Anyone else or only me, why?

[joshua123]

Ok do here's my problem is when u masturbate i can cum in a few minutes or last hours going at it. But when i have sex i cant cum no matters how hard i try to force myself to i just stay hard and can go for hours but cant cum has anyone else ever had this?

[Anon53]

You're hand's just better

[Just JT]

Are you sure your sexually attracted to the person your trying to have sex with?

[jamie_n5]

Are you sure your sexually attracted to the person your trying to have sex with?

I don't know why this happening to you. Maybe you should try a lube like KY for you and her or one of the stimulating jells. ;)

[Second Chance]

Ok do here's my problem is when u masturbate i can cum in a few minutes or last hours going at it. But when i have sex i cant cum no matters how hard i try to force myself to i just stay hard and can go for hours but cant cum has anyone else ever had this?

Your problem is a lot more common than you think, and there have been plenty of guys on here exactly like you. I think your basic problem is that when you're having sex you're just putting too much pressure on yourself to perform instead of actually enjoying sex. There was another guy on here just like you, and the root of his problem was he was trying so hard to please his girlfriend that he basically forgot to have fun which is why he could not cum.

My suggestion is that you should sit down and talk with your partner and let him/her know how you are feeling. If you and your partner have a good relationship, then he/she will be encouraging and will take the pressure off of you. Once you go into sex relaxed and feeling confident in yourself and your relationship, then you won't have any problems cumming

There's nothing wrong with you because I'm guessing you're new to sex. Have you just started having sex recently, and is this your first person you're having sex with? If so, then your problem is totally normal because you are new, and it takes time to learn how to do things right.

[Skylark]

Don't pressure yourself into thinking you NEED to cum. Just enjoy it man.

[Flapjack]

Maybe anxiety or stage fright buddy?

[Vermilion]

It seems rather common from what I've seen on here I think it's in your head and also the fact when jo you know where to hold it and focus on

[Zachary G]

Your problem is a lot more common than you think, and there have been plenty of guys on here exactly like you. I think your basic problem is that when you're having sex you're just putting too much pressure on yourself to perform instead of actually enjoying sex. There was another guy on here just like you, and the root of his problem was he was trying so hard to please his girlfriend that he basically forgot to have fun which is why he could not cum.

My suggestion is that you should sit down and talk with your partner and let him/her know how you are feeling. If you and your partner have a good relationship, then he/she will be encouraging and will take the pressure off of you. Once you go into sex relaxed and feeling confident in yourself and your relationship, then you won't have any problems cumming

There's nothing wrong with you because I'm guessing you're new to sex. Have you just started having sex recently, and is this your first person you're having sex with? If so, then your problem is totally normal because you are new, and it takes time to learn how to do things right.

I agree with Second Chance, it sounds like a form of performance anxiety from putting too much pressure on yourself to perform.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

My hand's been my only partner so far.

[volleyballer13]

everyone else pretty much hit if. just try and enjoy it.

[Biomicro]

havent had a sex

[ska8er]

Cause ur guiding ur hand to please urself
and with sex ur pressuring urself to please
someone else and u get anxious if u r
preforming enough-its in the mind. To
tell the truth its better if u last longer
with either masturbation or sex-ur
building up ur orgasm-I don't c y it is
a prob really to question it.

[Canadian Dream]

My first guess would be that you might have been nervous, which sort of ruins the fun. Sex is not only there for you to please your partner but also to enjoy yourself. It might take a few tries to get used to it and actually be able to cum, but if the problem persist then it might be worth talking about it to a doctor.

[martinpajero]

Ok do here's my problem is when u masturbate i can cum in a few minutes or last hours going at it. But when i have sex i cant cum no matters how hard i try to force myself to i just stay hard and can go for hours but cant cum has anyone else ever had this?

same thing happens to me, can't really explain it :/

[Atlantis]

same thing happens to me, can't really explain it :/

Please don't bump old threads with two or more months inactivity. :locked: