My life suddenly got screwed...

[TheFutureDoctor]

So yesterday I was chatting with this old friend of mine who changed schools. One thing led to another and she started talking about her crushes. Then she asked me about mine. Now if u know me, I never talk about stuff like that to anyone except my closest friends.(non existent ones :P ) But she egged me on and like said she told me hers so I can tell her mine and she promised not to tell and all that and I dont know what came over me I told her. I told her all the crushes I had ever had (3 only). She promised not to tell and even gave me advice about how to approach the girl I have a crush on recently. One reason I was so particular was my 2nd crush was my best friend,so its kinda awkward, I didnt want her to find out and ruin our friendship or make it awkward or whatever.

This BITCH (sorry bout the language) went over and BLURTED it out to my best friend. And coincidentially, my first crush was also there and she heard it along with 2-3 more of their friends. And my best friend was shocked and asked me bout it. And although she says she understands, Im not sure my ex-crush will. And I feel so embarrased, the school will know by now, and I just so want to kill that bitch who told on me. I skipped school today, cuz I just can't face those girls until I gather some confidence atleast. This is like the most humiliating thing that ever happened to me. What do I do? Now these girls are threatening to tell my crush, I dont want her to find out. You see, I have a diff. way of dealing with crushes, I dont do anything, just wait for them to blow over cuz they're nothing but hormonal stages anyway. This girl has become a close friend and I enjoy talking to her, I dont want to lose her if she finds out. I have been begging them not to tell, and she agreed in the end but I have no idea what to do. Wish I could just dig a hole and get in it and die.

I do know its my mistake, I should never have trusted that bitch but Im sorry, just dont know what came over me....:(:(

[ClaraWho]

You clearly don't know your mistake. Grow a pair, stop taking the 'easy' cowardly way.

For the GIRL you told, her perspective might have been that she was helping you out. She sees how utterly incompetent and impotent you are at dating, and tried to help make something happen in your life.

What's the big deal with someone finding out you LIKED/LIKE them? What age are you?

10 yr olds tease each other for liking girls, they don't get that intimate companionship with your preferred sexual persuasion is a wonderful thing. You are past that stage, or rather, you should be.

You know yourself that your approach to crushes, to social interactions and to what you share, they are all very different to most.

What I will recommend is not telling anyone who you USED to fancy. Most people find it flattering to find out someone likes them, even if it isn't reciprocal. But to find out you weren't liked Anymore. Well. That's very different.

If this is the most humiliating thing that has ever happened to you, then gosh, you've lived a very, very sheltered life...

Hiding achieves nothing, you'll still have to face your best friend/3rd crush when you eventually go back. What's the worst that can happen? She likes you back? She doesn't like you back and things are awkward for a week?

This will only be as bad as you make it out to be in your head. If you are unable to speak to her, you'll damage the friendship.

Don't you want the chance at a relationship?

That's the key question ^. If it means enough, you try. If it doesn't mean enough, then it isn't a very deep crush. In the latter case I wouldn't bother naming it one then, would save you a lot of hassle.

~ Clara

[jamie_n5]

Well I feel for you and can understand how you must feel. The truth is that this will blow over rather quickly so I hope that you can get through it alright. Please don't do anything to yourself. It may seen horrible right now but in a couple of days it will just silently go away. Talk to the girl that is your friend and I am sure she will understand may even be flattered that you have a crush on her.