Dad and cancer.

[Vermilion]

So as many of you know I've posted before about my dad before about drinking. And how much it's effected my family. Now he has cancer. I'm so upset but can't think of anything else but is he going to start drinking again ? I love him to bit but the trust has been pushed and pushed. It's thyroid cancer but they think it has spread to his bones and there is something showing up on his chest for a test they did.

What the fuck do I do ? I want to cry but can't show how I feel to people. I want to drink and drink but that would be bad for me and not help.
Just fuck I'm 19 this month and he mite have the surgery 3 days before.

[SethfromMI]

oh Tom I am so sorry to hear that :( . def talk to someone man. talk to someone who can be there for you, to vent, to cry, to do what you need to do.

as for your dad, try your best to be there to support and love him as much as possible

[Phosphene]

I'm so sorry :( your dad needs you now more than ever, be there for him and show your love for him. Find someone you're close to whom you can confide your feelings to. Hang tough :hug3:

[Atlantis]

Ah Tom I feel so sorry for you and your family :(. You should never be afraid to show your emotions, sometimes crying and letting it all out will help you. Be at your dad's side, he needs you as much as you need him. It will be tough, but if you're strong things will get better. We are all here if you need someone to talk to, ok.

[Flapjack]

So as many of you know I've posted before about my dad before about drinking. And how much it's effected my family. Now he has cancer. I'm so upset but can't think of anything else but is he going to start drinking again ? I love him to bit but the trust has been pushed and pushed. It's thyroid cancer but they think it has spread to his bones and there is something showing up on his chest for a test they did.

What the fuck do I do ? I want to cry but can't show how I feel to people. I want to drink and drink but that would be bad for me and not help.
Just fuck I'm 19 this month and he mite have the surgery 3 days before.
If you want to cry then please do cry! Sometimes it feels good to let it out! I hope the surgery goes well for your father and please don't turn to drink yourself!!

[Just JT]

Tom I'm so sorry....I know there's not much me or anyone can do, but know. We are here bro ok?
Just be with dad for the time you got, it's hard, I know.....
Time is the most valuable thing in the world, and we all take it for granted

:hug:

Pm, kik, or email anytime of day you need to talk ok bro?

[Vermilion]

Thank you everyone Just JT TheFlapjack Attraction wholelottalove SethfromMI

Thank you for your support as stupid as it sounds if you get a spare minute on here message me, I don't like feeling I'm bothering people

[jamie_n5]

I am sorry to hear that about your dad. I would think that the cancer has scared the hell out of him enough that he will listen to his doctors and stick to the treatment they set up and realize that drinking again will just hamper the treatment he will undergo. I hope that you can find someone to vent to and let your feelings out to. You need to stay strong and be there for and support your dad. I hope things work out man.

[pjones]

man i'm so sorry to hear the news. i really hope things work out and know there are so many shoulders here for you to cry on if needed. don't be shy to shoot a message out when you need someone to talk to, about anything.

[Riley2015]

I'm really sorry to hear about this and i hope you are ok

[Vermilion]

Thank you Jamie_n pjones Riley2015

[Vermilion]

So an update he was due to have surgery on Monday to remove it. He went for a scan Tuesday evening at the hospital and the results came in today. It's not thyroid cancer it's another type of cancer. So this Wednesday coming the Dr's are going to have a meeting to see what's the next step

[Lodan]

Thanks for posting an update
Keep doing what you're doing :)

[Vermilion]

It's oesophageal cancer. Which is worse than thyroid :(

[Just JT]

Here we got a saying....Boston Strong, after the marathon bombings few years ago.
All I can say here is stay strong bro.....we're here for you, VT strong...:hug:

[Phosphene]

Here we got a saying....Boston Strong, after the marathon bombings few years ago.
All I can say here is stay strong bro.....we're here for you, VT strong...:hug:

Amen to this! We're here to support you, stay strong.

[Falcons_11]

I just read this and I wish the best for your dad. I know it's really hard for you and your family at this time. If I can help you please lean on me. Hang in there and stay strong.

[Vermilion]

Thanks for your replies it means a lot to me so from the bottom of my heart thank you.

Another update, dad when to the hospital today and spoke with the cancer nurse. The Dr's are still unsure if it's the thyroid or esophagus cancer. So in the dark about what it is. As a family our main concern now is that dad is drinking again. Yes it's only a glass of wine a night well that's what we have been told. But one drink leads to 2 and 2 leads to 3 and you get the point.

[Vermilion]

So an update not much but he had the hospital yesterday to have a camera down his throat and a sample of the area taken to be tested. We will know the results by the end of this week. Also the Dr's had a meeting Wednesday just gone however they are arguing over who does the surgery as were it is in in the middle of two teams the chest team and like below chest team. Any will keep posting thanks any who reads and for everyone's support

[Falcons_11]

I am hoping your dad get a good result from the tests. The doctors should be cooperating instead of arguing. I hope your dad recovers and the cancer is gone.

[Phosphene]

Arguing is careless, they're only wasting time. I pray your dad has a successful surgery, whoever ends up performing it.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

I hope that bthe doctors can help. Sorry for such a tough time.

[sqishy]

So as many of you know I've posted before about my dad before about drinking. And how much it's effected my family. Now he has cancer. I'm so upset but can't think of anything else but is he going to start drinking again ? I love him to bit but the trust has been pushed and pushed. It's thyroid cancer but they think it has spread to his bones and there is something showing up on his chest for a test they did.

What the fuck do I do ? I want to cry but can't show how I feel to people. I want to drink and drink but that would be bad for me and not help.
Just fuck I'm 19 this month and he mite have the surgery 3 days before.

I'm so sorry for not seeing this! I know I'm really late, I hope that the situation is stable and that the surgery will go well.

Talking helps so much, here on VT and for your friends and family offline too. Focusing on the present is not fair for me to say to you, because it's so hard to deal with loads of emotions and worries, but if you find something that will help you even a little bit to be in the moment, it will help. We all have the present day, and other people to talk to make the most of it, it makes us feel less alone when we need it.

I can half ramble I know, I offer virtual hugs.

[NatteDroom03]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope and pray that he'll pull through.

[Vermilion]

So update they did more tests they think they will treat it with radiation. Hopefully it will go well will keep updated when I know more

[Phosphene]

Good to hear they are making some progress on how to go about treatment, my thoughts and prayers are with him.

[Vermilion]

It's been confirmed it's esophagus cancer

[Just JT]

Your family is in my prayers tom
:hug:

[Phosphene]

Your family is in my prayers tom
:hug:

Same here, I'm hoping for the best.

[Falcons_11]

Oh Tom..like I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope the radiation will stop the spread of the cancer. You and all your family will be in my thoughts and prayers..Deepest sympathies.

[Nosuba]

I'm so sorry. I wish u the best. If u need help or support I am here. I really hope you dad beats cancer. :)

[katherine stpierre]

Wishing you the best. Fingers crossed