came out , as an iranian guy

[ECSTASY]

well some of the users asked me to write what happens when i come out to my parents , here .
well finally i did , i had no way cause it was really depressing me and i kept and keep having suicidal thoughts.
i don't know if here is the right place to write it but if it isn't , please do not lock this topic , just move to to the right section .
so , finally , i went to a counseling clinic with my parents .
i explained whats going on , she told to my parents , she believed that orientation is changeable . she said that i have depressant so i'm going to visit a psychologist .
well my parents , they acted like nothing really happened . my dad told me that its something normal and its natural but he thinks that its changeable .
he asked me to be much more sociable , and he suggested me to find a girfriend . no one really understands me , i'm not attracted to girls at all :( (no offence)
they want me to have a test to check my hormones and they wanna try to change my sexual orientation . iknow its impossible , but i have no way except going for that . and i must be what my parents / society wants :(
all i can say is that , life sux . i've never enjoyed my life , as a teenager. i always got the opposite of what i wanted .
there is no hope for future :(
apologizes cause of my terrible english

[Ainsleyshea]

you need to explain that being homosexual is NOT changeable you are who you are like it or not get use to it

[sqishy]

Iran is one of the worst places in the world to be LGBT :/

[PatrickV]

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck, this just ruined my day sina :/

[ECSTASY]

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck, this just ruined my day sina :/

:(

Iran is one of the worst places in the world to be LGBT :/

seriously . how can i have a relationship with a girl when i cant be both emotionally and sexually attracted to girls :(

you need to explain that being homosexual is NOT changeable you are who you are like it or not get use to it

i triedtop . i said i studied lots of books , but they didnt accept

[PatrickV]

But I'm really happy that you came out to your parents, It takes a lot of courage to do that.

[ninja789]

oh sina :( that's awful

[ECSTASY]

But I'm really happy that you came out to your parents, It takes a lot of courage to do that.

yeah , it was something that my parents had to know

oh sina :( that's awful

yeah :/

[sqishy]

seriously . how can i have a relationship with a girl when i cant be both emotionally and sexually attracted to girls :(


I am not saying you did anything wrong. What I am saying is that the country you are in sees it that way.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_in_Iran

[ninja789]

yeah :/

if you ever want to talk you can always message me :)

[ECSTASY]

I am not saying you did anything wrong. What I am saying is that the country you are in sees it that way.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_in_Iran

i know mate

if you ever want to talk you can always message me :)

oh sure i'd be happy

[Living For Love]

First, I want to congratulate you for coming out to your parents. It's a really tough decision coming out considering the society you live in. I read some of that Wikipedia page posted above about LGBT in Iran, and I'm kinda shocked, so I definitely understand what you're going through now. I do believe you can't simply change your sexuality, and even if you could, you would probably not be as happy as you were before. I think the best you can do now is trying to accept and interiorise to yourself that you are what you are, a human with feelings, someone who wants to love someone and wants to be loved as well, and nothing should forbidden you to be happy in your own way. And your sexuality is only one of the many characteristics that define you, you can still live your life single, without marrying, or you could always consider living abroad, I don't know, just focus on your happiness and well-being, basically.

[DarkHorse4eva]

congrats on coming out.
its kinda good that they, like you, wants to change your sexuality, even tho it's who you are

[ECSTASY]

First, I want to congratulate you for coming out to your parents. It's a really tough decision coming out considering the society you live in. I read some of that Wikipedia page posted above about LGBT in Iran, and I'm kinda shocked, so I definitely understand what you're going through now. I do believe you can't simply change your sexuality, and even if you could, you would probably not be as happy as you were before. I think the best you can do now is trying to accept and interiorise to yourself that you are what you are, a human with feelings, someone who wants to love someone and wants to be loved as well, and nothing should forbidden you to be happy in your own way. And your sexuality is only one of the many characteristics that define you, you can still live your life single, without marrying, or you could always consider living abroad, I don't know, just focus on your happiness and well-being, basically.

thanks man .
i know , i studied alot about it , its hard to change but i have no way . non of my parents / relatives will support me if i continue being that way .
they claim that there are some ways and i have no way to go for it . i know, its hard , but i have no way . my society is the main reason that i can't accept myself .

congrats on coming out.
its kinda good that they, like you, wants to change your sexuality, even tho it's who you are

yeah unless they didn't reject me when they found it out , thanks mate

[Lovelife090994]

Well, you've more courage and assurance than me because one, I am unsure of myself, and two I can never come out to my family now. My mother says how she'd throw me out and I've nowhere to go. Sad thing is I'm not even gay or bi or anything because I simply don't know and am always depressed. Iran is definitely not a nice place to openly gay, so just pray for better my friend. You're going to need it.

[Melkor]

Congrats dude, tbh you did the impossible. If I was there and I wanted to come out as a gay man, I wouldn't ( which I was there for so many years ). You expected the worst to happen but the thing that they came up with is much better than rejecting you. However, people who are gay in Iran mostly tend to hide it because it's viewed as a sin and the punishment they have for homosexuality is death...
Dude I wish you the best of luck ;) ( you can p.m. me if you want to talk I used to live in iran and never want to go back I experienced intolerence too... )

[AlexOnToast]

Wow Sina, you are braver than most people. I really admire that. And while it's bad that your parents dont accept the fact you are gay, considering where you are it could have gone a WHOLE lot worse...
I'm afraid there is no good advice some little 13 year old can give that would likely help, but I'l be thinking of you and i wish you a ton of luck bro :)

[ECSTASY]

Well, you've more courage and assurance than me because one, I am unsure of myself, and two I can never come out to my family now. My mother says how she'd throw me out and I've nowhere to go. Sad thing is I'm not even gay or bi or anything because I simply don't know and am always depressed. Iran is definitely not a nice place to openly gay, so just pray for better my friend. You're going to need it.

i know that feeling mate , i was much more depressed before i come out , i feel a little better now . i hope that everything will go well for you in future man

Congrats dude, tbh you did the impossible. If I was there and I wanted to come out as a gay man, I wouldn't ( which I was there for so many years ). You expected the worst to happen but the thing that they came up with is much better than rejecting you. However, people who are gay in Iran mostly tend to hide it because it's viewed as a sin and the punishment they have for homosexuality is death...
Dude I wish you the best of luck ;) ( you can p.m. me if you want to talk I used to live in iran and never want to go back I experienced intolerence too... )

thanks so much man :) oh are you iranian yourself?

Wow Sina, you are braver than most people. I really admire that. And while it's bad that your parents dont accept the fact you are gay, considering where you are it could have gone a WHOLE lot worse...
I'm afraid there is no good advice some little 13 year old can give that would likely help, but I'l be thinking of you and i wish you a ton of luck bro :)

c'mon man age is just a number , you understand much more than the other guys at your age ;)
thanks so much . it as something that my parents had to know .

[DeadEyes]

You could be surprised how many people still think that homosexuality is a mental disease.

Now, I'm afraid that you will actually feel worse (towards your parents but also yourself) for trying and failing to change your sexual orientation (because you WILL fail if you are truly gay, since the last part of this sentence is nonsense).

[ECSTASY]

You could be surprised how many people still think that homosexuality is a mental disease.

Now, I'm afraid that you will actually feel worse (towards your parents but also yourself) for trying and failing to change your sexual orientation (because you WILL fail if you are truly gay, since the last part of this sentence is nonsense).

yeah my parents are some of those type of people who think like that lol
but im sure even if it won't be possible to change , they will accept me . it may take time tho

[Green Arrow]

Sina you know what I think as I've rambled and rambled to you on various ocastions on Skype, but I am proud of you for coming out to your parents I know how hard it was for you to do so. Keep strong and fighting the good fight. :) x

[ECSTASY]

Sina you know what I think as I've rambled and rambled to you on various ocastions on Skype, but I am proud of you for coming out to your parents I know how hard it was for you to do so. Keep strong and fighting the good fight. :) x

thanks so much tom :)

[NickCollins]

ok first of good for you for coming out
second i cant even imagine what your going through
stay strong and remember killing your self only helps them