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Kawaii Bean
August 27th, 2016, 03:30 AM
I hate it.
I have mixed emotions flying everywhere. I think it's sick and weird to do. But then other times I kinda sorta like the idea of it. But so rarely do I think that.
My boyfriend thinks that I'm just talking crazy when I say I don't want to have sex, but I mean
it. I see no reason in sex at all.
I even get angry when he brings up the topic. Like, why? He doesn't seem to get that I don't like sex. And I hate affection, so he gets annoyed when I don't let him hug me, or kiss me on the cheek, or just hold hands. But I can't help it.
It's the way I am, I guess.

Sailor Mars
August 27th, 2016, 03:33 AM
It's not common that relationships aren't intimate, even to the extend of holding hands
or hugging. You should talk to your boyfriend, a one on one, and explain calmly about how you are with affection. It will save a lot of fights, and potential break up in the future.

Vermilion
August 27th, 2016, 04:06 AM
It's not that uncommon but is hard for a guy that wants everything to be pushed away. Like mars said speak to him. But honestly if you still want a relationship you both will have to give and take a little.

jamie_n5
August 27th, 2016, 11:01 AM
You may be an asexual person. You may develop a desire for sex down the road or remain asexual. You don't state your age either and that could be a reason why. The point is I guess we are what we are and can't change that.

Just JT
August 27th, 2016, 11:05 AM
Every relationship is different, and based on different things. No not bad or indifferent really, more just who you are or what you like. But if your feelin like he's pushing you that's not good

lemondrop
August 27th, 2016, 01:28 PM
asexual,maybe?