Completely clueless when it comes to dates ...

[Milos]

Hey,

Title is a bit much but its kinda true ...
I think i have a big problem.

I m not sure where to start ... I dont like relationships,i dont like the fact of you getting close to someone.I never experienced similar and well i m not sure how to do it.
My love life sucks,i was with like 3 girls in my entire life(i m 19).The first girl,we were just kissing but even there i wasnt sure how to use tongue(just to clarify,i didnt know how to stick it in) and well that bothered her ... Second one was weird and third was more weird.Anyway,i am not sure how to act with them around,i m not sure when should i call them,where should we go out(i have money saved but thats for gym rent).It just sucks,really sucks.
And what about sex?How the hell,what should i do,what about foreplay?
Luckily i did lost my virginity but with a hooker(which my friends hired for my 18th birthday),and well that sex was terrible,we did it in a car and it was all her ... I DONT KNOW HOW TO REACT WHEN SOME GIRL IS GIVING ME A STARE,like i act cool saying to myself you dont want a relationship but deep down i really do ...

Anyway,there is one girl which i really like(and she likes me too),we arranged a date next week and well i have no idea what to do when it comes to kissing.Like i know how start but when it gets to tounge part,i have no idea where to place ... when she opens her mouth wide what should i do?

Its just so stupid and depressing i have no idea what to do ...
Sorry for a long post,if anyone answers me i ll be happy ...

Cheers

[Milos]

Bumppppppp

[Flapjack]

Heyyy honestly I would not worry about kissing :) I remember when I first kissed a girl with tongue and I was completely unprepared, it comes naturally buddy :)

I would focus your attention to the date itself, what to talk about for example :)

As for sex buddy, I would say don't worry about it and don't be afraid to communicate with her :)

[Milos]

Heyyy honestly I would not worry about kissing :) I remember when I first kissed a girl with tongue and I was completely unprepared, it comes naturally buddy :)

I would focus your attention to the date itself, what to talk about for example :)

As for sex buddy, I would say don't worry about it and don't be afraid to communicate with her :)

Thanks man !
But i have a bigger problem,i feel like i dont want a relationship,i dont want anyone to love me,or hug me etc

[jamie_n5]

Maybe you have some kind of an anti social disorder. You could seek out some professional help man. You don't have to worry about kissing and that stuff. You hopefully will build up a natural passion and that will get you in a more romantic mood. Also you need to talk to the girls and ask them what their wants and desires are. Don't be shy communicate man.

[Flapjack]

Thanks man !
But i have a bigger problem,i feel like i dont want a relationship,i dont want anyone to love me,or hug me etc
Any reason in particular you don't want one?:)

[Milos]

Its not that i am shy,i m an extrovert(if thats the word) ... Let me put it this way. In the movies about highschool,there are those alpha dudes(rugby players usuall). Well i m like that,the problem is i am only acting like that,i am acting all super cool and well i m acting like i dont have a heart.

I m always rejecting girls because i dont want a relationship,i m not sure why but i prefer to be alone.