I'm in a huge mess right now

[Dalcourt]

I had a really huge fight with my Dad and I'm really not sure what do do now.
Several weeks ago I took the gun my Dad usually has in this car. Not to do anything with it of course just to get it away from him. He hasn't a permit for this gun and as there are so many bad things happen with people having a gun in their car and bei get stopped by the cops I just felt it was saver this way.
Nothing really happened till last night. After he picked me up from a friend we drove to some burger place to get something to eat.
I dunno why but he looked for something in the car and found the gun was missing. He freaked out cuz he thought someone has stolen it, so I told him I took it.
He was really mad shouting at me and what not...all in that fuckin parking lot of that restaurant. It was really bad and some couple got involved wanting to call the cops. Luckily they didn't as I talked to them.
But Dad just got in the car driving off without me.
First I wanted to go back home but then I thought it would be better not as he was so mad.
So I just stayed out for the night and went to a friend in the morning.
Usually if I don't come home my Dad tries to contact me on the phone but nothing this time.
I'm kinda worried and feel really bad. I couldn't explain why I took the gun and I feel it was wrong to do so. I should maybe have talked to him. Dunno.
I want to go home to apologise for having taken it and for having messed up....but on the other hand I'm too afraid to go back when he's still so mad at me.
I'll have to go home since I need my stuff for school and all...
It's all so messed up right now

[Desynchronized]

No buddy really sorry to hear that. And ya you should have talked to him before removing the gun. And maybe your dad is just a bit stressed and therefore suddenly got angry. You're doing the right thing to do. Go and apologise to him when he has calmed down. I'm pretty sure he'll forgive you.

[swimjoey1]

Yeah maybe text him and apologize that you had taken it. Than if he is calm than confront him and talk it out. Hope it's all good.

[Phosphene]

Sticky situation you have here... if I was in your shoes, I would call first to let him know you're coming home, so you can assess his feelings without confronting him face-to-face. Just in case he is still really angry. And if he asks you why you took it, tell him what you said about people getting pulled over for having guns in their car and that you just didn't want anything bad to happen.

[jamie_n5]

I think you need to go home and apologize to your dad. Then explain to him why you took the gun and that you were worried about him getting hurt. I think he will forgive you and understand.

[mcdaniels]

in my view you didnt do much wrong and your dad completely overreacted.. you were putting his safety and security first.. it is not fair for you to just get abandoned like that by him, you couldve been attacked or anything by yourself, if he tried kicking you out of the house again id call social services, its not fair on you

[Dalcourt]

Maybe I try to text him...but that would be kinda weird I dunno.
He might be still really mad thinking I wanted to steal it from him to sell it or something ... I have no idea.
I have no idea what I was thinking. We really got along great no fighting and arguments and then I have to be that stupid.

[Phosphene]

Maybe I try to text him...but that would be kinda weird I dunno.
He might be still really mad thinking I wanted to steal it from him to sell it or something ... I have no idea.
I have no idea what I was thinking. We really got along great no fighting and arguments and then I have to be that stupid.

I think you will be fine as long as you explain why you did it. And besides, what if you wouldn't have taken it and the next day he got pulled over and they found out he didn't have a permit? It's much safer not driving around with it.

[Vermilion]

I'm sorry you in the situation. I think you did right taking it out of the car. Unless your father is violent I would go home and explain to him why you did.

[Dalcourt]

I'm sorry you in the situation. I think you did right taking it out of the car. Unless your father is violent I would go home and explain to him why you did.

My father is always extremely violent and aggressive this is one reason why I took the gun out of the car and now this is a reason that makes the situation quite difficult.

[Vermilion]

My father is always extremely violent and aggressive this is one reason why I took the gun out of the car and now this is a reason that makes the situation quite difficult.

Do you think he will be violent if you go back ?

[Dalcourt]

Do you think he will be violent if you go back ?

Not sure but very likely

[Vermilion]

Not sure but very likely

I would stay away and try to call him. If you do go back being someone with you

[nekid]

iI there an adult you trust to go home with you?
Hope everything works out

[Dalcourt]

My best friend's Mom drove over to talk with my Dad but he still seem furious and quite aggressive at least he let her have my school things so I could finish some homework that is due soon.

My friend and her Mom said it is okay if I stayed but I feel I shouldn't. I feel bad for bothering them and all...
Dad didn't answer my text with my apology so I assume he's still mad.
But I guess just going home and getting over with whatever is the best option I have since I don't want to drag others into it. It was my fault after all.

[Vermilion]

My best friend's Mom drove over to talk with my Dad but he still seem furious and quite aggressive at least he let her have my school things so I could finish some homework that is due soon.

My friend and her Mom said it is okay if I stayed but I feel I shouldn't. I feel bad for bothering them and all...
Dad didn't answer my text with my apology so I assume he's still mad.
But I guess just going home and getting over with whatever is the best option I have since I don't want to drag others into it. It was my fault after all.

You can't put all the blame on you also I hope it goes well

[Cool Mojo]

I think that you're right and your dad definitely overreacted. However, he probably panicked when his gun was apparently taken so he might have still been in shock when yelling at you. I hope everything is well now.