Do I dare?

[NatteDroom03]

So, I have this close friend, we've known each other since before we could speak, we sleep over at each others' quite often, and when we do, we usually end up making love. Thing is, I think I'm in love with her, and I would really like to take the next step, and for us to become an item. Problem is, I'm a bit scared to do so. If she refuses, I'm not sure I can take it.

Sorry about the ramble, this is more like a vent than a question really, but if anyone have some advice, I would be grateful.

[Meron]

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[Just JT]

Sounds like a friends with Benifits thing where you guys never really talked about expectations and limits. Communication is so important in any relationship.
I'd just ask, so where are we going with this, see where that goes

[ClaraWho]

It's not 'making love' if love isn't involved. Why did you skip a relationship in favour of the cheap thrill of sex anyway? Life lessons. Anyway, communication is the key to healthy, happy relationships.

Let's look at the alternatives if you don't talk to her.

- You continue having sex but she's never yours, she starts having sex or dating someone else and you are left behind.
- You both head seperate ways in life.
- She thinks you are just using her for sex and feels ashamed of what you've done together, hurt by it.

So yes, telling her you have genuine feelings and care about her may end the casual sex/contact. But not telling her will mean you DEFINITELY lose her.

Life's too short to not tell the people we love how much they mean to us. Life is fleeting and fragile, some pathetically trivial tragedy could take her from you tomorrow. Be brave.

Let us know how it goes, I'm hoping well. Good luck!

~ Clara

[Cadanance00]

For once, I agree with Clara. You should tell her. Sure it may not be a permanent thing but at least you let her know how you feel and gave her the chance to make a choice.

You sound like my sis and her friend. They don't sleep with each other any more (or if they do, I don't know about it) but they're still close friends.

[Just JT]

On the other hand, she could have the same feelings as you do.....also afraid to say anything.

And I'm also glad Cadanance00 and ClaraWho are in agreement. I agree also. It's sex, not making love. Close, but different, different meanings all together. Sex is what you did together, making love it what you'd want it to be

[zzzzzzzzzz]

It may be worth the risk. Go for it.

[Croconaw]

I agree with Clara. You have to tell her if you want a chance. You have to take the risk.

[Zachary G]

if you are afraid that it will possibly mess up the relationship that you already have, then chances are that you are correct, so I wouldnt tempt fate. It doesnt mean that you cant have the conversation about the feelings you are having as far as she is concerned.

[NatteDroom03]

Thanks for the advice, everybody! :) Yeah, I guess I just have to take my chances and tell her, and figure out where we stand. :)

[Tine Dancer]

Does she have an interest in boys? If so you may be at a disadvantage.