Caring about people who don't care about you?

[Croconaw]

First, there was this girl that my dad met at a car dealership. I do not want to go too much into detail, but the girl said she was hungry and thirsty to my dad on more than one occasion. Would this imply that she wanted him to take her somewhere to eat? Rewinding two months ago, she said to come visit her at this restaurant, which is where she worked. We went up three times, but she was not there. A few weeks later, I actually see her there. She was clearly hitting on him. When the girl saw us, she did this flirtatious wave. I hope you know what I am referring to. Long story short, he bought her this drink from Starbucks, and gave it to her. She said she would tell him if she liked it next time she saw him. After that week, we would go back a few times to the mall to see if she would be there. It would be about two times a week because I like going to Chic-Fil-A, which is right next to the restaurant the girl works at. However, one of this girl's coworkers was taking pictures of us, which I'm pretty sure she isn't allowed to do, especially during work hours. I guess the coworker showed the pictures to the girl, and the girl got kind of freaked out. A few days ago when I came in with my dad to get Chic-Fil-A, that girl at the adjacent restaurant called security because she thought we were stalking her. I am not sure if stalking is the right word, but this just bothers me. She seemed like a nice girl.

I get too attached to people, which was probably due to my lack of friends in my high school years. I care about people who likely do not care about me, like this girl. I am sure many of you will agree with coworker, that it was obsessive to go to the mall that much. I still do not have very many friends in real life. I try not to judge people so quickly, because they might end up turning out to be a complete ass. I am not saying this girl is an ass. Heck, maybe she was correct. Was it a little obsessive? I was just saying that maybe our friendship was not meant to be, if there even was one in the first place. I want to not care about people who don't care about me. I know this is probably a common problem people face, but I am trying to not put so much trust into people. People come and go. That's how life is.


Does anyone have similar experiences?

[Flapjack]

I have had very similar experiences:) I think it shows your a good person! I think caring about those that don't care about you is a trait that too few people have!:)

[Sublime Demonz]

I don't know many people who don't have this problem at least once in their lifetime. It's definitely happened to me, and it sucks. Over the years, I've tried to teach myself to care most for the ones who care for me, instead of wasting it on people who won't do the same for me no matter how much they have meant to me at the time. I can only hold on for so long if they're not.

[jamie_n5]

I care for others too and have gotten burnt a few times too so you aren't alone. I am not stopping caring about others either any time soon.

[Just JT]

I think for me, yeah I do have that happen. There aren't to many people in the world I don't care about. And I really want, I feel I need, people to like me, and care about me. It's an insecurity thing I got. And when you learn someone doesn't, it really sucks, it hurts, and is easy to internalize stuff.

But don't, cause shit happens...

[Dalcourt]

Well this story of yours really sounds weird.
But to answer your question.
If I like someone I care for them...if they also care for me I'm not sure and it doesn't bother me...if I like 'em I care for 'em period.
Usually I personally try not to become to attached to people and I try everything to make them not to become to attached to me. Due to my mental problems I distance myself suddenly from others cuz it's unbearable for me to be aroud people sometimes-hard to describe honestly.
But I do this to not hurt their feelings and make things like you described in your story happen if that makes sense.

[Cool Mojo]

Unfortunately I feel that I also get attached to people too much and too quickly.

[Lina756]

It shows how good you are emotionally.

[jake97aus]

Omg that feeling. I've had it way too many times, not something you can change really. Just shows you're a really caring and compassionate person! Also try not to let yourself get attached to people right away, give it time and see if they are actually worth your time

[kanye]

People like that aren't worth a single thought. Block them on everything and ignore them.