Everyones fear of nudity

[mcdaniels]

what is the big deal with being nude.. hardly any friends of mine take showers together after football and would have a heartattack at the thought of chilling nude.. as teenagers is it not something we should all go through, seeing whats the same and whats different about each other.. seems weird to me

[NZPerson]

Because of peoples fear of being judged. Children dont care because they dont know any better, teens care because of the incredible social judgement from school where any diffrences are mocked so people are afraid of others findig out about any diffrences. And elderly people dont care because nurses and doctors have been loking and prodding their bodys all their life.

[Kyle37]

The big deal is people are afraid of getting erections. Plain and simple.

[VTGEEK14]

because I guess some people are afraid of dick size or maybe just think it's "gay" there are many reasons why people are afraid of being nude. I don't like being nude near other people to though.

[mcdaniels]

Because of peoples fear of being judged. Children dont care because they dont know any better, teens care because of the incredible social judgement from school where any diffrences are mocked so people are afraid of others findig out about any diffrences. And elderly people dont care because nurses and doctors have been loking and prodding their bodys all their life.

the stigma aroud teens shouldnt exist though

[Flapjack]

I think it is cultural pressure telling people to cover up and people's fear of being judged:)

[Phosphene]

I think it is cultural pressure telling people to cover up and people's fear of being judged:)

I totally agree with this.

[NZPerson]

the stigma aroud teens shouldnt exist though

Its the society we have grown up in, not our fault.

[AussieNicholas]

I don't think it's a fear necessarily. I think it's one of those "think of the children!" type of things where people can't help but see nudity as sexual and something that shouldn't be displayed publicly. Over time, I think teens sort of just go with it and assume it's wrong because they also see it as something sexual.

[sara___]

I like my body and i'm not shy. I don't go around showing my vag to people but if they happen to see it ..... oh well

[Just JT]

IMO this is a legit good topic. And not only from a puberty thing either. It's a good topic to just conversation on.

Puritans from an early age have been taught, and for generations after, to cover up. Americans bring a huge Puritan in fleece to our culture. It's something I never understood as well as I do now until recently. We're taught we shouldn't be seen nude and it's shameful. I don't get it. It's a human body, there all different, so will every penis, bagina, breast or any other part were taught to cover up and hide from people to see.

For me, I don't necessarily call myself a nudist, more a naturist. It's not a sexual thing, but people do get sexually stimulated. That's a natural thing, it happens. And depending on the circumstances, you'd cover that up out of curtousy for those who don't wana see it. Others don't care

We're taught from an rely age at the beginning of puberty, we're going through changes. And we're taught all those changer are different from everyone else, which is true. The key word is different. Who wants to be different down there right? We don't cause we're taught the right stuff in the wrong way. They got the right message, with the wrong themes.

I really enjoy being nude with people. Friends family or complete strangers if that's were I am. I find it natural normal and liberating tbh. I've never had anything inappropriate or an unwanted sexual advance on me or anything like that happen. I'm made to feel as a mature human being, by everyone, on the same playing field as anyone else who's there, regardless of age. Yeah, all ages, young and old, I've been nude with them and I'm viewed as an equal part of that community. At my age....

See I think clothes places so many social prejudices on us cause of the size shape color brand or what ever were wearing. Remove the clothes what's left to really judge someone? Not the penis or breasts cause everyone's got them and there all different. Your size shape color of skin? Nope, that's all different to. Only thing left to form an opinion on someone is who they are.

I've made some great friendships with complete strangers, of all ages, where I meet them nude. It's been the best thing for my self esteem, which is usually very very very low btw. I'm more confident in who I am, my opinions, understanding of things in life in general, and people value my opinion.

Is it normal,to chill with other teens nude? IMO I'd say yeah, well it should be. But so many people are still so hung up on the values that have been handed down for generations. We just can't get past it. So many other countries just don't get us here. Other modern countries you'll see open showers on the beach for people to use after a day at the beach. I've seen it, entire families. First time seeing it was a little shocking. My first thought was of that was in the states the parents would be jailed, kids put in foster care.

Other parts of the world nudity and sexuality is just not even a needed conversation at all. The Puritan values strike again!!! Some of the best friends I have I've chilled nude with. Showered with, shared a bed nude with, what ever nude with them. I think it brings you closer, a tighter bond, it's a good, confident feeling, not a sexual one at all. We're taught from an early age that the only reason to be nude is to bath or to have sex. So,we associate nudity with some sorts of sexual activity. I don't get it.

So should we all just get over this? Hell ya we should. I've done some reading on this. And believe it or not, there is a growing trend towards this. And not to get off topic, but also a growing trend to not circumsise new born boys. But then again, why was it ever done anyways? Now a better understanding of the how comes and the whys I think is showing through. I'm the end, it's different reasons for everyone, different opinions feelings about nudity, circumcision, or anything in life.

It just doesn't matter and we should be moving twards more of a judge free zone on these types of things. Let's together practice what we preach and teach our own children when we have them the values that make sense, make them feel good, confident and free. Not shamed, low self esteem and captive by clothing.

Sorry for the long read, just feel strongly about this

[pjones]

great post just_jt

i believe our parents have the most influence, as they continue what they learned from their parents. puberty plays a big part too i think, as well as peer pressure. my dad has always been open about his body, walking from bedroom to bathroom nude. my brother and me showered with him countless times so we learned there was nothing shameful about our bodies. for a few years the two of us never wore clothes at home until i started puberty, then mom didn't want to see an erect penis even tho she knew it occurred naturally.

couple of years ago dad took me and my bro to a naturist resort and we had a blast. last year mom went with us so we are allowed to be nude again at home, with our friends as long as their parents approve. we went again this year too.

going to a resort is awesome. you meet a lot of great people. every age from grandparents to toddlers, but not surprising, few teens but some preteens that haven't started puberty. reading posts here i think once puberty starts teens become cautious about displaying themselves. nobody wants to be different so we hide under clothes that others find acceptable.

if you choose a clothing lifestyle good for you. if you want to try a naturist lifestyle i would encourage you to try, but safely please. don't go stripping off where it's not acceptable and get in trouble.

[Just JT]

Same to you pjones. It's so true. I've never been to a resort, but I'd like to. I been to places in a neighboring state where public nudity is legal. (Yeah I know and in the USA to) but you don't see people walking down the sett nude. You can if you choose to, but it's not socially acceptable to.


The different ages I think really kinda pulls it all together as a family thing, defiantly not sexual. And I think it helps all the younger ages "get it" about bodies changing and being secure in how they feel about it. You see it from toddlers to what ever age. Wana know what your guna look like at what ever age? Take a look around.

Safety is huge, good point, always first. In the end it's a personal choice. It's not for everyone. We needa be sure of others (even friends) motifs.

[jamie_n5]

I don't understand all this with people being so overly modest either. I have a nice body, nothing special, but I am not shy or modest about other guys seeing me naked. I think that todays society has drilled into some kids heads that people are so bad and the world is full of sex perverts or something. This is not true. Of course there are some perverts around but hey guys I seriously doubt your friends and classmates are perverts. We are all curious about what the other guy or girl looks like. Anyway as I said I have no hang ups about other guys or for that matter girls seeing me naked.

[nekid]

I'm not ready for girls to see me naked, mom does but she's mom, cause I haven't started puberty. But I don't care if other boys see me. I think when I finally start puberty and look like the other boys I'd be more comfortable being seen by girls, tho I don't know where that would ever happen.

[mattsmith48]

I guess some people just fear of what people will think of their body. Personally I dont give a shit

[peter1994]

This is a very Anglo-American hang-up. I grew up in Finland and Japan. In Finland, everybody showers and uses the sauna naked together (sex segregated) at school and public pools/saunas. In Japan, almost everybody visits the public baths once a week where everybody (again sex segregated) is naked together in the baths and showers. Nobody of any age has any hang-ups about being seen naked. Yes, you do get gay guys there too, who like the eye-candy, but nobody pays them any attention. The predominant attitude is - If someone wants to look, let them - no skin off my nose. The only hang-ups about nudity seem to be in Muslim places and UK/North America.

[Just JT]

peter1994. Yeah a lot of other countries are way more open like I'm Finland. I have a friend I met here who's from holland I think, says the same thing. I've talked to people in other countries all over Europe like Germany Spain Italy what ever.

It's just not an issue there, like not even with talking about. But here in the states, while different thing. It's such a hang up, I really believe it may be like a route cause for SOME people to have some sort of sexual/gender identity/not really sure of the right word to use there, because it's like nature is suppressed or something. And is like forced out in other avenues.

Hey, here, taking a piss in public is a sexual crime. Yeah, a sexual crime. And if caught and prosecuted they'd have to register as a sex offender for life

Talk about a hang up huh?

[Joel99]

I'm personally pretty uncomfortable being naked around others, but I think it is because of the "stigma" around it.

[ClaraWho]

I am incredibly sexy. The thing is, I know it. And I don't care if I was the only one to ever know it.

It's not a 'fear' that stops me being naked around others.

I value my body highly, to me I am unique and special. It's the same reason I don't have sex with guys/girls who express interest. My body is only for my lovers enjoyment, he is the only one (aside from doctors obviously) who gets to know me intimately.

So in summary, I value my body too highly to show it off to just anyone. And I'd rather be liked for my personality and intellect, than for how hot I am.

~ Clara

[Desynchronized]

IMO this is a legit good topic. And not only from a puberty thing either. It's a good topic to just conversation on.

Puritans from an early age have been taught, and for generations after, to cover up. Americans bring a huge Puritan in fleece to our culture. It's something I never understood as well as I do now until recently. We're taught we shouldn't be seen nude and it's shameful. I don't get it. It's a human body, there all different, so will every penis, bagina, breast or any other part were taught to cover up and hide from people to see.

For me, I don't necessarily call myself a nudist, more a naturist. It's not a sexual thing, but people do get sexually stimulated. That's a natural thing, it happens. And depending on the circumstances, you'd cover that up out of curtousy for those who don't wana see it. Others don't care

We're taught from an rely age at the beginning of puberty, we're going through changes. And we're taught all those changer are different from everyone else, which is true. The key word is different. Who wants to be different down there right? We don't cause we're taught the right stuff in the wrong way. They got the right message, with the wrong themes.

I really enjoy being nude with people. Friends family or complete strangers if that's were I am. I find it natural normal and liberating tbh. I've never had anything inappropriate or an unwanted sexual advance on me or anything like that happen. I'm made to feel as a mature human being, by everyone, on the same playing field as anyone else who's there, regardless of age. Yeah, all ages, young and old, I've been nude with them and I'm viewed as an equal part of that community. At my age....

See I think clothes places so many social prejudices on us cause of the size shape color brand or what ever were wearing. Remove the clothes what's left to really judge someone? Not the penis or breasts cause everyone's got them and there all different. Your size shape color of skin? Nope, that's all different to. Only thing left to form an opinion on someone is who they are.

I've made some great friendships with complete strangers, of all ages, where I meet them nude. It's been the best thing for my self esteem, which is usually very very very low btw. I'm more confident in who I am, my opinions, understanding of things in life in general, and people value my opinion.

Is it normal,to chill with other teens nude? IMO I'd say yeah, well it should be. But so many people are still so hung up on the values that have been handed down for generations. We just can't get past it. So many other countries just don't get us here. Other modern countries you'll see open showers on the beach for people to use after a day at the beach. I've seen it, entire families. First time seeing it was a little shocking. My first thought was of that was in the states the parents would be jailed, kids put in foster care.

Other parts of the world nudity and sexuality is just not even a needed conversation at all. The Puritan values strike again!!! Some of the best friends I have I've chilled nude with. Showered with, shared a bed nude with, what ever nude with them. I think it brings you closer, a tighter bond, it's a good, confident feeling, not a sexual one at all. We're taught from an early age that the only reason to be nude is to bath or to have sex. So,we associate nudity with some sorts of sexual activity. I don't get it.

So should we all just get over this? Hell ya we should. I've done some reading on this. And believe it or not, there is a growing trend towards this. And not to get off topic, but also a growing trend to not circumsise new born boys. But then again, why was it ever done anyways? Now a better understanding of the how comes and the whys I think is showing through. I'm the end, it's different reasons for everyone, different opinions feelings about nudity, circumcision, or anything in life.

It just doesn't matter and we should be moving twards more of a judge free zone on these types of things. Let's together practice what we preach and teach our own children when we have them the values that make sense, make them feel good, confident and free. Not shamed, low self esteem and captive by clothing.

Sorry for the long read, just feel strongly about this

well said. I dont think i need to add anything up. Agree with it to the bits.

[pconnor2001]

I don't think teens round here are shy about being naked. Same sex nudity anyway. I mean we all change and shower naked together in gym class and locker room.

At friend's homes I have skinny dipped with friends. None of us minded being naked and neither did their parents.

[Gopher]

comfortable being naked around friends or family . i dont see the problem with, its an american culture that one should be shameful of their bodies

[Barbara.]

I dont like anyone to see me nude if it can be helped.
It's not that i have a fear of nudity, it's just that i like to leave it to peoples imagination.

[Just JT]

I dont like anyone to see me nude if it can be helped.
It's not that i have a fear of nudity, it's just that i like to leave it to peoples imagination.


It's a personal thing really. Your idea does leave something for the imagination so...

[Canadian Dream]

Lots of changes happen during puberty and many teenagers are insecure with showing their body and being judged because things change so fast. They don't know how others will react and so it's hard to predict if people are ok with how you are (even though they are most of the time). I find it settles down more as you approach adulthood and things slow down. You start understanding that in the end most people don't care what you look like and it's ok to be nude.

[Barbara.]

It's a personal thing really. Your idea does leave something for the imagination so...
Lol.

[Zachary G]

I blame it all on social media and body shaming. Society wants you to think that you have to look a certain way or have a certain body build in order to be accepted when that is not the case.

[Jameson9]

Because of peoples fear of being judged. Children dont care because they dont know any better, teens care because of the incredible social judgement from school where any diffrences are mocked so people are afraid of others findig out about any diffrences. And elderly people dont care because nurses and doctors have been loking and prodding their bodys all their life.

Well said

[Hermes]

I think there are a number of things at work.

People have mentioned different attitudes in different places and I am sure that is real. I live in the UK and it seems to be those in mainland Europe are much less uptight about nudity than we are. The Dutch and even more so the Scandinavians have a reputation for being very laid back about nudity. I have been to Holand and seeing girls and women topless on the beach, i.e. a normal beach not spedifically a nudist beach, was not unusual. The extent to which Muslim women are expected to cover up takes things to a whole new level and trumps even the victorian view that legs were rude and must be covered (even on tables, in some cases).

People have mentioned that young children seem unconcerned by nudity and it obviously it could be a factor that it takes time for the attitudes of the society you live in to become ingrained but I think there is a little more to it than that. I remember when I was five and had just started primary school some of the boys had a little competition to see who could pee highest into the air. Even at that age none of us would have walked around school naked but during that little "competition" no-one was unduly concerned about getting checked out.

One of the things I remember about starting puberty was become more aware of my cock. It seems like it had become of more significant part of me even before it actually grown much. I think maybe we project that onto other people, i.e. we assume they are as interested in our cocks as we are when I am sure that is not the case. Yes, they'll probably have a quick glance and make a mental comparison but probably won't dwell on it.

On the subject of comparisons, though, how much does it matter? If someone sees me and is impressed, or even jealous, if he doesn't say anything how does that affect me. The same if he is smug because his is bigger. If people do make immature remarks they are just that, immature remarks and the problem is the immaturity of the person making the remark not the person about whom the remark is being made or the nudity that made the remark possible.

[Vermilion]

People judging and rumours plus embarrassment

[Henri-K]

Many people tend to be shy. when i step up and take off my clothes at first, many of my friends would go like wow man you'd actually do that. But soon they won't mind me being naked although they still refuse to be.

[pjones]

Many people tend to be shy. when i step up and take off my clothes at first, many of my friends would go like wow man you'd actually do that. But soon they won't mind me being naked although they still refuse to be.

i have a good friend that prefers to remain clothed, but is comfortable if I'm not. his choice, not right and not wrong

[Cadanance00]

I grew up in a household where we all saw each other naked mostly because of my mom's attidudes that your body is in no way something to be ashamed of, but when I started having gym in school I was surprised and intimidated by other kids' attitudes. My school is very diverse and I find that attitudes are different between ethnic groups.

The first time I popped a boner changing I got made fun of and that made me shy of being seen naked at school or at the pool for a long time. Also, I'm not homophobic but I don't like being looked over by a gay guy. Just creeps me, so I understand why girls don't like to be seen naked.

[Nicole4All]

I suspect this is somewhat different for boys versus girls. All of us are taught to be modest and cover up from the time we are kids. And we all tend to fear being judged. But for guys, arousal is very.......observable. And guys tend to be more homophobic. That's why two hetero girls can share a bed but seldom two guys.

[SeeEmilyPlay]

I suspect this is somewhat different for boys versus girls. All of us are taught to be modest and cover up from the time we are kids. And we all tend to fear being judged. But for guys, arousal is very.......observable. And guys tend to be more homophobic. That's why two hetero girls can share a bed but seldom two guys.

Yeah, according to my brother the boys are very modest in the locker room / showers, specially teens and younger adults. Girls don't seem to care, everybody just gets naked.

[FernyGirl]

I myself am a nudist, and I genuinely dislike clothes, but I understand why some people like them. Our culture generally follows what the media says they should like and what they should be like. Ergo, if one does not match those expectations, they feel uncomfortable demonstrating that fact.

[Trevorkid]

I think guys worry about size a lot at this age cuz some guys have developed and others haven't.

[pjones]

I think guys worry about size a lot at this age cuz some guys have developed and others haven't.

that is one reason for sure

[Trevorkid]

Yeah, according to my brother the boys are very modest in the locker room / showers, specially teens and younger adults. Girls don't seem to care, everybody just gets naked.

Do girls get nervous about others seeing their breasts ?

[SethfromMI]

I never had a problem with being nude around others, but some people are worried what others are going to think or say

[pconnor2001]

Well not everyone is shy about being naked. We all change and shower together at school. So I aint't shy about being naked around other boys or like my mom os friend's moms.

Girls though.... I dunno.

[Devinsoccer]

People fear nudity because if others see their body, they think thell get kidnapped and raped. Then again, you got speedos and thong bathing suits, which are on the edge of nudity and people wear those... I personally want to be naked 24/7, but I don't make the rules, I think its so people won't have an acidental kiss with the parts, or an acidental slip in.

[hesaidhesaid]

IMO this is a legit good topic. And not only from a puberty thing either. It's a good topic to just conversation on.

Puritans from an early age have been taught, and for generations after, to cover up. Americans bring a huge Puritan in fleece to our culture. It's something I never understood as well as I do now until recently. We're taught we shouldn't be seen nude and it's shameful. I don't get it. It's a human body, there all different, so will every penis, bagina, breast or any other part were taught to cover up and hide from people to see.

For me, I don't necessarily call myself a nudist, more a naturist. It's not a sexual thing, but people do get sexually stimulated. That's a natural thing, it happens. And depending on the circumstances, you'd cover that up out of curtousy for those who don't wana see it. Others don't care

We're taught from an rely age at the beginning of puberty, we're going through changes. And we're taught all those changer are different from everyone else, which is true. The key word is different. Who wants to be different down there right? We don't cause we're taught the right stuff in the wrong way. They got the right message, with the wrong themes.

I really enjoy being nude with people. Friends family or complete strangers if that's were I am. I find it natural normal and liberating tbh. I've never had anything inappropriate or an unwanted sexual advance on me or anything like that happen. I'm made to feel as a mature human being, by everyone, on the same playing field as anyone else who's there, regardless of age. Yeah, all ages, young and old, I've been nude with them and I'm viewed as an equal part of that community. At my age....

See I think clothes places so many social prejudices on us cause of the size shape color brand or what ever were wearing. Remove the clothes what's left to really judge someone? Not the penis or breasts cause everyone's got them and there all different. Your size shape color of skin? Nope, that's all different to. Only thing left to form an opinion on someone is who they are.

I've made some great friendships with complete strangers, of all ages, where I meet them nude. It's been the best thing for my self esteem, which is usually very very very low btw. I'm more confident in who I am, my opinions, understanding of things in life in general, and people value my opinion.

Is it normal,to chill with other teens nude? IMO I'd say yeah, well it should be. But so many people are still so hung up on the values that have been handed down for generations. We just can't get past it. So many other countries just don't get us here. Other modern countries you'll see open showers on the beach for people to use after a day at the beach. I've seen it, entire families. First time seeing it was a little shocking. My first thought was of that was in the states the parents would be jailed, kids put in foster care.

Other parts of the world nudity and sexuality is just not even a needed conversation at all. The Puritan values strike again!!! Some of the best friends I have I've chilled nude with. Showered with, shared a bed nude with, what ever nude with them. I think it brings you closer, a tighter bond, it's a good, confident feeling, not a sexual one at all. We're taught from an early age that the only reason to be nude is to bath or to have sex. So,we associate nudity with some sorts of sexual activity. I don't get it.

So should we all just get over this? Hell ya we should. I've done some reading on this. And believe it or not, there is a growing trend towards this. And not to get off topic, but also a growing trend to not circumsise new born boys. But then again, why was it ever done anyways? Now a better understanding of the how comes and the whys I think is showing through. I'm the end, it's different reasons for everyone, different opinions feelings about nudity, circumcision, or anything in life.

It just doesn't matter and we should be moving twards more of a judge free zone on these types of things. Let's together practice what we preach and teach our own children when we have them the values that make sense, make them feel good, confident and free. Not shamed, low self esteem and captive by clothing.

Sorry for the long read, just feel strongly about this

This. Society has a lot of placed in values- privacy and all. But a lot of people use that privacy value and tend to exploit it. We shouldn't fear nudity and we shouldn't be judgmental either. If you happen to see someone with a big dick, then so be it. It's more how he approaches you as a person that matters. There are a lot more big issues in the world than something so petty. :metal:

[shamrockgirl02]

I like my body and i'm not shy. I don't go around showing my vag to people but if they happen to see it ..... oh well

Lol, I like your casual mindset, I'm sort of the same ;)

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I like my body and i'm not shy. I don't go around showing my vag to people but if they happen to see it ..... oh well

Lol, I like your casual mindset, I'm sort of the same ;)

I totally agree with Sara and Erin, I spend most of my time nude around the house, and of course I be naked in the school and pool locker room's and showers, as well as various naturist events like at naturist swims and beach etc.:yes:. X

[MaeFae]

Definitely a judgement thing, everyone is scared that they don't 'look right' or 'good enough.'

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Definitely a judgement thing, everyone is scared that they don't 'look right' or 'good enough.'
Mae you are right but it shouldn't be that way, everyone should be proud of their bodies no matter what :)
X

[SeeEmilyPlay]

Do girls get nervous about others seeing their breasts ?

I don't but some do. In my experience most girls don't get nervous at all, specially if they are in a context where everyone is naked (like the locker room).

[Kyle37]

People fear nudity because if others see their body, they think thell get kidnapped and raped. Then again, you got speedos and thong bathing suits, which are on the edge of nudity and people wear those... I personally want to be naked 24/7, but I don't make the rules, I think its so people won't have an acidental kiss with the parts, or an acidental slip in.

Do you not realize how quickly disease would spread if our sweaty butt cheeks all sat on the same place?

[Devinsoccer]

Do you not realize how quickly disease would spread if our sweaty butt cheeks all sat on the same place?

Thats why I would bring a cussion around to sit on.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

I used to be nervous. After a while I got used to it. Now I don't mind

[pjones]

Do you not realize how quickly disease would spread if our sweaty butt cheeks all sat on the same place?

if you attend a naturist resort you always have a towel with you to sit on. and if you don't, you will be reminded quickly to get one.

[Sean4U]

This is a very interesting topic. I personally have no problem with nudity, as a matter of fact my brothers and I usually are naked in out portion of the house most of the time. I talked to my dad about this topic and he said it is something that he didn't experience as a teen. Showers were taken in PE and sports programs all the time and guys usually just carried their towels to the drying room walking naked through the locker room. This was back in the 80's so something has changed since my dad was a our age. Maybe like has been said parents beat it into our heads to be careful cause of perverts, but also it was said on here a while back those perverts more than likely aren't our class mates. Even the camp I went to as an 8 year old had open showers for the boys (girls side had individual showers) but in the past 5 years they closed the boys shower room and made it with individual shower areas.

[Ethan_Elric]

I think that many people are uncomfortable with nudity because they are either self conscious, or they think of it in a sexual manner.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I think that many people are uncomfortable with nudity because they are either self conscious, or they think of it in a sexual manner.

I would totally agree Ethan :yes:

[Kyle37]

if you attend a naturist resort you always have a towel with you to sit on. and if you don't, you will be reminded quickly to get one.

Ya, it's fine to be naked at a resort thats specifically for it, but I was responding to a guy who thought all being clothed was about is not bumping into each other. I'm not opposed to nudity (hell I'm nude now), but there's a well defined and reasonable reason why it's much better for everyone to have cloths in public.

[pjones]

Ya, it's fine to be naked at a resort thats specifically for it, but I was responding to a guy who thought all being clothed was about is not bumping into each other. I'm not opposed to nudity (hell I'm nude now), but there's a well defined and reasonable reason why it's much better for everyone to have cloths in public.

i absolutely agree with you. has to be the proper setting

[Falcons_11]

I think that being nude is gradually being excepted more and more than it was in the past. I am nude in PE in the locker room changing and showering. Also being nude at home really isn't that big of a deal. I wouldn't run nude down the street though. But at home I believe it's okay.

[Just JT]

I think that being nude is gradually being excepted more and more than it was in the past. I am nude in PE in the locker room changing and showering. Also being nude at home really isn't that big of a deal. I wouldn't run nude down the street though. But at home I believe it's okay.

Think your right. I agree. And I've spent a lot of time nude myself, alone and with people in different settings.

The really crazy thing is though, like I'm in this program, and I live there short term, they actually have a rule about no nudity, except in the shower. Not even in the bathroom, but only in the shower. And no masturbating, al all. I get there is no privacy, absolutely none. But people are so up in a twist about some of the most natural things in life, they view nudity and masturbation as completly sexual. I get it, it is to a point, but to make a rule of none at all, is over the top.

I still wonder how they regulate it. There not doing a good job

[Svetlana2000]

being nude is not a big deal at all. i like my body and i dont mind people see me nude. plus nudity doesnt have anything to do with sex, i just love the feeling.

[steellord321]

I always thought its kind of pointless to change in basically nothing and then worry about losing 1 last piece of clothes. Like hello if i'm into you being shirtless pantless and barefoot is enough but no, i read on here guys go in the showers in their underwear like there's anything left to hide worth the hassle. Just seems crazy

So it can't be fear of nudity but fear of reaction. I get shit for being uncut, another for hard ons. If everyone ELSE is cool i have no reason to be afraid

Of course, i've seen guys ripped on for how they look shirtless or their feet or anything else so it must just be fear of teasing over our dicks that sets us off

[MaeFae]

Definitely a fear thing. Once you realize why people don't want to be nude around each other, I find the fear sort of dies out (at least for me it did).

[KBar33]

Ugh, social stigma. It is so stupid to me that as humans, the most intelligent species of animals on the planet, we can't get past seeing each other in our god-given natural form. This problem is especially prevalent among boys and it honestly pisses me off that society has conditioned us that being nude together is somehow a gay issue when it isn't. I'm not a nudist, but when me and my friends need to change or just wanna horse around, we don't care whether or not we are naked. We all have the same parts man like wtf is the issue. Granted some people are self conscious about their bodies, that of which I can understand personally. Aside from that really, I find it completely asinine that we as a whole are so hellbent on keeping this illogical societal stigma in place.

[NewLeafsFan]

Interesting point. Most of My friends and I have not seen eachother naked. Only time I did was when i pantsed my one friend as a joke.

Guys now, at least in Canada, it seems are a lot more modest than they were in previous generations.

[rraayy98]

I don't mind others to see me naked. It's normal.

[Hufflepufflife]

Society

[mick01]

I'm in an all boy school and showers after pe are mandatory. For some boys being naked in front of the rest of us is a horrible experience. They stand and face the wall so no one can see there dicks and they wrap a towel around them and put there underwear on with the towel still on. I feel bad for them. If they only knew how little it matters if someone sees them naked. I've seen guys look at my junk and I don't care.

[Mina]

Nah I'm not afraid :p I luv being naked it feels so gud n free :3 my mommy n baby bro r nudist too so it's so nice living like this way I dun wanna live another way :) jus enjoy!

[Anniebanannie]

Ugh, social stigma. Granted some people are self conscious about their bodies, that of which I can understand personally. Aside from that really, I find it completely asinine that we as a whole are so hellbent on keeping this illogical societal stigma in place.

Are you saying that the self-conscious people are not self-conscious because of the stigma? :what:


I'm in this program, and I live there short term, they actually have a rule about no nudity, except in the shower. Not even in the bathroom, but only in the shower. And no masturbating, al all. I get there is no privacy, absolutely none.

How have you managed in the program?

[KBar33]

I want to make sure that I read that right, this message is going off of the assumption that you thought that I didn't believe that people's insecurities with nudity stem from social stigma. If that's what you meant, again correct me if I'm wrong on this, then I didn't say that at all. What I said is that some people aren't willing to be naked because of their own insecurities, I didn't say that it is or is not tied to that social stigma or that they are or are not because of pressure from society. The point I am getting across is that some people simply aren't comfortable being naked because of their own insecurities and their own personal demons and that it is totally fine if they don't want to be naked in front of others. What I did say is that in basically every scenario it is completely asinine and illogical that we AS A WHOLE are hellbent on stigmatizing the human body as something to keep hidden and locked away, when we came into this world baring it all. That's what I said, I didn't say that it's people's fault or that societal stigma does or does not play a factor in people's insecurities, because if you read the other part then you would know that I said that I am completely against any and all stigmatization of human anatomy. I am more than willing to accept that people's fear or insecurities of nudity DO stem from societal conditioning, but I allready drove home the point that I hate stigma in all cases. Not to sound like I'm mad or anything because I'm really not haha. I just wanna drive his point home I guess.

[Anniebanannie]

I want to make sure that I read that right, this message is going off of the assumption that you thought that I didn't believe that people's insecurities with nudity stem from social stigma. If that's what you meant, again correct me if I'm wrong on this, then I didn't say that at all. What I said is that some people aren't willing to be naked because of their own insecurities, I didn't say that it is or is not tied to that social stigma or that they are or are not because of pressure from society. The point I am getting across is that some people simply aren't comfortable being naked because of their own insecurities and their own personal demons and that it is totally fine if they don't want to be naked in front of others. What I did say is that in basically every scenario it is completely asinine and illogical that we AS A WHOLE are hellbent on stigmatizing the human body as something to keep hidden and locked away, when we came into this world baring it all. That's what I said, I didn't say that it's people's fault or that societal stigma does or does not play a factor in people's insecurities, because if you read the other part then you would know that I said that I am completely against any and all stigmatization of human anatomy. I am more than willing to accept that people's fear or insecurities of nudity DO stem from societal conditioning, but I allready drove home the point that I hate stigma in all cases. Not to sound like I'm mad or anything because I'm really not haha. I just wanna drive his point home I guess.


Ok. I think I get it. There is society's stigma. There is people's insecurities that may or may not involve society's stigma. And there are personal demons. So it could be any of these, or some combination.

Any, yes, I read all of your earlier post. :)

[Kory123]

1) The problem is the fear of people being judged and unwanted. That's why children prefer brand named clothes, so when people look at them, they don't get judged like a poor person. They want to be treated normally.

if you are satisfied with my reason above, than stop reading. because below is just a dumb confusing theory of how this normality formed

2)orrrrr maybe it all started when someone had herpes and it was physically visible. So when a friend tried to convince him to take off his clothes and go skinnny dipping, to prevent that from happening, the guy with herpes made the other one look bad by calling him gay. thats when being naked around people became a big deal

[johnmit13]

Lots of people are embarrased by the thought of being naked around their peers as they think they won't size up well. But after a while if your nude enough you won't even care about size or anything, it will just become the norm to be nude. I'd love to just be able to be nude around my friends without ny awkwardness but i guess i'll never get that

[ShineintheDark]

We sort of have a taboo around nudity in our culture so we're less open to chilling more nude. Other countries like a lot of European places are more open, ergo stories on ehre of people being openly naked around each other

[steellord321]

Lots of people are embarrased by the thought of being naked around their peers as they think they won't size up well. But after a while if your nude enough you won't even care about size or anything, it will just become the norm to be nude. I'd love to just be able to be nude around my friends without ny awkwardness but i guess i'll never get that

if you join a sports team there's a good chance you would

[Beach_Blonde]

I have never really been that werid about being naked in front of people neither is most of my family to be honest. For me an my sister we have been changing around other girls since a young age and then we have been to schools where u have to shower after sports and gym. but i think its more a guy thing too most o the girls i know dont really care about changing or being naked in ront o each other

[johnmit13]

if you join a sports team there's a good chance you would

Unfortunatley i am awful at sports and have the fitness of well .... a very unfit person. Believe me if i could i would

[Blue-Boy]

Cause the public exposure of ones genitals is and always has been a private thing. One naturally feels the need for privacy when it comes to their junk.

Yes with guys it's a bit different in washrooms where their is not barrier between urinals and your dick is just hanging out for all to see, but you learn to live with it.

Their is also exhibitionism where people deliberately have sex in public places where strangers can watch. It's not legal in most of the world, so if you do it be prepared to suffer the legal consequences of getting a criminal/juvenile record and even being put on a sex offenders list.

[mkellam54]

I think people are afraid because society often equates any kind of nudity with sex.

Also, a lot of people are self conscious and worry that others will judge them for what they look like naked, even if they are in a locker room where a lot of other people are naked. Though it also depends on the person

[Tyler97]

The only thing I'm afraid of is having a spontaneous erection in public, if I knew that wouldn't happen, I'd have no problem walking down the street naked, but I can't control that, so no walking down the street naked for me.

[Remora]

I am self-conscious and cold. :3

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

what is the big deal with being nude.. hardly any friends of mine take showers together after football and would have a heartattack at the thought of chilling nude.. as teenagers is it not something we should all go through, seeing whats the same and whats different about each other.. seems weird to me

I agree. I was talking with a few other guys on here about this exact thing. I was pretty insecure about my body when I was younger because I didn't have any frame of reference on what my body should look like compared to other guys. It's a shame the world isn't more open about nudity.

[EvaNL]

A large majority of people see nudity as something sexual.
It is not. People MAKE it sexual.

In fact, I personally think that when people leave something to guess (by wearing underwear, lingerie, bathing suits, ..) it's more sexually enticing than when they were nude.

Nudity in itself is NOT sexual.

My 2 cents :)

[themanconnor]

I don't mind being nude in locker room and such. It just seems normal to me

[clobo]

A large majority of people see nudity as something sexual.
It is not. People MAKE it sexual.

In fact, I personally think that when people leave something to guess (by wearing underwear, lingerie, bathing suits, ..) it's more sexually enticing than when they were nude.

Nudity in itself is NOT sexual.

My 2 cents :)

Exactly my thoughts too, a girl has a vagina and a boy has a penis. You really get to know that from a young age. I'm not sure why boys seeing other boys naked or a girl seeing another girl naked is a big deal.

[EvaNL]

Exactly my thoughts too, a girl has a vagina and a boy has a penis. You really get to know that from a young age. I'm not sure why boys seeing other boys naked or a girl seeing another girl naked is a big deal.

Or even a boy seeing a girl naked or a girl seeing a boy naked.

In fact, I think that if you (in general) get exposed in a normal/non-sexual way to nude people from an early age onward, you grow up a lot more mentally healthy than when you grow up having been taught that nudity is evil and bad.

[Desdemona]

Or even a boy seeing a girl naked or a girl seeing a boy naked.

In fact, I think that if you (in general) get exposed in a normal/non-sexual way to nude people from an early age onward, you grow up a lot more mentally healthy than when you grow up having been taught that nudity is evil and bad.

I agree. My country has a big problem with this. We are prudes on the surface and always in moral conflict with ourselves. Showing a child extreme violence is apparently OK here, but God forbid if they should see a nipple. Hillary Clinton wanted to censor the Grand Theft Auto games - not because you could blow people's heads off with automatic rifles, but because it might occasionally show pixelated nipples. That lady has a big problem with the first amendment. I'm happy and relieved she didn't become my president. (The alternative was perfectly horrible too, though - we lose either way).

[mookie]

I think it's weird to be afraid to get naked in locker rooms. Everyone else is taking their clothes off, no big deal. And you shouldn't need to be afraid with your friends either in my opinion, they are your friends after all

[logan2002]

Never had a problem taking a group shower. Two guys never showered after 6th grade basketball, found out at end of school year they had started puberty. We all had to take a shower in last month of school, and saw they were farther into puberty, three of us, me to, had just started growing dick hair, and the rest, 12 boys, had not.

[lolaa]

I am incredibly sexy. The thing is, I know it. And I don't care if I was the only one to ever know it.

It's not a 'fear' that stops me being naked around others.

I value my body highly, to me I am unique and special. It's the same reason I don't have sex with guys/girls who express interest. My body is only for my lovers enjoyment, he is the only one (aside from doctors obviously) who gets to know me intimately.

So in summary, I value my body too highly to show it off to just anyone. And I'd rather be liked for my personality and intellect, than for how hot I am.

~ Clara
i love this so much
maybe cause i read it so slowly and with an accent , but this is perfect

[scott2002]

Okay, I go to Bible Study in a boy/girl youth group with a youth pastor. About a year ago we talked a lot about nudity and pornography. I think a lot of the kids said they felt perfectly fine being naked around others when they were little kids, but by the time they were 9 or 10 (close to puberty starting) they became much more modest. The youth pastor told us it's an inborn respect and reverence with those parts of the human body involved in procreation - creating life, and caring for new life (breasts for breastfeeding). He told us he'd bet we'll all feel perfectly fine being naked with our spouses when we got older because God gave us sexuality to enjoy, but in the right way.

[logan2002]

Okay, I go to Bible Study in a boy/girl youth group with a youth pastor. About a year ago we talked a lot about nudity and pornography. I think a lot of the kids said they felt perfectly fine being naked around others when they were little kids, but by the time they were 9 or 10 (close to puberty starting) they became much more modest. The youth pastor told us it's an inborn respect and reverence with those parts of the human body involved in procreation - creating life, and caring for new life (breasts for breastfeeding). He told us he'd bet we'll all feel perfectly fine being naked with our spouses when we got older because God gave us sexuality to enjoy, but in the right way.

Reminds me of a speech we got in 8th grade at the Catholic school I went to, I am in 9th grade now
Sex is for procreation not recreation

[pjones]

Okay, I go to Bible Study in a boy/girl youth group with a youth pastor. About a year ago we talked a lot about nudity and pornography. I think a lot of the kids said they felt perfectly fine being naked around others when they were little kids, but by the time they were 9 or 10 (close to puberty starting) they became much more modest. The youth pastor told us it's an inborn respect and reverence with those parts of the human body involved in procreation - creating life, and caring for new life (breasts for breastfeeding). He told us he'd bet we'll all feel perfectly fine being naked with our spouses when we got older because God gave us sexuality to enjoy, but in the right way.

do you think the change in modesty was solely natural, the approach of puberty, with no outside influence? by that I mean when we start to get older I think we actually become more aware of what we see and hear from parents, teachers, clergy and media. those sources may have a greater influence subconsciously than we actually realize and that may lead someone into adopting a greater sense of modesty. my family doesn't go to church but i've met families at the resort we go to that are very involved with their church and raised their kids since birth in a naturist lifestyle.

[Theaverageboy]

It can kinda be awkward like if you see your friend with a giant bush that will be weird to look at and it will be hard to get that out of my head and I may be alright with being nude but my shaved body can be considered weird to others

[Blackwell2003]

It can kinda be awkward like if you see your friend with a giant bush that will be weird to look at and it will be hard to get that out of my head and I may be alright with being nude but my shaved body can be considered weird to others

Yeh I agree

[Anniebanannie]

Okay, I go to Bible Study in a boy/girl youth group with a youth pastor. About a year ago we talked a lot about nudity and pornography. I think a lot of the kids said they felt perfectly fine being naked around others when they were little kids, but by the time they were 9 or 10 (close to puberty starting) they became much more modest. The youth pastor told us it's an inborn respect and reverence with those parts of the human body involved in procreation - creating life, and caring for new life (breasts for breastfeeding). He told us he'd bet we'll all feel perfectly fine being naked with our spouses when we got older because God gave us sexuality to enjoy, but in the right way.

Reminds me of a speech we got in 8th grade at the Catholic school I went to, I am in 9th grade now
Sex is for procreation not recreation


What do you guys think about that? That's pretty much what I was taught?

[Coolteenboy]

Pretty happy with how i look naked.
Ill b naked as much as i can be, dont carewho sees me!
((UNLESS ITS THE RENTS!!!!! Dont know why, but im embarrassed in front of them.))

[pjones]

are people taught to be ashamed, or is it that conventional thinking is that it may not be acceptable to have confidence with what your body looks like?

[scott2002]

Reminds me of a speech we got in 8th grade at the Catholic school I went to, I am in 9th grade now
Sex is for procreation not recreation
I have some Catholic friends and we've talked about this stuff, and what I get from them is the Catholic church has nothing against having sex for pleasure. Lots and lots of sex. But between the right people who are committed to each other.

[Miss Ophelia]

We have communal showers at school and there doesmt seem to be any issues with all being naked in them. Sometimes you see a girl trying to hide their boobs a bit but when they see other girls just running around and not worrying, they seem to get less bothered.

I have also been to beaches where lots of girls and women were topless and there wasn't any problems there, although you do get some boys staring, like they have never seen boobs before. :)

[tvsigeys]

I never loved a high school shower, but other forums for open shared nudity I've found to be fun

[Jessica_N]

I believe its a cultural thing too. Being told to cover up.

[Roc a fella]

I like to show off so I sort of like being nude

[messid]

what is the big deal with being nude.. hardly any friends of mine take showers together after football and would have a heartattack at the thought of chilling nude.. as teenagers is it not something we should all go through, seeing whats the same and whats different about each other.. seems weird to me

And the funny thing is sometimes the same ones who are scared of showering naked will send nude pics that end up on the internet!! It's kinda funny actually

[Beltane1001]

I think it's all a confusion with nudity and sexual desire. My family is very casual with nudity, like in a very non-sexual way, but other people they just can't look at a person's body without having sexual thoughts.

While I wish people were less uptight about it and would learn to separate the human body from sex, I still say to each their own. Like, I would never force my more open ways on anybody.

[denverdude]

I think its weird too. Who cares if i see your penis? I HAVE MY OWN! Its not like i dont know what it looks like

[Harrier]

Okay, I go to Bible Study in a boy/girl youth group with a youth pastor. About a year ago we talked a lot about nudity and pornography. I think a lot of the kids said they felt perfectly fine being naked around others when they were little kids, but by the time they were 9 or 10 (close to puberty starting) they became much more modest. The youth pastor told us it's an inborn respect and reverence with those parts of the human body involved in procreation - creating life, and caring for new life (breasts for breastfeeding). He told us he'd bet we'll all feel perfectly fine being naked with our spouses when we got older because God gave us sexuality to enjoy, but in the right way.

Reminds me of a speech we got in 8th grade at the Catholic school I went to, I am in 9th grade now
Sex is for procreation not recreation

What do you guys think about that? That's pretty much what I was taught?

Ya my church camp talked about how sex is a gift and just for marriage (of course that's what most religions say, people have their own opinions I guess). But I have talked to nudists who are religious and have no problem being nude. It all depends on what religion and what personal belief the person has. But as others have said, nudity shouldn't or doesn't have to be about sex. You can be nude and not thinking about or wanting to have sex.

The title of this post is weird. It's not just fear that keeps some people not wanting to be nude. Some people are self conscious. Some people will get nude with some people, yet not want to be nude with other people. Lots of different people have lots of different feelings.

Personally I like being nude and really only have hangups about nudity based on what I THINK OTHERS are thinking. For example I can be naked with anyone in my family except my mom, grandparents, and aunts/uncles (basically anyone old except my dad bc I just imagine right or wrong that if they see me naked that they would be surprised). Also I don't always like being naked when others aren't it just feels weird. I feel like if I am naked than you should be too. Just so we have equal playing field. I run with my teammates before school so when we shower we are often doing so when first period PE is in the locker rooms. We are naked and they aren't. It just sorta feels weird lol.

[Anniebanannie]

Ya my church camp talked about how sex is a gift and just for marriage (of course that's what most religions say, people have their own opinions I guess). But I have talked to nudists who are religious and have no problem being nude. It all depends on what religion and what personal belief the person has. But as others have said, nudity shouldn't or doesn't have to be about sex. You can be nude and not thinking about or wanting to have sex.

The title of this post is weird. It's not just fear that keeps some people not wanting to be nude. Some people are self conscious. Some people will get nude with some people, yet not want to be nude with other people. Lots of different people have lots of different feelings.

Personally I like being nude and really only have hangups about nudity based on what I THINK OTHERS are thinking. For example I can be naked with anyone in my family except my mom, grandparents, and aunts/uncles (basically anyone old except my dad bc I just imagine right or wrong that if they see me naked that they would be surprised). Also I don't always like being naked when others aren't it just feels weird. I feel like if I am naked than you should be too. Just so we have equal playing field. I run with my teammates before school so when we shower we are often doing so when first period PE is in the locker rooms. We are naked and they aren't. It just sorta feels weird lol.

What you're saying is that for you, it depends on the situation and the people involved. I like how you judge each situation as it comes up.

I don't think there's an absolute right or wrong. It really depends on the individual, that person's family and for some, community.

[Andyyy95]

I wouldn't say it's a "fear" of being nude, perhaps it's more of a self-conscious behaviour since not everybody is comfortable with their bodies and the way they look at that particular moment in time. Also, maybe it's not respectful to be nude when amongst certain person(s).

[chirishlassie731]

I don't get it either, I'm proud of my body, and I don't see it as something shameful. The only thing that makes sense to me is that people are afraid of their bodies being judged for being out of shape or not big enough in certain areas if you catch my meaning

[edward1804]

Yeah I don't really get it either. I'm on sports teams and the boys there are very open about being nude changing and walking to the shower naked etc. After PE class it's a different t story where other boys are covering up and all. But like it's perfectly normal in my house for my brother and I to be lounging around in our bedroom naked and our sister to be in her room naked too. Also my brother and I both hang out with friends and play video games naked, share beds with friends naked etc. So it really depends on the family and experience I think