P-ied

[redrider12]

So boys' section or here.. I couldn't truthfully decide. But I feel like I'm not the only one here who suffers from this.
They call it porn-induced erectile dysfunction. The long and short of it, I suppose, is that your mind becomes so conditioned to the heavy dopamine hits of watching porn that you can't "get it up" in situations where you need/you'd like to.
This past weekend, I was with my girlfriend. We've been together for a while, and we both agreed that it was okay to push boundaries a little bit sexually.
All fun and games until, you guessed it, PIED reared its ugly self.

Since I first got physical with her, I've stopped watching porn entirely. It used to be every single night for me for most of three years - I've never experienced a solo orgasm without porn. It just doesn't happen. This was up until a few weeks ago. When we did, no matter what she or I did, I couldn't get it up. It embarrassed the heck outta me, and while she says that it wasn't a thing for her, I know that it is.

I've tossed around the idea of seeing a doctor - I could get in next-day if I wanted. It's probably the responsible thing to do, but part of me thinks that if I keep myself disciplined enough and don't watch again, it'll wear off. I just don't know how long that'll take. There's always pills to correct for that, but hell, at 18 the last thing I want is to become reliant on something.

Anyone have any experience or any insight?

[jake97aus]

You could think about seeing a doctor, but for now just lay off the porn and maybe it'll make you more horny the next time you guys try and do it! Seems like a pretty annoying issue, hope it sorts itself out :)

[redrider12]

I'm not sure horny is quite the right word, I've always used that to describe a state of mind rather than a physical condition. My mind was screaming yes but my torso couldn't quite keep up I suppose

[Hermes]

I don't think you'll end up becoming reliant on Sildenafil (aka Viagra) because it is used for cases where your brain is telling your penis to rise but poor vascular health means it doesn't actually happen or the response is too weak to be useful, hence why it is regarded as a old man's drug.

It sounds to me like your problem is more psychological so that isn't something Sildenafil would address. You've diagnosed yourself with PIED which is obviously pyschological but the other possibility is that you are feeling stressed or nervous and it is that which is stopping you getting erect.

Without using porn can you think of something sexy and start to get hard? What about if you start playing with it? If either of these work and particularly if you can masturbate and cum without the porn then it may well be a case of being nervous when with your girlfriend.

If so, believe what she says. Yes, of course if you've talked about taking things to the next level she wants to do that but if she loves you she will be patient. Don't try too hard - get comfortable being naked together without having to immediately try to have sex. Get comfortable with her touching you. Try different things and let it happen naturally without trying to "make it happen".

[jamie_n5]

I think and hope for you that time away from watching porn will hopefully do the trick for you. I have never heard of the condition you talked about. How did you find out about this? Were you diagnosed by some doctor or was it through self research that you found out about P-ied? With time hopefully the natural triggers for sexual activity will return to you. If not you may need to see a phycologist for help. Good luck buddy.

[user-999]

Maybe try masturbating without porn, then you will get used to doing it with out porn.

[Falcons_11]

I think the best way to get a boner to masturbate is don't use porn. It's better to use your mind and try to imagine and think about sexy stuff that turns you or like your boy or girl friend, or some situation that you find excites you. Just focus on those things and that possible help you avoid any PIED thing. Good luck.

[JohnC]

Wow. Never heard of that before. I don't really look at that stuff so it is not a problem for me. Hope you can get better.

[redrider12]

A long time ago, I used to be able to come very close to orgasm without porn, but I never actually finished. Now, even if I play with it or think of something wildly fantastical or sexy, I can barely get it hard without. It'll even get more flaccid on occasion.
When I do use porn, I don't actually even get hard until a few minutes into the scene and after I use my hand. It's not as if merely seeing the sex act is enough anymore.
I don't think it was a matter of nervousness, either. In every other sexual relation I've ever had, it's never been an issue, even one-nighters.
It's even becoming more rare that I get them throughout the day. "Morning wood" isn't a thing anymore, nor are random erections unless my hand is involved. And if one does happen at a time where I can stop and try to make something of it, the erection is gone way before I feel even a pang of orgasm