"Flat chested" girl

[Cadanance00]

I don't mean like titlettes or microboobs. I mean like not there.

This is like a totally cool girl that likes music like Coldplay and plays cello & wants to go camping and ride horses. But I know she's self conscientious about it. I'm sure it's going to be the elephant in the room but how do I deal with it when it comes up? I'm not a tit man, so it really doesn't matter at all to me but I want her to know I'm not disappointed in the least that she doesn't have D cups. My sis says she's self conscious about it and sensitive so how do I deal with it with her. I mean I'm going to like getting my hands inside her shirt just like any other girl, so how do I let her know it's alright? I mean I don't care. I like her the way she is so how do I let her know I don't expect her to have thunder jugs to be a hot girl?

[Flapjack]

Maybe tell her she's beautiful? That it's not a big deal? Because it really isn't a big deal.
I like her the way she is so how do I let her know I don't expect her to have thunder jugs to be a hot girl?
Wtf dude.... That's your sister! You bringing it up is probably making her feel self conscious.

[Cadanance00]

Maybe tell her she's beautiful? That it's not a big deal? Because it really isn't a big deal.

Wtf dude.... That's your sister! You bringing it up is probably making her feel self conscious.

No, it's not my sis. It's her friend.

[Leprous]

What I do find weird is that you're 15 and pretty much only thinking about touching her boobs. Honestly you seem way too young to constantly be having sex. I've seen your other posts aswell and yeah well it's my opinion.

To me it seems like you date girls just to have sex with them, but that's just my opinion here.

[jamie_n5]

Just go about asking her out and be a normal dating thing. After you are going out then you can tell her how much you care about her and tell her how beautiful she is. You don't need to ever talk about the boob thing unless she initiates conversation about it. Also you are both 15 I assume and maybe she is a late bloomer and her breasts may still grow bigger.

[Flapjack]

No, it's not my sis. It's her friend.
Then why are you getting involved with what she thinks of her boobs? I don't think it is very appropriate tbh.

[Cadanance00]

Because. I . Want. To. Ask. Her. Out.

[Flapjack]

Because. I . Want. To. Ask. Her. Out.
Just because you want to does not make it appropriate.

[Leprous]

Because. I . Want. To. Ask. Her. Out.

Well then do it. If you're just getting pissed over the advice of someone acting all immature then fine do whatever the fuck you want.

Look if you make a thread asking for advice then don't get pissed at someone who does not share your opinion on the topic okay? Thanks.

[kevenity]

I think it's a good thing that you want to raise up someone who is self conscious about themseleves and make them feel actually good. THOUGH you shouldn't bring up the issue about her breasts bc does she know that you know she is self conscious about it? I wouldn't talk about it unless she brings it up. Just let her know you like her and think she's beautiful so she can figure out herself it isn't a problem at all. Just think before you take on the situation, don't be an idiot and say something you should not. take it slowly and let her be comfortable with herself before you want anything, including sex.

[lliam]

Ask yourself, if she really want to be touched there and if you can handle it not touching her boobs, if she isn't comfortable with to be touched there.

So, if she doesn't like it, let it be. Don't force things.

[Uniquemind]

This is one of those situations you just don't bring up or force.

In fact it is a warning sign she lacks the mental confidence to hold a relationship, because she has a lot of self-doubt.

Confidence levels in oneself, can be the foundation of a relationship's future success or failure. In my opinion the relationships that last have less drama stemming from foundational issues (feelings) where one or both are prone to developing insecurity and jealousy issues.

She has to come to you about her self-consciousness about it, THEN and only then can you address it verbally that it doesn't matter. I even recommend letting actions speak louder than words, the only words you should drop are "it doesn't matter to me" if she brings it up and leave it at that. Don't embellish further.

[Vilnius]

So you're just at a point where you want to ask her out? It doesn't sound like you are very close to her. Why are you so concerned about talking about her breasts? That's very weird.

[Alex1s]

I'm on the small side too in the boob department. I can honestly say it's never been an issue. Guys have still told me they like them and I've never once thought like omg are they being sarcastic??? If I were you I wouldn't mention anything beyond just telling her you like them after you touch or see them the first time. Just don't exaggerate and tell her you love her huge jugs lol. If you like her ask her out.

[Cadanance00]

If you like her ask her out.

We're going out tonite!

[Just JT]

I'm glad you asked her out, kinda solve part of the dilemma. I think Jamie_n wait it best personally

But also, kinda along what others are saying, if you really like her, then 1) it should t matter at all 2) why even bring it up at all? Even with your sis? Just let it go and let it come up in natures course. She'll let you know in her own way, when she's ready, and how she wants to. 3) what makes you think she'll even let you put your hands down her short?

Not saying it's all bad, but thinking about some of the stuff your saying, might make someone think you have other intentions

To some other posters....what's wrong with a 15 year old having sex? I'm 15, I have sex, and it's great. I don't think it's right to categorically say it's wrong cause he's 15

[ethan-s]

I think don't say anything. If you are dating her it sends the message that you like the way she looks, which means you are fine with the you-knows.

EDIT: didnt see above post. Sorry about that.

[Cadanance00]

I think don't say anything. If you are dating her it sends the message that you like the way she looks, which means you are fine with the you-knows.

EDIT: didnt see above post. Sorry about that.

There were actually two posts. Me and Clara sniping at each other, which we do. There are no hard feelings but the mod felt like it didn't belong here.