Self love..?

[Laithreacht]

Hi there

I recently broke up with my girlifriend. She said I can't love her the right way so we can't have a healthy relationship.

Why? "because you don't love yourself" and that's right, I think she's right.

I still love her and I really believe in us,so I want to "recuparate" her and I think the first thing to do is... To learn to love myself. To stop to think I'm just a fucking failure. I'm already seeing a psychatrist but I think it's not our priority. So I need some advices !

Thank you for your answers :yes:

[Molam]

Hey there, from your wording you broke up with her, correct me if I'm wrong.
I personally always degrade myself as not being good enough for anything, or even for my current girlfriend. Thinking poorly of yourself is just a way to motivate you to get further in your life, it helps but don't think too poorly of yourself!
Most people say that learning to love yourself is selfish but it's only selfish when you don't love others as well!
Whenever I want to love myself I just go play videogames or go out to the mall alone. But yourself a few things, spoil yourself because nobody else will!
You seem to love this girl and have the confidence to love yourself but maybe you just need to loosen up a little bit. Go relax, play music and dance, it'll help you a lot.
Hope you can get back with the girl you love and that you're able to love yourself!
Hope this is of help as well! :)

[jamie_n5]

Well she is right. You truly do need to love yourself and have confidence in yourself too before you can love someone else. You will have to work on that and figure things out for yourself.

[ethan-s]

love is selfless. just saying. but, if you lack self confidents and all that, you have issues.