Dating help please

[henners]

I've been friends with a girl for a few months now, and we are really getting along. We mainly chat over Facebook, but I really feel were getting to know each other. I have very strong feelings for her, and I want to go out with her, but I don't have the guts to ask her out. A few weeks ago i asked to the cinema, in a casual way, and she said she was busy, then for a few days we didn't chat, but after a few more, we were back to normal, chit chatting away.

I would love to know 2 things...

1. How do I know of she likes me too

2. When and how should I ask her out


Ps. It's the summer holidays now, so I won't see her in person until I ask to see her over facebook

Thanks.
Henry, a 14 year old boy

[Just JT]

I think you already knows that she does. If she didn't, then she wouldn't chat with you. As for when to ask her out, it all depends. I'd wait till the right situation comes up. Maybe one day your both talking about the same thing you both wanna do, and suggest you both do it together. Go from there. Don't rush it. You might be getting signals crossed cause you haven't really talked irl. But after a couple hours or a couple "dates" you'll know. Just follow your Instinct

[henners]

Neither me nor her have ever had a bf or gf, would that mean anything? Also, she was openly talking about the fact that she's never had a boyfriend, so do you think that means she's interested?

[Just JT]

If neither of you ever have, but talk about it, then you guys wouldn't know what it feels like to have one right? So if you feel something a little different when you guys are together, and she does to, seems like you guys are interested in each other. But it's hard for me or anyone else to answer your question.

You could also ask her how she feels bout you. Let her know you have feelings for her. See where that goes. Seems like you do like her, so ask her out, go het an ice real, coffee or a movie or something and enjoy eachnother

[DoodleSnap]

Don't read into every little thing too much - the only true way to know someone's feelings is to ask them. Now, I'd say that it's best to try and get to know her first, become her friend. That's a good basis for a romantic relationship. Try and persevere and organise to meet up and hang out with each other - it's only romantic if you make it so. Just be casual, and most importantly be yourself, and enjoy it.

Good luck.

[Uniquemind]

Neither me nor her have ever had a bf or gf, would that mean anything? Also, she was openly talking about the fact that she's never had a boyfriend, so do you think that means she's interested?

So when she says that it's important to open that conversation further.

Don't interrogate, but respond with stuff like "is that something about your life that you feel ready to change?"

But be warned of misinterpreting casual friendliness with romantic gestures or moves.

[henners]

Bad news, I think she likes another boy :( and its one of my best friends ! What do I do?

[Darkslidex7]

Are you sure? Why do you say that?

[henners]

We were talking about height, and she's quite tall and I'm about 5 foot 2, and she said she would want a boyfriend a little smaller than here, but not 5,1. From that I said, so not Owen? (Another boy in my year) and she said that she didn't mean him. Then I said hahaha and she said you better not tell Owen about this, and I promised I wouldn't. That's why I think she likes Owen, and not me...

Owen is really short by the way

[DoodleSnap]

We were talking about height, and she's quite tall and I'm about 5 foot 2, and she said she would want a boyfriend a little smaller than here, but not 5,1. From that I said, so not Owen? (Another boy in my year) and she said that she didn't mean him. Then I said hahaha and she said you better not tell Owen about this, and I promised I wouldn't. That's why I think she likes Owen, and not me...

You shouldn't read so much into a tiny thing she said - she could just be trying to not hurt Owen's feelings, and be kind, it doesn't necessarily mean that she wants a romantic relationship with him. If you're unsure about things, then be honest and talk them through maturely. That's the best advice I can give.

[henners]

Ok, thanks