Secret relationship

[Xman31]

K huge problem. So me and my gf have to keep us being together a secret because last time we told our friends the grade found out and they wouldn't stop annoying us. So we fake broke up and now we have a secret thingy. It's been 3 whole years.... And now we have to tell everyone but everybody's 13 or 14 so they're never gonna let us here the end of it. Has anyone ever had this or does anyone know how to solve it without being annoyed for days???

[Flapjack]

I'd say just tell people and if they're annoying, your relationship of 3 years is strong enough to survive it:)

[Alex1s]

Holy shit! You've had a 3 year relationship going since you were 10?! That's an accomplishment!

There's no rule that says you have to tell people. Like don't actively hide it but don't make a grand announcement either. If people find out then whatever. I've found that keeping a low key relationship is best anyway.

[ethan-s]

Why do you have to tell them? Just keep going in secret until you get married and surprise them lol.

[jamie_n5]

Well I wouldn't hide your relationship. Just do what you want. Maybe the others are jealous of you two. Just ignore their stupidity and enjoy your relationship.

[Cadanance00]

We've all been there. Some people just don't have anything better to do. When I started going with my ex everybody made a big deal over it but they got tired of it and it went away. Consider the source and pass it off as a joke.

[Uniquemind]

Congrats that's rare for a couple of your age group to make it that far and maintain a romance in a mature almost adult way.

I would however recommend keeping it secret, and both of you being "single" to the public. Just let each of your sets of parents know though.

As for everyone else, just invite them to the wedding in 20ish years, and tell reveal then and only then you've been in an intense relationship since each of you were 10ish? Watch their faces melt and enjoy it.

[Melodic]

I understand. I had a similar relationship when I was 13. I was in a secret relationship for the same reason. As long as you both are happy with this, I don't see why there is a reason to tell anyone other than those you can trust.

I personally wasn't happy being in a secret relationship but that was more insecurity issues than anything.

[Just JT]

Seem like yiur really young for a relationship that lasts that long, but also that's cool, most don't have one like that. But tbh, I'd just not hid it, and go about your life like its nothing new and let people discover on their own. And if they say something say like "huh? What? Yeah, so we've been goin out for like 3 years, where you been?"

[Zachary G]

who you have a relationship with is no ones business but your own, so as far as your friends are concerned, they dont matter. They sound like the kind of friends who, if you listened to them, you would never have any kind of relationship at all. Its not about them, its about you and you have to do what makes you happy and feel good.

[Lukas1999]

I had a relationship with a girl that was going in my class. We got to know each other better when we did a school trip with the class. After a little time we were together and in a relationship. This was when I was 11. We broke up when we were 13. I was my first love.

We (she) decided to keep this relationship secret for the same reason. She didn't want that people annoy us. I didn't agree with her, but I was not able to change it.

But we were not always able to keep the relationship secret. There are some situations that are not possible.

You can't really hide a relationship

[Bull]

When I started dating a guy I made the decision that I was not going to be secretive about it. We were friends, our parents were friends, and our relationship was obviously more than just frineds, not that we put on a display of pda but just that we were more than typical friends. Be yourselves, do the things you both enjoy and don't worry about your class mates. As others have said, you don't need to make a big announcement, just be true to your feelings and be honest when questions come. And congratulations on such a long term relationship. It should be celebrated, not repressed.