What is going on??

[Just a Guy]

First of all I have a girlfriend and think I'm straight for the most part. And I really like my girlfriend and enjoy being with her but I do find guys attractive but like I like girls more.

Anyways I have a hot or not account just to mainly meet people and like talk to new people on the Internet Bc I just think it's fun, but yesterday I met this guy who was pretty cute and we started texting and instantly hit it off and we have really good like chemistry/get along really well or whatever you wanna call it, but like we talked nonstop for several hours and I really enjoy talking to him and when he had to go I really missed him and I can't stop thinking about him and idk like I've never felt this strong of an affection to someone this quickly and idk what is going on can someone like help me figure out my feelings? Lol

[SethfromMI]

these types of things take itme and sadly, while we can try to help you, in the end, only you will be able to know how you are truly feeling. It is clear you have some interest in this guy though, which may be an indication you are at least bi-curious (not that you have to label yourself, because you don't).

I would be cautious about pursuing something with him when you are dating already because that could be considered cheating if you try to take it to the next level (i.e. try to go out or do more with him as more than just friends).

it will take time for you to reflect on your feelings. keep talking to this guy if your just talking and try asking yourself if I am into guys the same way I am into girls (even if you do like girls more). sexuality is not a black and white thing so to speak, the spectrum is long and people don't just fall on one side or the other.

I guess you will have to see where this may take you.

[Just a Guy]

these types of things take itme and sadly, while we can try to help you, in the end, only you will be able to know how you are truly feeling. It is clear you have some interest in this guy though, which may be an indication you are at least bi-curious (not that you have to label yourself, because you don't).

I would be cautious about pursuing something with him when you are dating already because that could be considered cheating if you try to take it to the next level (i.e. try to go out or do more with him as more than just friends).

it will take time for you to reflect on your feelings. keep talking to this guy if your just talking and try asking yourself if I am into guys the same way I am into girls (even if you do like girls more). sexuality is not a black and white thing so to speak, the spectrum is long and people don't just fall on one side or the other.

I guess you will have to see where this may take you.

Thanks for the reply, I do think I'm at least bi curious I probably am a bit more than that lol but you're right labels don't matter lol do you think these feelings I have for him are actual or just like fleeting hormonal feelings? And should I act on them at all do u think?

[SethfromMI]

Thanks for the reply, I do think I'm at least bi curious I probably am a bit more than that lol but you're right labels don't matter lol do you think these feelings I have for him are actual or just like fleeting hormonal feelings? And should I act on them at all do u think?

well people do go through phases so it could be a phase. people are curious and want to act out on their curiosity so when the opportunity presents itself they might be excited because of that. or it could very easily be a attraction to guys.

as far as acting out on it, you are dating someone so my recommendation would be no. it is not fair to her. however, you got to make up those decisions on your own. I will respond sometime tomorrow to try to help you more.

[Zachary G]

Thanks for the reply, I do think I'm at least bi curious I probably am a bit more than that lol but you're right labels don't matter lol do you think these feelings I have for him are actual or just like fleeting hormonal feelings? And should I act on them at all do u think?

I agree with what Seth had to say, but I think the feelings you have right now are just hormonal -- I mean, you could just have a crush right now. As far as acting on those feelings, I wouldnt do so right now because you have a gf and that would be cheating, BUT I do suggest on waiting things out, see if you can pick up on how and what he feels then go from there. Good luck

[Just a Guy]

Thank you both, these were wise words

[ClaraWho]

Break up with your girlfriend, she deserves better if you're looking at other people as potential partners, then you should be single and clearly you do not love her.

~ Clara

[Tesserax]

Stick with your girlfriend, unfriend the guy, and delete your hot or not account if you want to stay with her. Otherwise break up. Don't play with people's hearts, don't let them think that you love them if you don't. If you really do you'll break off connections with the guy, and stop trying to meet new people even if it's just friendly, because that shit leads into more than just friendliness...