My mom is crazy

[Kawaii Bean]

She really is.

She kicked me and my brothers out of the house a couple days ago because we "betrayed" her for liking the woman that my dad is staying with. We know the woman. She is my best friend's mom. We are very good friends. And my dad is staying with her because he lost his apartment and he needs to get another house soon. But anyway, she felt betrayed because we didn't tell her that my dad and my best friend's mom were "in a relationship" like its her concern when in reality my parents are divorced and what my dad is doing shouldn't even affect her.

Even if my dad was pursuing a relationship I could care less and she shouldn't take that out on us.

Then she wants to take us back, apologizing and crap, then forces me to go to a public school when I honestly don't want to go. I hate public school. It is hell for me. I was bullied a lot and faced a ton of mess while in public school. I did online school and it was good, much better, and I was doing better. I am depressed and public school was, lets say, killing me and not helping my condition. She thinks I don't wanna go back because I am shy. I AM shy, but I am NOT antisocial or awkward or whatever. I do have social anxiety, though. A lot of it. I survived school, don't get me wrong, but barely.

Ever since my parents got divorced my mom has been out of it and it makes me so stressed, I mean she's making my life hell.

I guess I just want to vent this.

[Cadanance00]

Your mom obviously has a lot of mental health issues. I'm sorry about that. It's something you have to find a way to live with. I know it's not fair. Every kid should have parents that are screwed together right, but more often than not, that's not the case. It's unfair to you and to your brothers, too. If there's any way you can make the situation better by coping with her craziness, then I hope you can do it. Draw on that strength that's deep within you to help you get through this, and help your brothers, too, if you can.

[Vermilion]

I'm really sorry this has been going on

[ClaraWho]

Okay, so I'd leave aside the pseudo-psychiatrists above diagnosing your mom as mentally unwell. She's acting in an extremely self-centred and juvenile manner.

The question that came to my mind reading what you said though was this; where is your dad? If your mother is as unreasonable as you say and your dad is getting on with his life, why are you living with her and not him?

If your mom wants you back, explain that you need a stable environment where your wellbeing and safety isn't threatened or at risk. That means she cannot threaten or throw you out of the house, prevent you from eating, etc. Remind her that he is your parent, he was just her husband. Now she is divorced it is only her relationship that has changed. He will always be your dad. That will never change and you are not getting involved in THEIR argument on EITHER side. If she didn't want that to happen she should have used contraception.

As for public school, it does seem like you are running away from rather than addressing your issues, as well as placing blame so as not to take responsibility for them. Some people will always be jerks, they are miserable and full of hate. You are responsible for your own wellbeing and happiness, it is your choices that directly influence the outcome. And I'm not saying it is easy because I promise you, you have my sympathy, but that won't help you. Think about the reasons why people are saying things.

Chin up and good luck, please feel free to chat,

~ Clara

[Flapjack]

Dude I am so sorry you have been going through this!! I'd try apologising and avoid saying anything that sets her off:)

[Dalcourt]

Ah well sorry to hear your Mom acts like that and treats you so badly.
I hear the same thing from a lot of friends who life in a similar situation with separated parents so a lot of women seem yo act like that.
Unfortunately I can't offer you a solution cuz talking to her won't work I guess?

[jamie_n5]

I feel really bad for you. I hope that your mom gets over her anger and frustration. She evidently wants your dad to feel miserable or something. It certainly isn't fair to take things out on you guys. I hope things work out alright.

[yeehaw]

I hope the relationship between you and your mother can be repaired, I mean, she's your mum. And I hope she doesn't interfere with you and your siblings' relationship with your dad, that would not be good for her at all.