My boyfriend betrayed me..

[Supermeggs12]

Me and my boyfriend were sending each other intimate and private texts.. and he promised me he wouldn't save anything I sent him.. but he actually was. His parents told my parents he was saving everything because they went through his phone. His parents confiscated his phone, so I can't text him. I'm just feeling really hurt, confused and upset because he broke a promise.

[Cadanance00]

Yep. Promise is a promise specially about things like that. He broke your trust & you should be pissed at him.

[pconnor2001]

You may want to reconsider the relationship.

[Just JT]

Trust....funny thing about that....once you break it, you never get it back

[SethfromMI]

if you two agreed not to keep anything he shouldn't have. you have the right to be upset. perfectly normal and understandable. as far as if you want to trust him again, that is up to you. probably going to take time to figure out either way, but whatever you decide it is fine. if you want to forgive him and trust him again good. if you are not able to, that is perfectly understandable too

[Croconaw]

You should dump him if you hadn't already done so.

[kyrocks03]

It really amazes me to see that no one has mentioned that sending photos via any means is quite risky and against the law. Let this be a lesson to not do such a thing for all those thinking about it. It rarely ends well ... I have a few friends who's parents have gone through their phones at random times and have found such material. Never a good thing.

As for what to do with the boy, don't know. That's up to you, but it sounds like he's been banned from communicating with you anyway.

[Supermeggs12]

It really amazes me to see that no one has mentioned that sending photos via any means is quite risky and against the law. Let this be a lesson to not do such a thing for all those thinking about it. It rarely ends well ... I have a few friends who's parents have gone through their phones at random times and have found such material. Never a good thing.

As for what to do with the boy, don't know. That's up to you, but it sounds like he's been banned from communicating with you anyway.

We kinda go to the same school, so it would be hard for them to ban us from communicating..

I told him specifically not to save anything because I knew his parents would eventually find it if it were on his phone.... and look what happened.

[kyrocks03]

We kinda go to the same school, so it would be hard for them to ban us from communicating..

I told him specifically not to save anything because I knew his parents would eventually find it if it were on his phone.... and look what happened.

I can pretty much assure you that any boy would save what ever was sent ... future wank material ...

Your greater concern should be over how many other people have seen those pictures.

[ViceStar]

wow he is a jerk
i think that you should some how find a way to discover if he show it to anyone
and if he is
good luck finding new love.

[Supermeggs12]

I can pretty much assure you that any boy would save what ever was sent ... future wank material ...

Your greater concern should be over how many other people have seen those pictures.

As far as that goes... his parents went through his text messages to make sure he hadn't saved sent anything to anyone.

[Cadanance00]

As far as that goes... his parents went through his text messages to make sure he hadn't saved sent anything to anyone.

I think just chill for a while. If the pix didn't get out no harm done. I think his 'rents will make sure they're deleted. If you don't hear anything more about it soon, I don't think you ever will. "This too shall pass".

[Alex1s]

Idk if I would dump my boyfriend over that but I'd definitely be PISSED. It depends on your relationship and how much each of you are invested in it. Like if you're not really in that deep and you feel like you're sure you can't trust him again you're better off just leaving him as opposed to trying to save the relationship. It won't help now but when you send another nude to a guy you can pretty much just assume he's going to save it so be extremely selective when sending those out.

[Uniquemind]

Idk if I would dump my boyfriend over that but I'd definitely be PISSED. It depends on your relationship and how much each of you are invested in it. Like if you're not really in that deep and you feel like you're sure you can't trust him again you're better off just leaving him as opposed to trying to save the relationship. It won't help now but when you send another nude to a guy you can pretty much just assume he's going to save it so be extremely selective when sending those out.

Isn't that why snapchat is popular?

Because it gives immediate feedback if they saved it or not?

[Alex1s]

Isn't that why snapchat is popular?

Because it gives immediate feedback if they saved it or not?

I'm generally opposed to sending nudes out because I know for a fact they're like trading cards for boys. :mad:

But you're right if you're going to do it go through snapchat.

[Uniquemind]

I'm generally opposed to sending nudes out because I know for a fact they're like trading cards for boys. :mad:

But you're right if you're going to do it go through snapchat.

There was a school in my area that literally had a scandal where nudes were produced and traded like drugs and trading cards which spanned from junior high, to high school.

It's bad, and the laws are bad because technically according to the law, all involved are sex offenders now for life and producers and recipients of child pornography.

It's bad....very very bad, and it's personally why I don't sext. Maybe when I'm an adult and successful with a spouse I might do some self-media recording but...until then...nope.

[AceOfHearts]

Me and my boyfriend were sending each other intimate and private texts.. and he promised me he wouldn't save anything I sent him.. but he actually was. His parents told my parents he was saving everything because they went through his phone. His parents confiscated his phone, so I can't text him. I'm just feeling really hurt, confused and upset because he broke a promise.

There really is only one logical explanation. You must tear out his heart and sell it to Satan.
OK, on all seriousness. He did break a promise. But you need to find out why. If he was doing it for a bad reason like to show his friends or to laugh at you than I wouldn't stay on the relationship. But I doubt he was doing it in that way. I think he might have just saved them for sexy memories with his partner. You have every right to feel betrayed and upset. But once you've calmed down you need to find out why he did it. I hope this help. Good luck 😊

[BlackParadePixie]

this is why girls should never take or send these kind of pics.

[Uniquemind]

I'm generally opposed to sending nudes out because I know for a fact they're like trading cards for boys. :mad:

But you're right if you're going to do it go through snapchat.

Oh let me add that from what I learned, it's not just boys, it's girls too because it's potential blackmail and gossip fodder to use as social leveraging.

It's a power game, everything about human politics and corporate America, is learned in school hallways.

This is the answer to the question we had as children "why can't everybody get along?" This is why.

[Croconaw]

There really is only one logical explanation. You must tear out his heart and sell it to Satan.
OK, on all seriousness. He did break a promise. But you need to find out why. If he was doing it for a bad reason like to show his friends or to laugh at you than I wouldn't stay on the relationship. But I doubt he was doing it in that way. I think he might have just saved them for sexy memories with his partner. You have every right to feel betrayed and upset. But once you've calmed down you need to find out why he did it. I hope this help. Good luck 😊
This would be the more mature route. You do have to talk about it, but he also lied to you. He said he would delete them. That would piss me off.

[Supermeggs12]

There really is only one logical explanation. You must tear out his heart and sell it to Satan.
OK, on all seriousness. He did break a promise. But you need to find out why. If he was doing it for a bad reason like to show his friends or to laugh at you than I wouldn't stay on the relationship. But I doubt he was doing it in that way. I think he might have just saved them for sexy memories with his partner. You have every right to feel betrayed and upset. But once you've calmed down you need to find out why he did it. I hope this help. Good luck 😊

Haha, thank you.

[DoodleSnap]

It's fair to be upset, but it's good to talk things through. A good relationship is based on honesty and good communication, so it's up to you whether to talk about it or not, because he broke your trust.

[Just JT]

Personally, when in a relationship like that, it's close and intimate obviously. And that's built on trust. He promised he would delete them, and he didn't. Regardless of the reason or intentions, he lied to you, and kept them, as far as you know. I hope he did not share them. Makes it even worse, possibly illegal.

If it happened to me, I just couldn't trust him anymore, and if that's true, why stay with someone you can't trust. I'd always be thinking what else is he lying about or hiding from me. He violated a trust that just can't be broken imo

[Supermeggs12]

Personally, when in a relationship like that, it's close and intimate obviously. And that's built on trust. He promised he would delete them, and he didn't. Regardless of the reason or intentions, he lied to you, and kept them, as far as you know. I hope he did not share them. Makes it even worse, possibly illegal.

If it happened to me, I just couldn't trust him anymore, and if that's true, why stay with someone you can't trust. I'd always be thinking what else is he lying about or hiding from me. He violated a trust that just can't be broken imo

Well, after this, I'd never send him photos again. But I wouldn't say he's lost my trust completely.

You do have a point, though.

[Cadanance00]

... I wouldn't say he's lost my trust completely.

I don't know why not. I wouldn't want my nekkid body all over school.

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: