Feeling inferior to my girlfriend

[Bruno77]

Last year my girlfriend suddenly got a really nice job, it can't be compared with mine, and that’s make me feel really small and inferior, last week she even bought a really large car, it was humiliating seeing her driving such a huge car while I'm still saving money for my license...

Now I only think about breaking up, its not my fault to felt like this. I'm studying everyday to get a better job but it will took some years to work, I just can't stand being with someone who I felt so insignificant...

The problem is I have no idea how to break up, I would be too humiliating to say the real reason and she wouldn't accept easily because she really likes me...

Is there something wrong with me to felt like that? How should I break-up?

[Flapjack]

Please do not break up with her buddy!! Be happy she is happy dating you despite the difference in your wealth!:)

[Tesserax]

Don't break up with her. She's got it going good, but she's with you and that's what matters. If she wants to stay with you despite the differences then that shows that she truly cares about you. If you truly care only about the status and image, then you should probably not be seeking a girlfriend because you're doing it for the wrong reasons...

But I do not with to insult you. I simply think you need to collect yourself and ask yourself properly, why are you in the relationship with her in the first place? And then ask yourself, why must you be doing better than your girlfriend? It's not a competition, it's a team. Tell her about your feelings, your insecurities, and she'll most likely help you to get over your problem. Tell her that you feel insignificant in comparison to her, just tell her how you truly feel, and then you'll see if she truly loves you or not, and if she does then you should keep her, because she'll be willing to help you through anything.

[Sailor Mars]

How do you feel inferior just because she has a nice job and nice car? Is she not allowed to have nice things and be with you? Or do you feel the need to one up her? Because if that's the case, maybe you should break up wth her and explain how she should get a better boyfriend that loves her with the accomplishments she has, and doesn't have the urge to feel superior to another. How bout you just feel happy for her and quit trying to make it competition? Like Yan Hearn said, a relationship is a team. You work together.

[Flapjack]

How do you feel inferior just because she has a nice job and nice car? Is she not allowed to have nice things and be with you? Or do you feel the need to one up her? Because if that's the case, maybe you should break up wth her and explain how she should get a better boyfriend that loves her with the accomplishments she has, and doesn't have the urge to feel superior to another. How bout you just feel happy for her and quit trying to make it competition? Like Yan Hearn said, a relationship is a team. You work together.
Wow that was well said!!! 10/10:D
:D

[Bruno77]

Thanks for the answers

It is not like she's not allowed to have nice things, it's not her fault, she didn't done anything wrong.

The problem is the way I feel and I just can't control it, I just can't see her the same way as before.

I'll wait some time before doing something, maybe I would feel better after some time.

But I just can't be with someone who makes me feel like this.

[jamie_n5]

Well unless you don't really care for her anymore I sure wouldn't break up with her. My mom makes way more than my dad and they have no problem with that. If you are studying to better yourself then you will eventually too. Sort through things and hang in there a while. If you do decide to break up then just tell her things aren't working out for you and you need to move on. Good luck.

[Microcosm]

The common relationship mechanic is that the dude is the provider for the girl. Perhaps there's a conflict there.

Then again, a relationship can be maintained without following the common mechanic.

[City Kid]

Depression, Loss, and Grief :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Croconaw]

You need to respect her for what she has. It's hard to find people like her, someone who does not care for wealth. She is still with you, which means she doesn't really care how poor you are. You shouldn't feel inferior to someone just because they have more money than you. You should be happy for her.

[Anonymous2002]

Last year my girlfriend suddenly got a really nice job, it can't be compared with mine, and that’s make me feel really small and inferior, last week she even bought a really large car, it was humiliating seeing her driving such a huge car while I'm still saving money for my license...

Now I only think about breaking up, its not my fault to felt like this. I'm studying everyday to get a better job but it will took some years to work, I just can't stand being with someone who I felt so insignificant...

The problem is I have no idea how to break up, I would be too humiliating to say the real reason and she wouldn't accept easily because she really likes me...

Is there something wrong with me to felt like that? How should I break-up?

why break up? she is probably trying to impress you, how would you feel if you tried so hard to get this and then she just left you...
if your un happy you are free to leave but just know you got a bigger dick then her and she will never beat you there

[Jane Eyre]

Thanks for the answers

It is not like she's not allowed to have nice things, it's not her fault, she didn't done anything wrong.

The problem is the way I feel and I just can't control it, I just can't see her the same way as before.

I'll wait some time before doing something, maybe I would feel better after some time.

But I just can't be with someone who makes me feel like this.

well, can you please explain how is 'having a car and a good job' a fault? she probably worked hard for herself and now, she's got what she deserves. instead of respecting her for her potential, you want to accuse her of making you feel inferior? love is not a competition dude, its about growing together. and if you are so inferior and self centered, why date someone 'superior' in the first place? you should probably break up and hope that she finds someone who respects her and allows her to grow, instead of trying to dominate her.