alone. But I promise you this is only temporary. It hurts now, but it won't hurt forever.
A couple years ago, this sort of thing happened to me, and then it happened again 6 months later. What I did following that only made things worse, in which I dated someone I didn't really have feelings for just so I wouldn't be alone. Don't do that. 0/10 would not recommend, as it will end badly. I've always had a hard time with relationships and because I felt the way you do now, I tried to just make one happen. But if I had known that eventually I would meet someone I really deeply love and who I can call my significant other as well as my best friend, I never would've done that.
My point is that even if you don't have the best of luck with relationships, you will eventually meet someone that is beyond worth it. It might take some time, but that's okay too. Good things should never be rushed. It's gonna sting for a while, and sometimes it'll be hard to watch other couples be happy, but when you do see them, just remind yourself that someday, that's gonna be you and when that day comes, none of this is going to matter anymore.
Don't beat yourself up for getting your hopes up. It's human.

[Phosphene]

Hello hi I am here to tell you that everything's going to be okay.

I have been through similar situations like this quite a few times, so I know how badly this hurts and how much it sucks to watch everyone else find someone they're happy with while you remain all alone. But I promise you this is only temporary. It hurts now, but it won't hurt forever.
A couple years ago, this sort of thing happened to me, and then it happened again 6 months later. What I did following that only made things worse, in which I dated someone I didn't really have feelings for just so I wouldn't be alone. Don't do that. 0/10 would not recommend, as it will end badly. I've always had a hard time with relationships and because I felt the way you do now, I tried to just make one happen. But if I had known that eventually I would meet someone I really deeply love and who I can call my significant other as well as my best friend, I never would've done that.
My point is that even if you don't have the best of luck with relationships, you will eventually meet someone that is beyond worth it. It might take some time, but that's okay too. Good things should never be rushed. It's gonna sting for a while, and sometimes it'll be hard to watch other couples be happy, but when you do see them, just remind yourself that someday, that's gonna be you and when that day comes, none of this is going to matter anymore.
Don't beat yourself up for getting your hopes up. It's human.

Thanks Elise. I would never date someone I didn't care about. It does hurt but I'll be all right. I appreciate your kind words.

[jamie_n5]

Well don't worry. Just be patient and keep looking. You are only 15 and have plenty of time to date. I know someone will come along for you soon.

[Nicole4All]

Right now it hurts, and it's hard to feel rejected when you've made an emotional attachment. I would be patient and let things play out. Stay self-confident. If he doesn't come around or recognize your value and interest, it's his loss. Someone else WILL come along who will truly appreciate you for who you are.

[Phosphene]

An update: we are dating now!!! :woot: He didn't really want to be in a relationship with that girl, she dragged him into it. He really likes me and we're both so happy ^-^ I appreciate everything said above.

[Barbara.]

An update: we are dating now!!! :woot: He didn't really want to be in a relationship with that girl, she dragged him into it. He really likes me and we're both so happy ^-^ I appreciate everything said above.
I have been following this thread and so glad for you and him. I'm so happy for the both of you. True love is everlasting if you find the right person. May it be everlasting.

[Andyyy95]

I haven't been in this situation before, but I congratulate you - I hope things work out well for you both!

[ana bela riguesrod]

Wow , its just wonderful. feeling as if I am reading a love story or something. It is really wonderful.
Happy for u