Why am I so stupid?

[Kuroshiro]

Ok, so essentially I met a guy on tinder, we met up irl and I had my first kiss. It was his first relationship as well so obviously we didn't want it to end, so the relationship was forced and naturally we broke up within a week. I kept telliig myself that this was bound to happen eventually and tried to move on but I didn't find anyone else and then he messages me saying how he "fucking misses me" and we should start off slow and of course I believe him and at a subconscious level I knew that this wasn't going to work out, that I should be smart enough to know this is bullshit. But I accept the offer and spent the next month or so either not talking or him asking me for nudes. So then I realise how bullshit this is and how fucking stupid I've been for believing him he still misses me when it is clear he doesn't . So I message him saying this isn't working out (not in an aggressive way in the slightest) and then he says that I should have know that it wasn't going to work out and that he told me that he was a bitch right from the very start. The most annoying part is that I tried to be the better person and wished him a good future relationship when I really just wanted to go all out on him. Now I just feel as if I've wasted my energy on something that was completely stupid and that I should have been smart enough to realise stuff sooner and just all around emotionally drained.

Sorry for not paragraphing and Amy bad spelling, grammar, sound logic etc

[jamie_n5]

I think he was just a jerk. All he was looking for was to use you and try to get you to send him nudes so he could get his kicks. So many guess only think with their little heads and only want sexual gratification. Being gay I think that I can understand and feel the girl's point of view better. Being not sexually attracted lets me just be friends with girls and understand them better. Don't get me wrong I still like seeing beautiful girls but just enjoy them in a different way. I wish you well in your search. Don't rely on social media or internet sites to find your true soulmate. He will come along and you will find true happiness.

[Uniquemind]

First off don't feel bad about yourself.

You aren't alone either, I have heard more than 20+ horrible stories from using internet-based dating services both from friends or from various youtube personalities who have been brave enough to share their stories.

Take this is a learning experience, go focus on other areas in your life, center yourself, and get back out there hopefully.

Tinder's reputation from what I can gleen, is that of a player's app, not so much a relationship app.

[ZzeWatermelon]

People go on Tinder to hook up, or get sex shots shared between themselves, there's nothing about relationships or feelings in there, just plain consommation of bodies and what they can do.
It's a jerk, and Tinder if full of these, trust me I've tried it and I know what you're saying. Best advice: get rid of that stupid app.