I don't know how to continue with this girl - Can you help me?

[Lukas1999]

First of all I want to excuse me for my english. It is not the best but I hope you can understand me. You have to know that I am german and so it is not really my native language.

I am not proud of being a single person and I want to change it next time. I was at my grandparents. My Grandma told me that she know a girl that likes me. It sounded like she wants to hook up me with this girl.

She is 13 years old and she knows me from carnival. I am doing some kind of entertainment, I am doing some speeches on carnival. I have surely seen her but I don't know her. The girls are wearing make up or so. That's the reason why I really want to know her. I have asked her for a for a meeting for three times. She didn't want to and said that she has no time. She actually had no time. She had to learn for school because she is not very good in school.

My grandma said that the girl wants to meet me in summer vocation.

This sounds great, but sometimes I don't know what she is thinking about me. When we chat she always writes "Ok". And she really waits with replying me. I always have to text her first. She didn't write first.

So. Where do I stand with this girl? What can I do?

I hope you can help me.

[Parth_11]

Buddy wait for your summer vacations.Maybe she can tell you that time what she thinks about you.And generally we boys have to text first.But once she is comfortable with she will definitely text u first.Have patience.:):):):)

[Lukas1999]

Yeah, i am still waiting for my summer vocations. They are going to start in two weeks.

I already wrote that I have asked her for a meeting. Everytime she said that she had no time. I am a little bit afraid that she could have no time again and that we never meet.

I have already texted with her today. We have talk a little bit about football. Germany played against Italy yesterday.

[Tesserax]

Sometimes girls are really shy/passive when it comes to talking, but are genuinely interested. This happened to me once and I decided to cut off connections, since I felt not very appreciated by her and thus decided to move onto somebody else. But that doesn't mean you have no hope. The girl probably genuinely likes you, she's just shy and busy and doesn't really know what to say, so feel free to give it a shot.

Also be careful about her age. A 3 year gap is a pretty big difference, so be very careful for the sake of both you and her. Besides that though, good luck, I hope all goes well :)

[Lukas1999]

Yes, I think girls are sometimes shy. But her are boys like me who are shy too. Yeah, when we chat I have the feeling that she likes me. She doesn't look like the other girls in my age I think. Her profile pictures are beautiful too.

Yes, I am careful about the age. First my grandma told me that she was 16. I was chatting with the girl and she asked for my age so I said i am 16 like her and she said that she is 13. We have talked about it and it is no problem for us.

[jamie_n5]

Well when summer vacation comes just talk to her and ask her to go out with you for lunch or something and you can talk then.

[Lukas1999]

yeah, I will talk to her and try my best. Thanks for giving advice.

[DoodleSnap]

I don't think that you should read into her replies and times for replying too much - it could mean anything. I must ask, is the age gap legal for you to be dating?

[Lukas1999]

We have talked about the age gap and it is ok for us. I thoght she was 16 because my grandma told me that thing.

As she asked for my age I told her "I am 16 like you".

She said: "No that is wrong. I am 13. Your grandma has told you something wrong."

She asked : "Is it ok or not?"

I said that this age difference is ok for me. It is ok for her too.

[rokyrok1]

Girls wants, that boys have a master word, first start talk and so on, but if is boy/girl shy, you can also start a conversation.

[Lukas1999]

In the last days I often started a chat with her. I think we understand each other well.
Two years ago I had a crush that thought I was a insistent person. A few days later she wrote an E-Mail and wrote that she doesn't want to have a relationship or something like that. In her opinion it would be better when we separate one another.

This was a really terrible experience I have made. So today I am very shy with writing first. But I am brave and continue with doing it.

Our vocations are starting next Friday so I want to ask her for a meeting.

How should I ask her?

[Lukas1999]

Can you help me again?

[Cadanance00]

You want to find out as much as you can about her so you can decide if you like her or not. The way to do that is ask questions, and not questions that can be answered yes or no. Like:
Who are the friends that you like?
What do you like in a person?
What kind of music do you like?
How do you feel about (anything)?
Where would you like to go on vacation?
What do you like about it?
What kind of clothes do you like?
What foods do you like?
Could you ever eat escargot? Why not?

You get the idea. It helps to make a list of those kinds of questions so you don't forget what to ask when you're talking to her. Most of all you want her to talk about herself.
~Caen

[Lukas1999]

Yeah, writing a list is a good idea. I will write one in the next days

[Lukas1999]

Today I have asked her for a meeting again. Today our summer vocations are starting.
She said hat she has no time but I think she doesn't want to meet me. Everytime I asked her she had no time. I don't ask her everyday, but I ask after a very long time.

At the moment I am really upset about the current situation. When she doesn't want to spend time with me, she can say it. It's ok.
I don't want to make me so much hopes.