I messed up.

[PinkFloyd]

Okay, before I start, I want to say that this thread fits in multiple sub-forums. It could go in this, (P101) Relationships and Dating, Mental Crisis Forum, VT General Hospital, and even Family and Friends on a stretch.


My girlfriend of almost two years could be pregnant. She probably isn't; I'm hoping she isn't, but it's a possibility. The worst part is that this wasn't a case of a condom breaking or some fluid spilling out at the end; no, we were so caught up in the moment, that we just went at it without any protection. (except for the withdrawal method, the worst form of birth control.) Her and I have been together for almost two years, and whatever happens happens and we will get through it. I just needed to get this out. I'm really freaking out of this and I totally deserve this for being a complete fucking idiot. Anyways, tomorrow I'm going to make an appointment at Planned Parenthood so she can get a pregnancy test. The good signs are that she isn't showing any symptoms of pregnancy. Oh, by the way, this isn't a late period thing, it's due roughly two weeks from now. Thanks for reading... I really hope everything's okay.

[iamsilkspectre]

Everything will be okay. Be strong and whatever you do be sure you are 100% positive it's the best option.

[mike16m]

odds are shes not pregnant just from doing it one time. also she can get a pregnancy test from cvs. you dont need to make an appointment

[Flapjack]

I wish you luck buddy!! I know it must be nervous and all but you must support her with whatever she chooses :) Keep us updated!!

[Hermes]

On balance, the chances are she is not pregnant.

The chances when neither partner uses any kind of birth control are about 1 in 4. Having pulled out should have made it much less likely.

On the other hand you mention that there is about two weeks to go before her period. That works against you because it means this is probably around the time she is ovulating. In fact this may explain why you did it when you did - she was probably incredibly horny for exactly that reason - her body was telling her "now is the time".

That also means you won't see much on a pregancy test, yet A pregnancy test also never returns a definite negative, i.e. it can never tell you "you are not pregnant" though it can tell you "you are pregnant".

The reason for that is because it measures the amount of a hormone called hCG which is produced by the embryo after implantation. Even when a girl gets pregnant the test cannot detect it between fertilisation and implantation. Once the embryo is implanted a test can pick it up but it depend on how senstive the test is. Lab blood tests are more sensitive than the urine tests available at the drug store.

In the circumstances I'd also look up emergency contraception, sometimes know by the trade name PlanB.

Also do your own research. It may seem a bit like closing the stable door after the horse has boulted but it's good to know how things work, the stats, the limitations of tests etc.

[Zachary G]

Good luck buddy, youll have to let us know how things worked out for you.

[rioo]

I hope everything is good. I know that's really hard. Keep support her anything her choice.

[Canadian Dream]

It's awesome you recognize that you messed up and you're doing all the right steps to make a good recovery :). I wish you the best of luck man, I hope everything goes your way in the end.

[Cadanance00]

Uh huh. Been there done that.

Good part is you're 18 & can get married if you want to. Since you've been together a couple of years you're probably a good match. It takes 2 to make a baby so she was willing too.

[SkyClad33605]

Have you tried the pee stick yet?

Also, just remember that while you contributed it's ultimately her body her choice. You can have an opinion and you are free to voice that opinion. But, she is free to disagree.

Whatever her choice is it's her body and her choice to make, and if you are a good guy you will support that choice whatever it may be.

[jamie_n5]

Well I wish you both luck. I think that this has taught you an important lesson.

[ethan-s]

Dang, I feel for you. Hope everything works out OK.

PS. I see you are 18. How old is she? Could you get married? After all, you have been together for two years.

[mcdaniels]

Okay, before I start, I want to say that this thread fits in multiple sub-forums. It could go in this, (P101) Relationships and Dating, Mental Crisis Forum, VT General Hospital, and even Family and Friends on a stretch.


My girlfriend of almost two years could be pregnant. She probably isn't; I'm hoping she isn't, but it's a possibility. The worst part is that this wasn't a case of a condom breaking or some fluid spilling out at the end; no, we were so caught up in the moment, that we just went at it without any protection. (except for the withdrawal method, the worst form of birth control.) Her and I have been together for almost two years, and whatever happens happens and we will get through it. I just needed to get this out. I'm really freaking out of this and I totally deserve this for being a complete fucking idiot. Anyways, tomorrow I'm going to make an appointment at Planned Parenthood so she can get a pregnancy test. The good signs are that she isn't showing any symptoms of pregnancy. Oh, by the way, this isn't a late period thing, it's due roughly two weeks from now. Thanks for reading... I really hope everything's okay.

i know where you come from, me and my girlfriend have had a few scares even though shes on the pill... but dont freak out yet.. first of all ive learned it is extremely difficult to get pregnant.. second of all sometimes my gf missed her period by 2-3 weeks and still wasnt pregnant, so plenty of time to relax.. also she shoed signs of pregnancy but they turned out to be nothing
Finally, if your fears come true, dont fret too much. the baby could be a blessing to you later although it may not seem like it now. or even consider giving it away or whatever you feel is best.. hope i helped

[PinkFloyd]

i know where you come from, me and my girlfriend have had a few scares even though shes on the pill... but dont freak out yet.. first of all ive learned it is extremely difficult to get pregnant.. second of all sometimes my gf missed her period by 2-3 weeks and still wasnt pregnant, so plenty of time to relax.. also she shoed signs of pregnancy but they turned out to be nothing
Finally, if your fears come true, dont fret too much. the baby could be a blessing to you later although it may not seem like it now. or even consider giving it away or whatever you feel is best.. hope i helped

Her and I went to Planned Parenthood and got a pregnancy test. Thankfully it came back negative. Deep down, I was pretty sure that she wasn't pregnant, but there was still an unknown that really freaked me out. Thanks for your input and support. :)

Dang, I feel for you. Hope everything works out OK.

PS. I see you are 18. How old is she? Could you get married? After all, you have been together for two years.

Well I wish you both luck. I think that this has taught you an important lesson.

We went to Planned Parenthood and got a pregnancy test. It came back negative, so that's good. I'm pretty sure that all along, I knew she wasn't pregnant, but there was still the unknown and that really got to me. By the way, she actually turnd 18 just yesterday, so we could get married. However, that wouldn't make much sense. Her and I are very close, but I still live at home and go to community college and she's just starting her senior year of high school. Thanks so much for your support. :)

Have you tried the pee stick yet?

Also, just remember that while you contributed it's ultimately her body her choice. You can have an opinion and you are free to voice that opinion. But, she is free to disagree.

Whatever her choice is it's her body and her choice to make, and if you are a good guy you will support that choice whatever it may be.

Yep, I made sure she knew that it's her body and her choice ultimately. Thankfully, we went to Planned Parenthood and the test came back negative. Thanks for your support. :)

Uh huh. Been there done that.

Good part is you're 18 & can get married if you want to. Since you've been together a couple of years you're probably a good match. It takes 2 to make a baby so she was willing too.

Yep, when we decided to be sexually active, we knew what we were signing up for and all the risks that there were. It's good that her and I went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested. It came back negative thankfully. I don't think we would've had the baby or got married (she's 18 too) though and that's because she's about to start her senior year of high school and I'm still living at home, but going to community college full time. Thanks for your support.

It's awesome you recognize that you messed up and you're doing all the right steps to make a good recovery :). I wish you the best of luck man, I hope everything goes your way in the end.

Yep, we definitely learned our lesson. We wen't to Planned Parenthood and got her tested and it came back negative thankfully. Thanks for your support. :)

I hope everything is good. I know that's really hard. Keep support her anything her choice.

Yeah, she means the world to me and I would support any choice she would've made in the event she was pregnant. We went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested. The test came back negative, which was a huge relief to us. Thanks for your support. :)

Good luck buddy, youll have to let us know how things worked out for you.

Everything's good. Her and I went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested and it came back negative thankfully. We both learned our lesson. Thank you for your support. :)

On balance, the chances are she is not pregnant.

The chances when neither partner uses any kind of birth control are about 1 in 4. Having pulled out should have made it much less likely.

On the other hand you mention that there is about two weeks to go before her period. That works against you because it means this is probably around the time she is ovulating. In fact this may explain why you did it when you did - she was probably incredibly horny for exactly that reason - her body was telling her "now is the time".

That also means you won't see much on a pregancy test, yet A pregnancy test also never returns a definite negative, i.e. it can never tell you "you are not pregnant" though it can tell you "you are pregnant".

The reason for that is because it measures the amount of a hormone called hCG which is produced by the embryo after implantation. Even when a girl gets pregnant the test cannot detect it between fertilisation and implantation. Once the embryo is implanted a test can pick it up but it depend on how senstive the test is. Lab blood tests are more sensitive than the urine tests available at the drug store.

In the circumstances I'd also look up emergency contraception, sometimes know by the trade name PlanB.

Also do your own research. It may seem a bit like closing the stable door after the horse has boulted but it's good to know how things work, the stats, the limitations of tests etc.

Thanks for all your helpful information. I didn't know a lot of it. I totally forgot to mention it, but about five minutes after the unprotected sex her and I had, she took a Plan B pill. We went to Planned parenthood and got her tested using lab equipment and it came back negative. We both learned our lesson. Thanks again for your information.

I wish you luck buddy!! I know it must be nervous and all but you must support her with whatever she chooses :) Keep us updated!!

We went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested, which came back negative, which was great. I'd say both of us learned our lesson. Thanks for your support. :)

odds are shes not pregnant just from doing it one time. also she can get a pregnancy test from cvs. you dont need to make an appointment

Planned Parenthood uses lab equipment and takes blood samples which work much better than the pee tests from drug stores. Plus, they allow walk-ins so that was really great. It was also awesome that the test came back negative. I'm pretty sure I knew all alone that she wasn't pregnant, but I wasn't positive, and that's what killed me.

Everything will be okay. Be strong and whatever you do be sure you are 100% positive it's the best option.

Thanks for your input. It really means a lot. We went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested, whcih came back negative, thankfully. We both learned our lesson for sure. Thanks for your support. :)

[Flapjack]

Her and I went to Planned Parenthood and got a pregnancy test. Thankfully it came back negative. Deep down, I was pretty sure that she wasn't pregnant, but there was still an unknown that really freaked me out. Thanks for your input and support. :)





We went to Planned Parenthood and got a pregnancy test. It came back negative, so that's good. I'm pretty sure that all along, I knew she wasn't pregnant, but there was still the unknown and that really got to me. By the way, she actually turnd 18 just yesterday, so we could get married. However, that wouldn't make much sense. Her and I are very close, but I still live at home and go to community college and she's just starting her senior year of high school. Thanks so much for your support. :)



Yep, I made sure she knew that it's her body and her choice ultimately. Thankfully, we went to Planned Parenthood and the test came back negative. Thanks for your support. :)



Yep, when we decided to be sexually active, we knew what we were signing up for and all the risks that there were. It's good that her and I went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested. It came back negative thankfully. I don't think we would've had the baby or got married (she's 18 too) though and that's because she's about to start her senior year of high school and I'm still living at home, but going to community college full time. Thanks for your support.



Yep, we definitely learned our lesson. We wen't to Planned Parenthood and got her tested and it came back negative thankfully. Thanks for your support. :)



Yeah, she means the world to me and I would support any choice she would've made in the event she was pregnant. We went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested. The test came back negative, which was a huge relief to us. Thanks for your support. :)



Everything's good. Her and I went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested and it came back negative thankfully. We both learned our lesson. Thank you for your support. :)



Thanks for all your helpful information. I didn't know a lot of it. I totally forgot to mention it, but about five minutes after the unprotected sex her and I had, she took a Plan B pill. We went to Planned parenthood and got her tested using lab equipment and it came back negative. We both learned our lesson. Thanks again for your information.



We went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested, which came back negative, which was great. I'd say both of us learned our lesson. Thanks for your support. :)



Planned Parenthood uses lab equipment and takes blood samples which work much better than the pee tests from drug stores. Plus, they allow walk-ins so that was really great. It was also awesome that the test came back negative. I'm pretty sure I knew all alone that she wasn't pregnant, but I wasn't positive, and that's what killed me.



Thanks for your input. It really means a lot. We went to Planned Parenthood and got her tested, whcih came back negative, thankfully. We both learned our lesson for sure. Thanks for your support. :)
I am glad it came back negative as you didn't want a baby :) A lesson to be more careful in the future!:P

[damon_fl]

that was cool that u went to pp w her. i kno guys who dont do that.

[jamie_n5]

I am happy to hear that things turned out good for both of you.

[PinkFloyd]

that was cool that u went to pp w her. i kno guys who dont do that.

The sad part is that they told me I was something like the fifth boyfriend they've seen with their girlfriend at PP. The employee I was taking to said she had been there for three years. The location I was at gets lots of people too. It's in the middle of a large metro area.

[Phosphene]

Glad to hear everything turned out like you hoped! c: As said above, it's a lesson learned, important to bear in mind in the future. From everything you've said you and your girlfriend seem to be very committed to the relationship and supportive of each other.

[Chris298]

Glad to hear everything worked out... I know what you were going through, I have had a couple of scares with my gf when things got a little intense and I didn't even pull out. I mean going by what you posted it always seemed lime the chances were low since you didn't cum in her, I mean sure you would have gotten some sperm inside her but it usually takes millions for just one to make it, I think when people are trying to get pregnant there is only like a 1 in 4 chance that the girl gets pregnant that month. So yeah hopefully this is just a lesson learned... I know after it happened to me I swore that I would never have sex again lol �� which lasted about a month, then I swore I would never do it again without a condom... Which I have been pretty good (but not perfect!) about... And my family would have not been supportive at all, both of us are going to college and have part time jobs but still live at home...

Oh And yeah if nothing else if it happens again there is always the morning after pill.