Experimentation

[jowa205]

Over the last few months I've been hanging out with this certain boy. I've come to terms for a while that I'm bisexual since I've had feelings for girls (and have been sexually attracted to them), but I'm insanely attracted to this friend. We talk about girls, masturbation, porn and all that, but I really want more (not sex, but making out). How do I tell this to him? I know he's into girls, but he also likes to comment on how some guys look. And I don't want to ruin our friendship and risk everyone else finding out about my sexuality, since I'm not yet comfortable with telling anyone I'm bi. Thanks in advance.

[Just JT]

That's like seriously the mystery plagued by VT tbh. The way you tell him is with words. And it's a risk, calculate le risk. You take a plunge and let the dice roll where they may, or don't play the game

Do you get the feeling he may feel the same for you? Sometime convos on the topic in the third party help get an idea how people feel on different topic, with minimal risk. If he speaks negatively about same sex, then it's probably a no go.

Willing to talk and listen here if your interested...

[Emerald Dream]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[kyrocks03]

Well, being gay myself I think based on my very limited experience I can say that making out with another boy is a whole different thing than sexual activity. What I mean by that is that is it's probably an easier thing to masturbate with another boy than come right out and say you want to make out. All of my experience (again it's limited) with this sort of thing occurred at sleep overs and we always talked about things, and it has always started with masturbating and then progressed from there. Again, I'm by no means an expert, but if you want to get with him and try things, I suggest the sleep over route and then have a talk with him. You never know what will happen unless you bring up the subject.

[jamie_n5]

Well I think you need to talk with him and tell him you feel that you are Bi or just curious and find him attractive. He may feel the same way. If he reacts in a negative way you can just apologize to him and go on. If he is interested in experimenting too then you have accomplished that. Good luck.

[Just JT]

Well I think you need to talk with him and tell him you feel that you are Bi or just curious and find him attractive. He may feel the same way. If he reacts in a negative way you can just apologize to him and go on. If he is interested in experimenting too then you have accomplished that. Good luck.

Idk man....id feel it out more and try and get an idea how he feels about the topic first. Without knowing it's like a crapshoot, could go poorly and loose a good friend

[Zachary G]

Just JT has a point, I think it would be best to kinda bring it up in conversation to get an idea of where he is on the subject and for you to get a better idea on what your next move should be. IF he is really a good friend then the conversation shouldnt be a problem, but if you have doubts about your friendship then. . . Just be careful and good luck.

[Ben7]

As has already been said, especially as pointed out by JT, you should probably be observant in conversation and look for cues that will tell you where your friend stands and so will give you a better idea.

The sleepover idea is also good I think as sleepovers may be circumstances in which things can get more "intimate", depending of course.

Regardless if you are direct about this or not it will always be a risk. Whatever you do just keep in mind that you risk perhaps losing a friend. But it may not necessarily turn out either. it can really go either way and you should be prepared for everything. Good luck