20 years and counting

[Dimentio]

I've never been in a relationship before, for a long time i wanted to, but the longing and loneliness got so bad i just shut myself off to them, and in that time a few people tried, but it was online and i knew it wouldn't work, and yes, my heart was guarded haha

But over the past few months, I've been speaking to this guy, and he said he wanted to be with me, he even put people off for me, but recently when i ask him about it, he just completely blanks me, and I've tried bringing it up 7 times now, so that's dead

I'm just struggling lately haha, when people think of a 20 year old who has never been in a relationship before, they think something is wrong, and he's a sad, lonely person, all these nasty things, and i know that as i hear it a lot, but i just don't know what to do, I'm not a great looker at all, I'm socially inept, i can't handle online because the loneliness hurts me, and even then, no one ever seems to like me, or they do for 3 days then realize what a mistake it is, but I've just reached that point when i sit there and cry alone because yeah, I've been alone for 20 years now, i just want someone to love

Does anyone have any dating advice for a 20 year old, ugly, unemployed, scared of everything, very weird, person? XD I don't think i could cope with another 20 years alone haha

[Flapjack]

I've never been in a relationship before, for a long time i wanted to, but the longing and loneliness got so bad i just shut myself off to them, and in that time a few people tried, but it was online and i knew it wouldn't work, and yes, my heart was guarded haha

But over the past few months, I've been speaking to this guy, and he said he wanted to be with me, he even put people off for me, but recently when i ask him about it, he just completely blanks me, and I've tried bringing it up 7 times now, so that's dead

I'm just struggling lately haha, when people think of a 20 year old who has never been in a relationship before, they think something is wrong, and he's a sad, lonely person, all these nasty things, and i know that as i hear it a lot, but i just don't know what to do, I'm not a great looker at all, I'm socially inept, i can't handle online because the loneliness hurts me, and even then, no one ever seems to like me, or they do for 3 days then realize what a mistake it is, but I've just reached that point when i sit there and cry alone because yeah, I've been alone for 20 years now, i just want someone to love

Does anyone have any dating advice for a 20 year old, ugly, unemployed, scared of everything, very weird, person? XD I don't think i could cope with another 20 years alone haha
Stop feeling down buddy!! Have you tried online dating?

[jamie_n5]

There is nothing wrong with you being 20 and not have had a relationship. Life isn't a race to see how fast you can find a mate. You need to get out of your shell and go out and see people find a group or make some new friends. Don't hide and feel sorry for yourself get out and live. If I were in England I would give it a go and go out with you. I find you to be quite cute in your picture. Hang in there you will be fine.

[Cadanance00]

Hang in there, dude, there's somebody for everybody. It's just a matter of finding them. Meanwhile, look at yourself vis-a-vis what you have to offer another person and work on that.

[rioo]

Love is not about number. I really don't have good advice here but if you have chance to get out with someone then take it. And maybe you can join community group that you can share same interest. Don't limit yourself buddy.