Reason why im afraid to have sex

[Kory123]

This girl i known for a while wants to "hook up" but i'm nervous because i hear on tv about women calling rape. My older brother told me to be careful when i have sex because a girl can call it rape and get me in trouble, anyone could lie and fake it. Im nervous that for some mysterious reason she might call rape ( i would never do that ). What i should do? I do not want my face to be on the news because of a stupid lie.:(

[Vermilion]

How old are you and her ? Plus what's the age of consent for where you are ?

[PinkFloyd]

My advice is to have sex with someone when you're in a committed relationship. (doesn't even have to be that, it could be a FWB, friend, etc.) That way, both you and her are sure to be comfortable and honest about everything going on. Sex is much more than the physical activity. It's two people giving themselves to the other person. If you just hook up with some random chick you barely know and you do something she doesn't like, (because you don't know her preferences) then she could panic and assume you're trying to take advantage of her.

[Kory123]

How old are you and her ? Plus what's the age of consent for where you are ?

both of us 15

[Living For Love]

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[mike16m]

i mean, it could happen but its really unlikely. more rapes go unreported than false rape claims... if you dont trust someone to not make up a rape claim, it might not be a good idea to have sex with her

[jamie_n5]

I don't think you should have sex just to have sex. I think that you should be in a relationship and really deeply care about each other. Sexual intercourse is the closest thing that two people can share with each other. Please don't rush into this so you can just say wow I had sex. Think before you act.

[Vermilion]

both of us 15

Unless you trust her completely and want to have sex with her don't

[Just JT]

My advice is to have sex with someone when you're in a committed relationship. (doesn't even have to be that, it could be a FWB, friend, etc.) That way, both you and her are sure to be comfortable and honest about everything going on. Sex is much more than the physical activity. It's two people giving themselves to the other person. If you just hook up with some random chick you barely know and you do something she doesn't like, (because you don't know her preferences) then she could panic and assume you're trying to take advantage of her.

This, all day long. Sex is a thing, a big thing, regardless of how you treat it. FWB, GF, BF whatever. You are going to be nude with this person, doing things to and for each other for pretty intense mutual pleasure. Having that "bond" with that person plays a huge part of it. You don't want to feel anything but desire for that mutual pleasure on your mind. If your feeling afraid she might call rape after, then either you, or your relationship or both are not ready for sex yet. So get to know her better.

If that's not good enough for her and she can't/won't wait for you to be ready, then let it go, there will be more opportunities. She may not be the one for you ATM. If she agrees or understands, then I'd work on your relationships trust and work to getting you more comfortable having sex with her

But also......id consider if this is something you really wana do ATM. Everyone gets only 1 "V-Card". I think it's nice if you can cash that in on "the one" person you give yourself to forever. At your (mine to) ages, lots can happen between now and when we find that person. But that's a personal choice. There is baggage that goes with sex, it's not just sticking yiur dick inside someone and having an orgasm.

Hope I helped

[lliam]

What i should do? I do not want my face to be on the news because of a stupid lie.:(



If you kinda panic that way, don't have sex with her.

Just have sex with a girl you really trust - even there's always a possibility that she cries "RAPE".

Think of a girl you like. You both may have a good relationship for years ... then it comes to a break up. And she changes. Hates you for some reasons. And she claimes rape. Happens all the time. Fortunately, not very often.

In the end, you've to be careful that your misgiving doesn't degenerate into a phobia.

[Nosuba]

You both have to agree having sex. It is true she could lie an say you force her and u could get in trouble if authorities believe her. Talk to her about it. I think she would not do it, she don't have the need (are u getting divorce? does she hate u and want u to disappear?). Anyway, if u are that scare, you could make a video with both saying you want to have sex together (not the act, just the agreement). It could be helpful in a hypothetical judge against u, so you will have some good proofs it was consensual.