Did I do the right thing?

[Microcosm]

I drove my friend to and from school in the morning and afternoon for three weeks. She gets sort of condescending about my driving sometimes. I'm a new driver so I'm not super good and I've made some bad mistakes.

Anyways, last Thursday she was super rude while I was driving in both the morning and afternoon. She told me to hurry up basically at a turn. I get that I'm a bit overcautious sometimes, but it was still a rude thing to say. Stuff like that made me feel like what I was doing was not being appreciated and that I was being used. So, I told her I wouldn't drive her. I also told her why: she made me nervous and was condescending in my eyes. She got mad and all--she still is. Now, I've been called a "cry baby" by the other guy that I drive home. I don't mind that too much, but was I being a "cry baby"?

The way I see it, I

a) Shouldn't have to deal with the extra stress every day.
b) Should be able to stop driving her at any time as long as I give a warning that I'm going to stop soon(which I did; I said I would drive her last Friday, but that would be it. She got another ride though because she was angry).
c) should not drive her if I feel that she won't be safe with me driving and, being stressed with her in the car, there's a higher chance that an accident will happen.

So...

Was I right in doing what I did?
Does she have the right to be angry?
Am I a "cry baby" for not just getting over it?

[WhoWhatWhen]

First of all, your are the driver so you go by your own rules. You have every right to not drive her.

If she makes you feel nervous driving then I would totally kick her out. It's not the end of the world, she can find another ride.

[Uniquemind]

Sounds like she had a strong sense of entitlement to me, and stress from other areas of her life that she can't be chill.

[ClaraWho]

You did the right thing, one can only hope she grows to understand she was in the wrong.

~ Clara

[Microcosm]

First of all, your are the driver so you go by your own rules. You have every right to not drive her.

If she makes you feel nervous driving then I would totally kick her out. It's not the end of the world, she can find another ride.

You're right, but I still feel somewhat bad. She's a very close friend so I kind of just get what she's feeling even when I'm the one making her feel it.

But you're right.

Thanks Uniquemind and ClaraWho

[Vermilion]

You did nothing wrong in my opinion. If she affects your driving it makes you more likely to make mistakes. Also you are doing them all a favour so they should treat you with respect

[jamie_n5]

No I think that you did the right thing. Anyone that makes you upset or really nervous driving isn't good. She could made you have an accident even. Beside seeming ungrateful and being a bitch didn't help her either. Let her be angry you did nothing wrong.

[Caledonia]

Yeah she's in the wrong here, if you're doing her a favor by driving her to and from school and she's there criticising you and making you feel bad about your driving you;re right to tell her you won't be doing it no more.

[Falcons_11]

No I think that you did the right thing. Anyone that makes you upset or really nervous driving isn't good. She could made you have an accident even. Beside seeming ungrateful and being a bitch didn't help her either. Let her be angry you did nothing wrong.

I totally agree with Jamie. If she made you nervous while you were driving her to school she put both you and her in danger because she could have cause you to have an accident. You did the right thing and you shouldn't regret it.

[Brieftime]

Your were right and I'd just tell her to find her own way to and from. Your not a cry baby if anything she is. I'd tell her to grow up.

[awsomekid23]

If you're the driver you make the rules will
Simple as that

[Uranus]

You did nothing wrong. And since you're a new driver, do what I did and do. Give absolutely zero fucks about the rules. Drive the way you feel most comfortable in any given situation, and for fucks sake don't pay attention to that 10&2 or 9&3 steering wheel crap. Drive in whatever way it is that you feel most comfortable. Pay less attention to most of the rules and you won't be so nervous and uncomfortable driving. Obviously don't go through red lights, just try to understand my point

[lliam]

I don't think that you are did something wrong. That you react so sensitively, is imo your thing.

Would she be my friend, I would explicitly make her understand that it is a privilege, if I give her a ride.

Friendship or not.

I would tell her exactly that she really annoys me, and I would tell her that she just can wipe her butt with her criticism or such.

Especially, I would tell her how irresponsible she indirectly endangers the traffic around us if she prevent me, a new driver with little driving experience, to focus on what is happening on the road.

And if necessary, I would stop the car and tell her to leave my car. In certain things I happen to be very intolerant. Even with friends.