What do i do?

[JohnfDoe]

So this girl I've been talking to wants to hook up. She really wants to go all the way but i'm not sure if i should because i'm a virgin. She said she's just fine with oral but i'm afraid ill regret it if i don't take the opportunity to lose my virginity now. P.S the girl isn't a virgin but she would be willing to take mine

[Cadanance00]

It often happens that way. I understand having sex outside a 'ship is not preferable, but if losing your V-card is what you want to do, losing it with someone with some experience I think is okay. Probably better than having two nervous virgins fumbling around. In a perfect world everybody would have their first time with someone who: A) cares about them, and B) has experience.

Don't worry about being asked. It's okay for girls to ask and it doesn't mean they're sluts or even if they're promiscuous. I would ask her how many partners she's had so you know who you're fucking and do use condoms. She's a stranger now, but she won't be if you go through with it.
~Caen

[Just JT]

If you are nervous or not sure at all, then I'd say don't do it. Cause you can always lose it in the future. If you do it now, you might regret doing it. Then you can't take it back. Your V-card is just like most any card. They come with an expiration. And once it expires, it doesn't renew and start over. It's just plane gone. So be sure you wana and be ready, and you wana with that person.

[WhoWhatWhen]

Everyone is nervous before they loose it. If you feel comfortable with her then I say go for it. Just be safe and use a condom.

[jamie_n5]

Well don't feel that you have to do this just to loose your virginity. Your virginity should be special to you and I think that you should loose your virginity to someone that is special to you and that you deeply care about. That is my opinion but you have to do what you feel is right for you. Let your heart be your guide

[Skylark]

Not wanting to lose your virginity is a stupid reason not want to lose your virginity. What does it matter? people won't make fun of you for losing it, In fact, I expect quite the opposite. You should do it. I would.

[PinkFloyd]

Okay, this is a tough situation. Anyone that tells you that you should just go for it and ignore the outcome (friends can be assholes; I've been there) is not giving you good advice. I personally have never been about having sex with somebody just for the physical side of it. For me, there needs to be passion, love, and most of all, trust. You're giving yourself to another person and they are giving themselves to you. That being said, they can give A LOT more to you than you want. What I mean is that you should be safe and use a rubber or you could end up dead. Okay, that's a bit far, but it can happen. HIV is a thing. The most likely thing that would happen if you don't be safe is that you could get her pregnant; and trust me, you don't want that.

I hope my advice has been sufficiently helpful. I just got back from a movie during which I had about 17 Airheads and a bunch of caffeinated soda. I'm on an intense sugar and caffeine high. ANyways, good luck with your conundrum and above all, do what you think is best. Godspeed.

[The Socialist]

My advice is to wait for someone who you are in love with and they mean the world to you. You won't get your V-card back so make sure it's worth it.

[GeneralSkrubz]

Not wanting to lose your virginity is a stupid reason not want to lose your virginity. What does it matter? people won't make fun of you for losing it, In fact, I expect quite the opposite. You should do it. I would.

This message is stupid. Him not wanting to lose his virginity is a great reason to keep, if he isnt ready then he isnt ready.

[Skylark]

(friends can be assholes; I've been there)

Thanks, love you :yes:

This message is stupid. Him not wanting to lose his virginity is a great reason to keep, if he isnt ready then he isnt ready.

It just seems he's hung up on the simple idea of losing his virginity. It's like a never ending cycle: I don't want to lose it because i don't want to lose it because I don't want to lose it because I don't want to lose it. I just think it's redundant and stupid. He's creating needless red tape for himself

[TheFutureDoctor]

Lol, I wish I was in your place! :P But jokes apart dude, if you're comfortable with her and not being forced I see no harm. I'll probably become 25-30 before losing my virginity :(

[GeneralSkrubz]

Thanks, love you :yes:



It just seems he's hung up on the simple idea of losing his virginity. It's like a never ending cycle: I don't want to lose it because i don't want to lose it because I don't want to lose it because I don't want to lose it. I just think it's redundant and stupid. He's creating needless red tape for himself

Its not needless. If he is not ready, then he is not ready. Dont force him, or force the idea of it on him. He will lose it when he truly wants to. His comfort zones are his own.

[Skylark]

Its not needless. If he is not ready, then he is not ready. Dont force him, or force the idea of it on him. He will lose it when he truly wants to. His comfort zones are his own.

I'm not forcing anything on anyone. I'm merely stating my opinion of his reason for not having sex.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

So this girl I've been talking to wants to hook up. She really wants to go all the way but i'm not sure if i should because i'm a virgin. She said she's just fine with oral but i'm afraid ill regret it if i don't take the opportunity to lose my virginity now. P.S the girl isn't a virgin but she would be willing to take mine

Several of us (like me) would say yes, as we (me included would love to be in your position. However, there is a lot more to it than just the fact it will be your first time, but not hers. How old are you both. Do you feel it is just "first time nerves" or do you feel that there's more to it than that. If you want to, go for it and enjoy it. If your gut instinct is genuinely feeling you're not ready, the answer is don't do it. There's people that have started young. There are people that have waited

[Alex1s]

If you really like her then go for it. If you're really not ready then don't. It's really that simple. Just realize that if you don't lose it now you might be waiting a while...not many girls are comfortable making the first move like she did. But don't worry too much it's not like it won't ever happen again though.

[Just JT]

I think PinkFloyd gave the best advise. It is something that's really special, and you wana really do that with someone special. Not just some girl in the basement of your house or something. Once you give it up, like I said earlier, you can't undo it. And the one you end up with might be looking for that in someone else



This message is stupid. Him not wanting to lose his virginity is a great reason to keep, if he isnt ready then he isnt ready.

Thanks, love you :yes:



It just seems he's hung up on the simple idea of losing his virginity. It's like a never ending cycle: I don't want to lose it because i don't want to lose it because I don't want to lose it because I don't want to lose it. I just think it's redundant and stupid. He's creating needless red tape for himself

Its not needless. If he is not ready, then he is not ready. Dont force him, or force the idea of it on him. He will lose it when he truly wants to. His comfort zones are his own.

I'm not forcing anything on anyone. I'm merely stating my opinion of his reason for not having sex.

Sex, passion, love amd losing your cirginity are all seperate, but related things, that mean different things to different people. And different people place different values on those things.....

[Tyler97]

So this girl I've been talking to wants to hook up. She really wants to go all the way but i'm not sure if i should because i'm a virgin. She said she's just fine with oral but i'm afraid ill regret it if i don't take the opportunity to lose my virginity now. P.S the girl isn't a virgin but she would be willing to take mine

Don't worry about it, I'm 19 and still a virgin, I've done and received oral many times, but I'm waiting for marriage or at least a long term relationship to have intercourse.

[sweettayla]

You're kidding me, you're a teenage boy with the chance to have sex and you don't know whether you should or not? Give me a break!

[ska8er]

If u have to question it-u r
not ready for it-don't let
someone force u to do stuff
in situations that u have doubts
about.

[Bull]

Well don't feel that you have to do this just to loose your virginity. Your virginity should be special to you and I think that you should loose your virginity to someone that is special to you and that you deeply care about. That is my opinion but you have to do what you feel is right for you. Let your heart be your guide

I totally agree with Jamie. I wanted my first intercourse to be special and with a special person. I was close to being 19 when I lost my virginity to my special guy and it was special for the both of us. We had been friends for almost a year and had been living together for several months when we made the decision to take our relationship to the higher level. It was well worth the wait. Don't be in a hurry. As Jamie said "let your heart by your guide" and I would add don't let your penis guide you to a decision you may later regret.

[Just JT]

If u have to question it-u r
not ready for it-don't let
someone force u to do stuff
in situations that u have doubts
about.

I totally agree with Jamie. I wanted my first intercourse to be special and with a special person. I was close to being 19 when I lost my virginity to my special guy and it was special for the both of us. We had been friends for almost a year and had been living together for several months when we made the decision to take our relationship to the higher level. It was well worth the wait. Don't be in a hurry. As Jamie said "let your heart by your guide" and I would add don't let your penis guide you to a decision you may later regret.

Yup, so true