Bigger is painful??(help)

[Finalkidz]

Ok so I dated this one dude :wub: :P for a year and we've had sex multiple times,but we broke up and the last time I had sex with him was in May I think. So recently there's this dude I'm talking to has a larger penis in girth maybe length too. So we were about to have sex and he put on a condom and put the head in (Sorry if that was little graphic) but then I got this horrible pain and I told him to stop....and found alternatives. So my question is it because I don't have sex and I'm too tight or could there be any other reason??? :what: :what: and I'm a Lil sore hours later

[NZPerson]

Yeah often bigger is more painful but also you do losen up and get used to it so if you go slow and steady you can get used to it again.

[Second Chance]

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, and you are just not used to guys with big dicks. It just will take time for you both to get used to each other, and you will have to do some practice. You are going to need to use plenty of lube the next time you have sex with him, and you both have to build up to putting his dick in your butt. What I mean is that he should go really slowly, and anytime you experience pain he should back off. Especially since he is big as you describe he just will need to gradually work his way in. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and especially if you are relatively new to sex, then it's normal that you are tight down there. Don't get discouraged, and if your partner is a good person, then he will work with you and will be patient.

[curiousme]

Just ask the dude to go slower and maybe not as aggressive if that's how he likes it?

[Skylark]

Maybe you could try topping?

[jamie_n5]

Yeah often bigger is more painful but also you do losen up and get used to it so if you go slow and steady you can get used to it again.

I agree with Camo114. Also use plenty of lube.

[volleyballer13]

lube and taking time to make sure you are stretched out is always good!

[logan4sho]

Ok so I dated this one dude :wub: :P for a year and we've had sex multiple times,but we broke up and the last time I had sex with him was in May I think. So recently there's this dude I'm talking to has a larger penis in girth maybe length too. So we were about to have sex and he put on a condom and put the head in (Sorry if that was little graphic) but then I got this horrible pain and I told him to stop....and found alternatives. So my question is it because I don't have sex and I'm too tight or could there be any other reason??? :what: :what: and I'm a Lil sore hours later

It's something you two should work on. It takes a few times to figure out how to accommodate a larger penis, especially thicker. But if you two love each other, you'll be patient and work together on it. And use lots of lube!!!!!!!!!

[kevenity]

lube is your best friend. you will need to do some foreplay too and not go immediately straight into it as that can cause pain. try loosening it up a little with fingers and make sure he goes slow as much as possible first and to not be so rough.

[Termina]

I was gonna say lube is your best friend but that's already been said. I just say ask him to go slower

[Vermilion]

Yep like other said lube you can't change his size

[zzzzzzzzzz]

practice lube and communication! Then bigger could be better!

[Dalcourt]

Yea going slow lots, of lube and preparation...loosening up using fingers ( or toys if you have those) Ya know carefully stretching and all that.

If if you do all these things 4i may not work out at the first try so still you nee to be patient and careful.

[Rockefeller]

Ok so I dated this one dude :wub: :P for a year and we've had sex multiple times,but we broke up and the last time I had sex with him was in May I think. So recently there's this dude I'm talking to has a larger penis in girth maybe length too. So we were about to have sex and he put on a condom and put the head in (Sorry if that was little graphic) but then I got this horrible pain and I told him to stop....and found alternatives. So my question is it because I don't have sex and I'm too tight or could there be any other reason??? :what: :what: and I'm a Lil sore hours later

As has been previously said, lots of lube & foreplay. How big is he, by the way?

[Slashman1]

use plenty of lube don't be afraid to use lots and the best way i have found is once the pain starts get off and give yourself a few minutes for the pain to go away then try again the second time always is better then the first try and just relax and get him to open you up some more before trying

[Biomicro]

Bigger is more painful cuz it make your butthole expand more bigger and bigger