Missed that one!! But...

[Cadanance00]

This girl I barebacked at a party a few months ago and ghosted me I found out is PG and is going to have an abortion cuz she don't know which one of 3 guys got her preg. She has to wait a few weeks for some reason.

So I'm like I missed the bullet on that one. I found out cuz my cousin knows her. Trouble is, I still like her and feel bad for her. She's 18 and there's no future with me but I feel like I should tell her I'm sorry for what she's going thru. That's not a good idea, or is it?

[Just JT]

I'll bet she'd probably wouldn't mind to hear from you tbh. She might like the feeling of someone suporti get her

[jamie_n5]

I think that would be very nice of you to do that.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

Start off gently. If she doesn't want to know, back off. If she does, you can be there for her.

[rioo]

Why this in puberty section?

I think you should wait, but say something to her is very good and more mature. She is older than you remember it.

[Jason The Great]

Yeah...support her. It must be a difficult days for her

[ClaraWho]

Depends. If you open that channel of communication you will have to be prepared to weather the storm. I'm not sure you are mature enough to be handling all of the issues she may pour onto you if she opens up (I know adults who aren't emotionally stable/mature enough either, so don't take that as an insult - there's a reason not everyone can be a therapist).

On the other hand you were willing to take a massive risk with her health and wellbeing for your own sexual gratification, so perhaps it's the decent thing to do.

Clearly any girl who is willing to have unprotected sex, one-night stands, with multiple guys has SERIOUS issues in their personal life/past. She is an extremely vulnerable individual. I know nothing about her, nor do you, so we can't begin to even imagine what that trauma might be.

All we do know is her life is in a rapid downward spiral, it all depends if you are willing and able to be there 24/7 for her. With no sex or romantic relationship. No matter how much she wants that, it would be taking advantage of a highly vulnerable individual. Is your will power that strong?

From what I know of you, I would say best to steer well clear of the storm, don't open that channel up.

I'm sure I'm not alone in wishing her well though.

~ Clara

N.B. For those who think I am exaggerating, please google 'Borderline Personality Disorder'.

[Flapjack]

If you love her then yeah but otherwise no just leave her alone.

[Zachary G]

I think that would make you look something like a decent guy, someone who actually cares. That might win you some brownie points

[pjones]

would you appreciate a little sympathy? i think you could talk to her and offer some friendly, non judgemental, support that might mean a lot to her

[WhoWhatWhen]

Offer support and sympathy. She is probably going through a lot and it's good to help her out emotionally.