Ex and I want him back

[kyrocks03]

A few weeks ago my friend and I broke up. We had decided to be boyfriends, and I wrote about him previously here. Anyway, the reason I broke up with him, is he told me that he did oral with his cousin and I got insanely made and jealous and told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore. We went almost a week without speaking, and then he called me and was crying and said how sorry he was. I wasn't able to really accept his apology but we started talking again, and have hung out a bit, but nothing like before. I still really like him, but I can't get over the fact that he did what he did. I told him this, and he said it was stupid and that it was something that he had done several times before with him, but we had never discussed it. I don't know if this is a big deal or not, because we had never discussed being dedicated to each other, just being boyfriends. I don't know what to do, but I really want to fix things with him and make this work, but the jealousy part of me says no and I don't know if I can trust that he won't do it again when his cousin is around.

Any advice?

[Sports Boy]

If you didn't agree to be exclusive with each other then I think you should be a little more forgiving. I'm not saying what he did was right but I don't think you should end the relationship over it. I think you should talk about what you need from him if you continue in the relationship and he should tell you the same. Once you feel he can give you what you need, you need to trust him until he proves he's not trustworthy, which hopefully he never will. But if you like him, I think you should try again.
And btw, it's difficult to have a relationship with a jealous person, so if you overdo the jealousy thing, you may have problems in relationships.

[jamie_n5]

I think that you should forgive him. Then sit down with him and tell him that if you are going to be boyfriends then you both need to be true to each other with no sexual things with anyone else. That should set things straight with you two.

[DoodleSnap]

I think that the difficulty here is that you haven't defined boundaries with each other. The key to a good, healthy relationship is communication and honesty, so my advice is that you should both sit down and talk about how you both feel, and what you would like to happen in the future.

[SethfromMI]

If you two are going to be together, you need to sit down and talk about what you expect from each other and the boundaries of the relationship. As far as forgiving him, at the end of the day, only you will be able to decide if you will or won't. You will have to decide if you are able to trust him or not. I can't simply say just forgive, because for some people in a relationship, this type of thing would be hard to. people make mistakes though and often times learn from them. if you still really like him, sit down and talk with him about some of those things. try to make it work if you really still like/love him

[Flapjack]

I do not think you should forgive him buddy, if he loved you he would never even flirt with another guy!! If you will go back to him it is likely he will break your heart again, you will cry and break up with him again and then he will call you up wanting you back and it will repeat itself for years.

That being said, I understand your pain and just keeping it real if I was dating the girl I love..... she could literally shag every person on this planet and I still would not even consider dumping her.